Sorry? I fail to see how gender enters into it. If I'm not free to express my opinion here just tell me and I'll remove myself. This thread was designed to try and help people avoid unnecessary pain, but if the truth is too painful then there's nothing to be done...
I'm sorry but you can't agree with much of what I said and then say what you did above.
The fact that your concern for how you are made to feel after doing for others shows that you don't understand what I'm saying so how can you agree with it?
Please...just think a little before you respond...take your mind off auto pilot and actually consider your thoughts. I feel sad for you that you believe that you are somehow required to feel pain in life...you may have bought that line of crap at some point in your life...but you didn't have to...it's a choice you made and there is a better one that you can make now.
Ok then...re-read my post and realize that the past and the future are one in the same as regards being happy. They are both used as distractions from the present. Then ask yourself why you feel you need to distract yourself from the present?
If you are happy now then you would naturally want that moment to last forever...the trick is to realize that happiness is timeless and exists in every moment which is now.
A heart that desires will always be vulnerable to suffering. Remember that your heart ships with everything it requires from the factory and that it's true purpose is to share it's inexhaustible supply of love and happiness.
It's when we get confused and begin to believe that our heart requires something from another source that we set ourselves up for disappointment and suffering...and deservedly so, as we've then become selfish beings...
Your heart was designed to send out goodness with no thought to where it's going or to whom...just a steady outward stream of love.
The person who understands what his heart is for has a heart that is incapable of being hurt...a heart that wants nothing can not be disappointed.
Those who complain about a broken heart have forgotten what the purpose of their heart is and deserve the pain as punishment for that transgression.
Really? Try re-reading your post a few times and see if you can know for certain where you are right now...and don't take the easy answer but dig a little deeper...if you are honest with yourself I think you'll find that you don't really know and that is the first step to knowing...
The past is dead...the future hasn't happened yet...if we dwell in either place it removes us from now...if we are not in the now then we are not living. When you live now then the only state you can be in is happiness...if you are not happy it is because you are not here but living either in the past or the future.
Happiness is not a place you go to or arrive at...it's an awareness...simply an awareness that you are happy...now. And if you can free yourself from the past or the future you will be in the present and only there will you be aware of your present state of mind.
Having done this you become aware that living in the past is a state of unhappiness due to the desire to repeat a good feeling you once had or change something that you felt you did wrong because you believe that this would make you happy...thus you are unhappy.
The future is a fantasy place where we will all become happy...thus we are not happy yet.
The past and the future are states of unhappiness...free yourself of those states and what remains is the state of happiness.
If I'm that careless with 400 dollars that I'd forget it in clothing...well then I either don't need it too bad or the person who finds it needed it more.
I wouldn't expect it back...and using that same principle...if it wasn't obvious who'd lost it...I'd have no qualms about keeping it.
The title of this thread is "tired of being a Victim"...well leaving under the circumstances you've described is the victims move. Tired of being a victim? then stay and fight for what you want.
Just remember that we never get angry at anyone but ourselves. We think that other people bother us but really they just show us something about ourselves that we don't like.
If something makes you angry or bothers you...see it as an opportunity to look into it and grow as a human being.
But don't make the mistake of not feeling your feelings as that leads to madness. If you're angry then be angry it doesn't last forever and feelings are meant to be felt, that's why we have them. Just make sure you think about the why...why does that make me angry...
Drinking is not the problem...addiction is only there to mask the problem. Quitting drinking will not solve her problem...but solving her problem will stop her from drinking.
Even if she quits drinking, but doesn't solve the real issue...then she'll either relapse or switch addictions.
Thank you for illuminating my point so clearly. Your comment brought me right back to the sandbox as I remembered little mikey saying something similar as we argued over whos SSP was faster.
Sorry to rain throughout the ages here...but...the people who believe in past lives are the ones who can't come to terms with their own mortality...believing in life after death(which is what is actually being discussed here)makes the thought of death so much easier. Doesn't it??
It's not the years that mean something...it's what you've done with them.
I can't count the number of older people I've encountered around the world that seemingly stopped growing emotionally after their first heartbreak. Usually sometime in their teens.
And then there's something to be said about regression...
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something all should know...
Clearly...