hurting still (25)
stent365dublin, Dublin Ireland3 Threads 3 Postshello all any advice i was with this girl for a litle oer 6months we were great together we were both happy,there was nothing ever wrong until one dat she said its not what she wants etc she use to doeing her own thing,its been 4 months now and we dont realy speak anymore but i heard shes been with two fellas already that didnt work out ,and now shes with somebody at the mo,i never done anything wrong and realy liked her ,any advice
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Im sorry you are hurting..its an awful feeling..somehow i dont think this girl was being honest with you and thats wrong..learn from this experience and move on..one day you will find you're true love..good luck..R.
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stent365: hello all any advice i was with this girl for a litle oer 6months we were great together we were both happy,there was nothing ever wrong until one dat she said its not what she wants etc she use to doeing her own thing,its been 4 months now and we dont realy speak anymore but i heard shes been with two fellas already that didnt work out ,and now shes with somebody at the mo,i never done anything wrong and realy liked her ,any advice
I agree with rescue, you are a good looking guy, why waste your time and emotions worrying about somebody who obviously isnt worrying about you - move on, the world is your oyster and there will be much better things waiting round the next corner - keep a positive head on and all will be fine
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i'm just going to get stress to comment on this, be right back
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trish123: I agree with rescue, you are a good looking guy, why waste your time and emotions worrying about somebody who obviously isnt worrying about you - move on, the world is your oyster and there will be much better things waiting round the next corner - keep a positive head on and all will be fine
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trish123: I agree with rescue, you are a good looking guy, why waste your time and emotions worrying about somebody who obviously isnt worrying about you - move on, the world is your oyster and there will be much better things waiting round the next corner - keep a positive head on and all will be fine
me too if she did this to you once with no explanation chances are she would do it again. Try to think positively and move on. 
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I had someone in my life last year who was a wonderful person and then one day out of the blue sent a dear john e mail saying he no longer wished a relatioship with me after 8 months of bliss, not so much as an arguement.......
I was hurt and confused and full of self recriminations, and wasn't sure what to do about it, but I figured that sometimes it's better to do nothing, because for any relationship to work, both people need to be fulfilled in themselves and if that is not the case, then it is never going to work anyway.
The ache took a while to go away, but eventually it did andyou know what? If I met him on a street today I wouldn't even ask him why he did it. In the end that was his choice to do with his life as we wanted and I just wasn't it.
It will get better. Getting out there and meeting new people helps.
I do feel for you though. It is tough. I hope you find someone worthy of you soon and then you will wonder why you were with this one in the first place.
I was hurt and confused and full of self recriminations, and wasn't sure what to do about it, but I figured that sometimes it's better to do nothing, because for any relationship to work, both people need to be fulfilled in themselves and if that is not the case, then it is never going to work anyway.
The ache took a while to go away, but eventually it did andyou know what? If I met him on a street today I wouldn't even ask him why he did it. In the end that was his choice to do with his life as we wanted and I just wasn't it.
It will get better. Getting out there and meeting new people helps.
I do feel for you though. It is tough. I hope you find someone worthy of you soon and then you will wonder why you were with this one in the first place.
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stent365: hello all any advice i was with this girl for a litle oer 6months we were great together we were both happy,there was nothing ever wrong until one dat she said its not what she wants etc she use to doeing her own thing,its been 4 months now and we dont realy speak anymore but i heard shes been with two fellas already that didnt work out ,and now shes with somebody at the mo,i never done anything wrong and realy liked her ,any advice
To go from seemingly great to nothing so dramatically and so quickly is a bit suspect in my book.. if there were issues, they should have been communicated to you and you should have been given the opportunity to do something about whatever it was, was the issue.. I hate to say this cause u are probably hurting.. but she seems like a bit of a messer or at the very least someone who is not very open and who doesn't know what she wants..
Best of luch.. you will get over this
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stent365: hello all any advice i was with this girl for a litle oer 6months we were great together we were both happy,there was nothing ever wrong until one dat she said its not what she wants etc she use to doeing her own thing,its been 4 months now and we dont realy speak anymore but i heard shes been with two fellas already that didnt work out ,and now shes with somebody at the mo,i never done anything wrong and realy liked her ,any advice
I am sorry that anyone has to go through this..It would be nice to
sit down and talk about what wasnt going right..and see if things
could have change or what you both could do to make it better...but
it happen this way and maybe for a reason..When ones gets hurt this
way its hard to trust again or let anyone in..with time it will get better..be with friends and try to move on...best of luck
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you ask or advice
i can only share what i have experienced
and it gives me strength
rejection is gods protection
just something to mull over
welcome
i can only share what i have experienced
and it gives me strength
rejection is gods protection
just something to mull over
welcome
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Sometimes people run away from the one thing that they truely desire in their life. It is because they fear their own failure; they think that it is too good to be true. They are waiting for the other shoe to fall (so to speak) To them, they think that it can't last. They come to believe that they will be the blame if things go wrong. In the end, they do what most fear, (end the relationship).
