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Come on "baby"

This seems to be a problem I run into and it bothers me a bit...surely I can't be the only one who thinks this way. Please correct me if Im wrong....

I was raised in a strict household with four older sisters and no brothers, where some things just werent said. Being all girls we weren't in a household where "boys will be boys". Having two boys of my own, i had raised them to respect women and they now do.

With that being said, am I wrong to think its disrespectful for a man ....someone I hardly know, to say "damn, you're hot" or "sexy" .... Or to refer to me as baby, babe or cuti . Its one thing, if hes a good friend or boyfriend to be that forward to speak in that manner lightly because i know him well and its harmless because im familiar with the personality. But to practically be a stranger or mere acquaintance, wouldnt it be degrading? I feel like a candy in a candy store, rather than a human being with a personality and a brain. Then when i express that feeling of degradation i get an attitude as if i just flipped off a compliment. Not sure whos right in this sense and would like some other views lol is it just me?

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Well, I've gone and done it.....

The past few months with the mystery man was certainly bittersweet. The times spent together were absolutely amazing....had never been happier than in those moments cut short. I was treated like a queen when he was actually by my side. But to me, quality time is crucially important and sadly, one day every 1-2 weeks was just tearing me apart, for in those times apart I was always missing him. I do not blame him, he is a good man. No, hes not married....as i had gotten to know him better, i had seen his scheduled calendars, filled with work, studies for his bachelors exams, weight training, etc. Maybe he is married...but only to his work. He is very dedicated to everything he does. His wealthy career choice has ruined relationships in the past and i can understand how that would happen. However, i was willing to be patient....and i was. But with all that he has given to me, i feel that i just dont have enough to offer him in return and i feel as though I'm holding him back from his goals. I broke things off not because he had treated me poorly in any way, but because he deserves to be happy and i dont think im enough to fill those shoes. Money is certainly helpful, but it doesnt fill the void space that only love can occupy. And without love we are all just an empty shell merely existing with a masking smile. sigh sad flower
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Can we truly admit to our flaws?

I'm sure that every single one of us has our own flaws that keep us here, or at least keep us coming back. Other than the obvious enjoyment of socialization with our blogging peers, of course. Question is, are you willing to admit to your flaws? How long was your longest relation during this dating period? And when was the last longest relationship? What are our flaws that keep us single? Why things never work the way we want them to? Is the opposite gender always the one to blame in this dating scenario, or can you admit it's something you may be doing wrong. Are you too clingy? Maybe you're just a little hotheaded and sharp with the tongue. Are your standards set too high? Are you afraid of your own emotions when you feel any sort of attachment....do you run? What's keeping you from your happiness or are you truly happy just being alone.....though I personally don't see happiness in that..I had been there several years and it's a very lonely place to be. What keeps you single? snowed in blah flirty violin conversing

Me, personally.....I'm emotionally expressive. I will say how I feel, when I feel it. Some just cannot handle that....not to say that it's their fault, because it is, after all, one of my many flaws sigh .....I'm also very impatient...although I have all the patience in the world with people in general, I hate to wait because it drives me bonkers.lol playball rolling on the floor laughing wave
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Truth be told.....

Why are men such big babies? laugh
This is just an observation...I get into a car accident on my way home from business school one day, broke my knee cap in half and go to back to school the very next day....have a job, walking for miles on a daily basis, covering very large properties, break my leg and return just two weeks into the healing process.....if something needs to get done, i just do it, unless its physically impossible. I have a male friend, just cut his hand yesterday, doing dishes and had gotten 7 stitches...he didn't go into work (complaining of all the overtime he's missing) and stayed home in bed ...his teenage daughter also stayed home to take care of him. I text him, yesterday afternoon to see how he was doing and he got upset because i woke him while he was resting his hand and he tells me, "now I have to get up and go pick up my pain meds"...really, you have a cut on your and and its all stitched up...yes, take care of yer booboo, keep it clean but really, suck it up, buttercup and go back to work rolling on the floor laughing
...and then...the man that I'm seeing...when he gets a cold, oh my goodness, he thinks he's dying...he doesnt return to work until every symptom disappears and wont come see me during that same time for the same reason...he says he doesnt want to get me sick.. Oh dear, do you even realize that youre the most contagious within a few days before you even show those common cold symptoms? Men. rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing

Cuts and wounds will heal...everyone gets them.....colds come and go, fresh air will do ya some good. Get yer butt outta bed and keep yourself motivated. Trust me, you'll live.....the world is not coming to an end. rolling on the floor laughing

Just a little light humor with some added truths, no need to get yer tightie whities in a bunch giggle

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We are all human

No one better than the other....just different.

Not one man or woman without their own flaws.

