LadyPhoenix1965 Forum Posts (1,047)

RE: to the guys that send explicit messages to the ladies

The interesting irony is that not all women dislike it, and the ones who don't mind it, don't like it from all men. It's all in the delivery. You can't generalize the question anymore than you can generalize the genders....

RE: As a women would you travel alone to meet a guy

What's the point of going anywhere to meet someone, unless there is a chance that one would be willing to make a move down the line???? Seems to me, you have to look way ahead of yourself - and the relationship - for it to be worth spending any money. For my part, it's more than a safety risk, or a financial risk, it's a huge emotional risk....

RE: North East Ohio: Is there really a good place for a first date????

Have to agree on this one. I make it a point to only meet for coffee on the first date. No matter how great they are on paper or cyberspace or the phone, in person is a totally different thing. What if they have bad breath? It needs to be really low key, no promises, no demands, easy escape on both sides. No feelings hurt.

Now the SECOND date.... Ever go antiquing in Amish Country...???

RE: Does Love makes a person selfish...

On the contrary! True love is the absence of selfishness. One thinks only of the other person. Think of a mother's love for her child.... Two lovers in love go out of their way to please each other.

RE: SMELLING LIKE A ROSE

G'night, Scotland. Save me a seat at the pub.

RE: SMELLING LIKE A ROSE

I love seeing the serious side of truly good men!

RE: SMELLING LIKE A ROSE

Ooooo.... Hope it's a deep probing one...

RE: SMELLING LIKE A ROSE

And the true mark of humility is being able to admit fault to one of the children, and ask for their forgivenss. That has brought me closer to my kids.

RE: SMELLING LIKE A ROSE

Yes, I have children. And yes, if my girls found kind gentle men who were upstanding and they loved, and my girls were old enough to make a wise choice, who cares how old he is??? I'd rather see my girls with older kind and loving men than young, self absorbed, dolts. (Not to say that all young men are that way!) It's not about age, it's about compatibility.

RE: SMELLING LIKE A ROSE

How many real people do you suppose are actually on these websites to find something good and lasting? I'm one of those people. A thread like this strikes some people as being funny - and that's ok - but I try to see the message between the lines, between the jokes and sneers. Phoenix wants someone willing to be accountable in a relationship. SO DO I! How about you??? How many others want that too? How many are willing to be what it is they want...???

RE: SMELLING LIKE A ROSE

No Sir, I am not jesting, and I agree that there needs to be a balance between giving it all and taking it all. I spent many years blaming my ex for our marriage failure. And it's human nature to try to 'save face' in the midst of a confrontation. I'm learning to be a better person. What I have found is that, if you're with a reasonable person, and you humble yourself enough to be vulnerable and admit fault, they will generally do exactly the same. "No, no, no.... It was my fault... No, no, no, I was being selfish...." It's a new lesson for me, but it seems to be workding rather well.

RE: SMELLING LIKE A ROSE

I'm quite serious, My Scottish Friend, and I'll buy you another beer to prove it.

RE: SMELLING LIKE A ROSE

From one Phoenix to another:

I'm sorry. I'm sorry for everything I ever contributed to the perpetuation of negativity on this forum. I'm sorry to my children for not being a better mother, a better nurturer, a kinder person. I'm sorry to my ex husband for not being everything he needed, for not being a better lover, for not being a better friend. I take responsibility for my current situation, for my problems, for my lost friendships and my ruined relationships. I pray that God will help me be a better person.

Thanks. That felt truly good.

RE: Game playing

First contact always takes a HUGE amount of courage, no matter what the venue. Whenever I get a contact on a dating site from a man that doesn't seem to me to be a good match, I ALWAYS write back! I just feel like it's not fair to just ignore people. Which way is better?

RE: Game playing

Isn't it fascinating how we can all sit here and talk about the game and how ridiculous it is, and we all sound pretty normal, but when you get out there and start dating, the game still goes on. Can't we talk as openly in a new relationship as we do here...??? If now, why not?

RE: Holy woman wanted

OK, just wondering, how can a woman prove herself to be superior if she's under a vow of silence.....?????

RE: If I move to a Tropical Island How likely are you to Visit... ?

Tell you what, Handsome, how about if I turn the heat up to 85 and make us up a batch of margheritas.... Mansfield's not so far away...

RE: Bobcats (men 35+) asking for candy!!

GOOD ANSWER!!!

For now, think I'll just go for a little fun and frolicks...

RE: Bobcats (men 35+) asking for candy!!

Very good! You got me!

Drinks all round!

We need to lighten this up a little.

RE: Bobcats (men 35+) asking for candy!!

Can they be too young? I'm 44. I married a man 7 years younger, which was a mistake. Just broke up with a man 5 years younger. Another mistake. Do I go younger? Or older?

RE: Bobcats (men 35+) asking for candy!!

That was unfair, Jan, but don't let rude people dictate your choices for you.

RE: Bobcats (men 35+) asking for candy!!

Young and perky, old and flabby.... Why is it always distinguished that way? How about mature and experienced? Uninhibited? Adventurous.....

RE: Bobcats (men 35+) asking for candy!!

I'm a woman too, and I always was interested in older men. I had a thing for Kenny Rogers when I was in high school!

RE: Bobcats (men 35+) asking for candy!!

Flattery will get you EVERYWHERE!

I'm moving to Italy...

RE: Bobcats (men 35+) asking for candy!!

Thought I found love... Not so much...

RE: Bobcats (men 35+) asking for candy!!

PICK ME! PICK ME!

RE: why are women so pickie?

I'm gonna leave you two alone. This old grandma lady needs to go to bed.... Have fun, and be safe. OH! And like I always tell my daughter: Make good choices!

Good night.

RE: why are women so pickie?

See? There is no age gap when it comes to hot men.

RE: why are women so pickie?

I'm with you, Jacob!

RE: why are women so pickie?

I regret to inform you, I'm one of the nuts. Oh, yeah, I was also told this evening that I'm a man hater, cause I don't like it up the..... back door. Yeah, that's it.

Let's have a beer on that one!