Years ago there was a study done in an orphanage somewhere, Russia maybe. They split the babies into two groups. One group got only the absolute bare necessities: food, clothes, shelther... The other group got talked to, held, played with PLUS the necessities. As I recall, most of the babies in the first group got sick, some even died. The study proved that people need human contact. No man is an island, we need each other.
What happened to the banned mingler thread? Can you actually delete a thread? TELL ME HOW, TELL ME HOW... (Something must be done about the hunter thread... )
Welcome aboard, and thanks for writing. It's amazing to see all the people responding to you, obviously lurking in the background, reading but not writing. WHO KNEW!!??
One of the common complaints I hear is that women don't respond to emails. (Some men don't either.) It was a knee-jerk response, you know. I despise when people don't respond to me. Am I being a hypocrite?
Ok, so I just got an email from a local man. YAY! Right? Lives only 20 minutes away, HUGE bonus! Little bit younger, but you never know. So I open his mail. Wants to know if I would like to get together with him and watch him.... self satisfy.
You think??? Well, I'm just sayin', a present is nice, but for me, if someone takes the time to do the dishes and put the kids to bed, out of love for me, I'm putty... Acts of Service.
This conversation reminds me of a thread a few days ago talking about love languages. One person says a romantic gift is time, another says dinner, another says something else, all because we 'feel' love in different ways. A man can't have just one thing he does for all the women he dates, he needs to figure out what each woman appreciates most. Usually, that falls under one of five possible things:
1) Gifts - could be as big as a car or as small as a pebble on the beach, depending on the woman;
2) Time - could be a quick text or a weekend trip to NY;
3) Acts of service - could be pouring a cup of coffee just the way she likes it or building her that deck;
4) Words of Affirmation - could be just the daily 'I'm so blessed to have you in my life' or a love poem;
5) Physical Touch - could be anything from a touch on the shoulder as you pass by her chair or a full on back rub.
We all like all of these things, but the point is to find out which category makes her feel MOST loved. Or him.
I'm sorry you feel that way, Jan. Ironically, I personally can't stomach the idea of hunting. My strong opinions are really just because I see so many posts that attack people instead of issues. But you're right, I've gotten sucked into that part of the 'game' too in the last few posts. I apologize.
Thank you for confronting me on this with tact. Very classy.
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That's it. Back to the 'men are visual' thread, we just lost all the guys... 
Here's a virgin daiquiri. 
RE: i really need a girlfriend
Years ago there was a study done in an orphanage somewhere, Russia maybe. They split the babies into two groups. One group got only the absolute bare necessities: food, clothes, shelther... The other group got talked to, held, played with PLUS the necessities. As I recall, most of the babies in the first group got sick, some even died. The study proved that people need human contact. No man is an island, we need each other.