Look Stent365, it isn't you. You can't change anyone's mind. You could have given her the world and she was not in the right frame of mind to recieve that from you. Don't beat your head against the wall. Remember that you did everything possible to make her happy. Lastly remember that it was her lost. Stay positive!
Look Stent365, it isn't you. You can't change anyone's mind. You could have given her the world and she was not in the right frame of mind to recieve that from you. Don't beat your head against the wall. Remember that you did everything possible to make her happy. Lastly remember that it was her lost. Stay positive!
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stent365: hello all any advice i was with this girl for a litle oer 6months we were great together we were both happy,there was nothing ever wrong until one dat she said its not what she wants etc she use to doeing her own thing,its been 4 months now and we dont realy speak anymore but i heard shes been with two fellas already that didnt work out ,and now shes with somebody at the mo,i never done anything wrong and realy liked her ,any advice
Dear hurting Still,
It is clear you truly care about this girl, but her heart isn't into it. She is into the dumping them first before they dump her kind of syndrome right now. Since you can see that it is also happening to other guys, then rest assured it's not you or them. So your healing of your wounded heart should start soon rather than later.
You are good looking guy, so don't despair. Build up your self esteem.....go out with your buddies, and relax. When you least expect it, a nice lady will come along and sweep you off your feet.
Sign
I am no ANN Landers.
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stent365: hello all any advice i was with this girl for a litle oer 6months we were great together we were both happy,there was nothing ever wrong until one dat she said its not what she wants etc she use to doeing her own thing,its been 4 months now and we dont realy speak anymore but i heard shes been with two fellas already that didnt work out ,and now shes with somebody at the mo,i never done anything wrong and realy liked her ,any advice
im going through exactly the same thing...(he's from dublin by the way)
why not go out. have fun(at least try) cry if you have to(wink)
wallow if you have to...but then make a choice...wallow in self-pity and hurt or get up and make her see what she's missing...
Im sure she's a great girl but keep in mind you're also a great guy...so we have two great people who might be meant for someone else...
hang in there!!!
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My advice, get over your hurt before you try to start inflicting it on someone else.
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Unfortunatley feeling have too be felt on both sides in order for it to work. She obviously has different feeling than you do.
My advice is move on get out there and have some fun. Take one day at a time and slowly move on.
Break ups are never easy. But eventually the day come when they are simply a memory.
My advice is move on get out there and have some fun. Take one day at a time and slowly move on.
Break ups are never easy. But eventually the day come when they are simply a memory.
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alabamabebe: My advice, get over your hurt and try to start inflicting it on someone else.
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alabamabebe: My advice, get over your hurt before you try to start inflicting it on someone else.
Let's break out the Louisville Slugger!!!
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when seeking a lasting great relationship, pain and hurt is inevitable.
how else can we learn to apprieciate the nuances of relationships between people?
6 months is a drop in the bucket for a relationship.
to address the "we were great together we were both happy,there was nothing ever wrong until one dat she said its not what she wants etc ."
its a matter of not seeing the person as a whole. you were happy and it was great for you....just maybe. aybe mind you she gave what you two shared benefit of the doubt and after the breif 6 months she realized neither of you would have been happy in a long term situation,
respect the honesty she has shown you, and hope the others that follow her are as honest.
IT SUCKS... but 6 months compared to 6 years before discovery of the incompatibility... that makes you a fortunate man. 
how else can we learn to apprieciate the nuances of relationships between people?
6 months is a drop in the bucket for a relationship.
to address the "we were great together we were both happy,there was nothing ever wrong until one dat she said its not what she wants etc ."
its a matter of not seeing the person as a whole. you were happy and it was great for you....just maybe. aybe mind you she gave what you two shared benefit of the doubt and after the breif 6 months she realized neither of you would have been happy in a long term situation,
respect the honesty she has shown you, and hope the others that follow her are as honest.
IT SUCKS... but 6 months compared to 6 years before discovery of the incompatibility... that makes you a fortunate man.
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In a word.....NEXT!!
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shipoker55: In a word.....NEXT!!
Ship
Can you sum up most of life's experiences in one word?
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