The quickest way to get me turned on is to be a positive person and partner with the characteristics of respect, wonderful energy, a high level of integrity, caring and dedication. None of the things mentioned will work if the "partner" is negative, even if he hides it. Being an aware, sensitive, loving and dedicated individual is way hot.
Having said that, you do have a lot of really great ideas here for that person to try!
I hear that Hyland's brand "Calms Forte" ( a homeopathic combination) is good for helping people who grind their teeth at night. It should also help in getting a relaxed night's sleep.
I think the thing I am most concerned about with the genitically modified foods it that they can't be contained. . . the pollination issue. How can we possibly be sure our own homegrown, organic and heirloom plants don't get polluted? If the people who want to experiment could do so without putting others at risk and subjecting them to the same risks they are taking, I'd be less concerned. I am, however, very concerned about the lack of respect for others. Once this decision was made, there is no way to keep it separate from other non-modified food plants.
This is great information. Thank you. I have another book for some of you who are interested in this subject. It is by Brian L. Weiss MD and entitled Many Lives, Many Masters. In it he outlines a single case study of a woman who came to him for standard psychotherapy but did not progress. When, as a last resort, he regressed her, she unexpectedly began telling of past lives, many details of which were verifiable with public and historical records. Neither the practitioner or the client had the concept of past lives in their religious belief system at the time this occured so it stretched both of them. . . and helped the woman to heal her huge phobias.
I think it is important to be open to the possibility that our present religious/spiritual belief systems may hold only the barest beginning ideas of the wonder and positive ways of healing that are possible for us as humans.
I tend to use the great majority of complimentary/alternative medicine and I also feel that traditional western medicine has its place. Much of complimentary/alternative medicine is subtle and builds up the individual over time. What I like about many forms of comp/alt health is that they really are aimed at getting to the underlying cause of the presenting imbalance or dis-ease. Many of these forms of healing address the person in their many components such as physical, emotional, mental and spiritiual as well. All of us are a combination of these so all levels must be improved in order for a complete health to be present. To heal in this way is very, very empowering for the individual. Sometimes I believe there are methods of medicine currently in use that mask or delay the real healing.
One great example of this about myself is that during the last year two people moved out of my house. After they did, a longstanding hand injury I'd been having trouble healing up seemed to spontaneously heal. I am a musician and I was starting to think that I'd need to retire as I could not use my hand to play my violin at all. It was going on a couple years of this. I had utilized Western and complimentary methods of medicine to no avail. I did not realize the connection between the injury and the relationships until this happened. It was a good reminder to me to focus on placing myself in nuturing relationships instead of trying to hang in there endlessly trying to force things not in my control to work. Definitely this was about my emotionl, mental and physical state all combined.
Sometimes a person does need a diagnoostic tool or an emergency intervention which are two of the many good uses for Western medicine,in my opinion. I think there is a great fear about forms of medicine that cannot be proven scientifically. Still, many forms of our current medicines/methods are also still being proven, even if they are currently in use and FDA approved. I think it is important for each person to honor the forms they feel most drawn to. . . and maybe stay open to explore the possibility that many types of medicine are possible and effective.
I also vote to be honest about it. The possibilities are endless and what's wrong with thinking positive about starting to date? I know one good friend who moved from just finishing up with her divorce to being very serious with a guy she met on this site. Not to say everybody is ready for it. I wouldn't have been, personally, at least not that quickly. But the timing was right for her and she is a very level headed person. Now, almost a year later, they are engaged and very happy. Each person is so different.
I don't choose to believe that life is limited to the 89 or how ever long physical lives we get here. I do believe in an after life. For me, I do believe in other lifetimes. One life is too short to learn everything we need to to grow significantly closer to our highest potential as humans, I believe. I believe that the better we do and the more we learn to integrate positively, the more we draw good to ourselves and can help others. That's the other part of Karma. It comes back to us when we do anything, positive or negative. I liked the person's comment whi said it can also be called personal responsibility. . . and I think on the grandest scale.
Each faith has their own ideas of what happens to us as a result of positive or negative actions we choose in life. Some call it heaven, hell or purgatory. Some call it other lifetimes. I guess I just can't believe that anybody could stay ignorant forever and ever. What would be the point? Whatever the highest Power is in each person's religious tradition, surely that Power is the ultimate and perfect Teacher. We won't be left negative forever but taught over time. How long that probably is is up to each person's belief system. If I believed in only one life and no spiritual influence, I probably would ask the same question you are. It's not that I'm judging your opinion or that I can prove what I believe. For me,I just don't feel I need to have a debate over it. I'm the only one who needs to believe myself ultimately. That part is my responsibility.
I don't think we ever forget it. I don't ever forget my dad's birthday or anniversary and it's been over a decade since he made his transition. Once in a while I cry unexpectedly but I think that's just the honest emotion of missing him because I loved him. Mostly by now though I can think of him and talk about him without getting hooked into the feeling of such deep and overwhelming sadness as when it was newer.
I know I cried this year on the date that would have been my 25th wedding anniversary if he hadn't left the marriage a year ago. Of course that is a lot closer than my dad's passing. I had my friends keep me busy all day long just so I wouldn't waste my day in a pity pot.
I'm sending you lots of love and support. Remember that you have all sorts of spiritual assistance around you holding you and probably even more of them when you say a few prayers.
About 18 or 20 years ago I had this very strong feeling to get my master's egree. I had one young daughter at the time and really did not ever plan to go into my field again. I planned to stay home with her and decide later what I should do for a career. It is a good thing I listened to that feeling. . . here I am with only myself to rely on for a job and I'm mighty thankful that I have both a career that I am qualified in and love and a master's degree to help me out financially. I didn't know for many years that the direction to follow that inclination was a miracle, but this last year I have been recognizing that fact... and feeling thankful. I think it is a process to learn to listen to that small voice inside of us. I think it is from a much bigger source than I/we can ever imagine.. .a much bigger and better plan in store for us than we may be capable of imagining at any one time.
I agree with the others who have said lack of commitment and communication plus the other things mentioned. I also feel many people fail to work on themselves so they stay the same as years before. Both people should be growing up. . . individually and together. If neither of them or only one of them does personal work, at some point there will just plain be too much distance between them.
I started three new threads because I was so tired of looking at the lie daily: " most women are shallow". It would have been equally bad to write "most men are shallow".. Both are generalizations. If you are haveing a bad day, just please say how you are feeling, don't slam somebody else. I'm sorry you had a bad day and I hope you're feeling better now. YOu know, for days and days I came on this site hoping to find something positive and I see "Wisconsin Forum- Women are shallow'.. It did not imporve even one of the days I had where I needed just one positive thing from somebody else. I'm not trying to slam you, but it can bring somebody else down to see something like that.
Since good communication is core to every partnership relationship, to marry a person with whom I could not communicate on even the most basic level would be starting that relationship with a HUGE handicap. There are difficulties enough communicating even when both partners speak the same language.
I can't imagine why we would think that we on Earth are the only people anywhere. I can't imagine that the whole of existance is so small that beings (named various things by different peoples and religions throughout history) would not have been helping us, as a race, to progress.
Maybe you should honor your need to retreat to within yourself as long as you need to. Provided you are not feeling depressed and think you need some help in that regard, I think you will know when it is time to come out and seek more outside contact. Maybe more people should take time to spend getting to know themselves from the inside first. If you are going through an adjustment of any kind, more time is needed. This is part of a healthy process, I believe. Hang in there!
What are your favorite things to do outdoors in Wisconsin?
I love to garden, walk, do yardwork and be on or near bodies of water. I like to watch the animal life around me and to take photos. In winter I still like to walk and skating is so much fun.
I think it is most productive, pleasant and plain old polite to be positive in conversations and postings. Sometimes disagreements will occur, however there is no need to make any statements that slam one gender or the other, one race, religion or another's point of view. I will change the previous Wisconsin topic to say "both men and women have unlimited potential for deep relationships and conversations". We are here as a human race to grow, learn and do better as we learn better.
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RE: Ladies - Quickest way to get you turned on?
The quickest way to get me turned on is to be a positive person and partner with the characteristics of respect, wonderful energy, a high level of integrity, caring and dedication. None of the things mentioned will work if the "partner" is negative, even if he hides it. Being an aware, sensitive, loving and dedicated individual is way hot.Having said that, you do have a lot of really great ideas here for that person to try!