What makes up our own individuality is how we respond to these imperfections within ourselves and towards others. We choose to be who we are even though we can't control the thoughts and views of others. Look outside the box a bit and have understanding of someone else's reasoning even though you may disagree. Its just a matter of respect towards another human being. Everyone has heart, you, yourself just have to use your own wit about you to find it...and only then will you have peace within yourself to accept an imperfect world and still be smiling.

Be good to eachother...no point in arguing an endless battle that can be won over by no one handshake hug lips
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Gramma's in an empty nest at 43

Every night wide awake, many times wondering how my kids are doing...

Only 43 and I have a 4 year old granddaughter and a grandson due in a few weeks...

Where did the time go?

My oldest son, now 22, travels the world on business trips...used to be trips to the park riding bmx, seeing what crazy stunt he could do next.

My daughter...almost 21 and working two jobs as a single mom...remember her always cramming her studies, stressing that she might get lower than an A- ...smart honor roll student, she was.

Oh and my youngest...only 15, but in high school...seems like just yesterday, I was worried about him crossing the street by himself to go to his friend's house.

All the chaos when they were little, running around...all the worrying..crazy family trips...I do miss it now.

Day in, day out... So quiet, can hear a pin drop. Its been a couple of years now and I'm still cooking enough for a family of four...I have to divvy it up in Tupperware to use the leftovers throughout the week.

I've been a mother since I was 21, entering adulthood...been mom so long, now what's my purpose? confused rolling on the floor laughing

Seems a house was only a home when there was a family residing within. Now, its just an existence. I really need to find myself a hobby doh rolling on the floor laughing

Those with young children...or yet to have them....don't forget to enjoy every moment while they're young for it just slips away too fast before ya know it. joy cartwheel playball gotta go hmmm wave
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What am I missing?

Always the best friend
The one to put a smile on yer face when its been a bad day
The crutch during a breakup
The one to vent to when someone makes ya angry
The one who listens and understands
But...
What am I missing?
Funny how the good souls are the most alone
Am I not strong enough? Or am I too strong?
Am I not attractive enough?
Am I too old?
Am I just plain awkward?
Am I boring?
Is it because I'm not rich and successful....yet? laugh
Or...maybe its not me at all...maybe society has misplaced its values and the good souls are simply forgotten and swept under the rug. Makes me wish, at times, that I was born in a different century....where did I leave them ruby slippers, I dont belong here
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Weightloss

Since I left the blogs a few years back, I've lost a considerable amount of weight....as shown in my "before" photos below.. blushing uh oh rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing ...through daily biking of at least 8 miles a day and eliminating carbohydrates from the food I eat...I also steer clear of processed foods that are frozen or packaged in boxes or cans, everything I eat is fresh. Im not getting any younger so I take care of what I do have today....usage of Noxema for over 20 years has drastically delayed the wrinkles for me, as I'm over 40 and have very few. Anyone else have any of their own ideas they use to keep their youth? Or any stories of self improvement? Or tips for weightloss, excercise, eating healthy or health in general? Inquiring minds want to know dunno conversing yay kiss wave

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Two Left Feet

So....I've met up with my mystery man yet again...I haven't drank a drop of alcohol in years....not because of any alcoholism issues, but only because I like to always be clear headed. Well....last night, not so much drinking drinking rolling on the floor laughing He had taken me out to a local club where I enjoy singing..ohh my, I think I mixed up every single song I did, was definitely comical lol....and I've told this mystery man a million times, I can't dance....I have two left feet. He finally told me last night, he didn't know what that meant...still getting used to some American expressions laugh laugh ....I've been asked numerous times at this club to dance but I refuse because I'm just horrid on my feet...but last night, we danced. And I will say this, I think it's one step in the right direction towards curing my case of two left feet. There was just him and the music....wasn't sure if it was the alcohol making my head spin, or the company love love drinking wine dancing laugh
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Mystery Man

He walks in and out of my life, this mystery man... what else shall I call him? Tall dark and handsome business man, with a deep Arabic accent...yes, he is from Egypt. So very smart and charming. Treats me like his queen when we're together.....be it alone or in public with friends. He never hides me, rather takes pride in being by my side. Says, "I don't want to leave you alone" ....He's always so full of surprises, thinking up new ways to make me smile. The passion is unforgettable, assertive, inevitable. He never fails to make me laugh with our little inside jokes. He has captured my heart in such a way, I never thought possible. ....I just want him by my side.

But when he's not with me, he remains distant. Days, sometimes weeks go by...no communication, no texts, no calls, nothing. He says it's his work that keeps him busy....and his dedicated workouts at the gym. I have never visited his home....is there someone else?

Other men, possibly wonderful people have taken interest in me, but I've pushed them away, isolated myself. Couldn't stray if I tried. Days go by, I'm left with nothing but a mere memory of our last encounter. Saddened because he has left me alone.... weeks go by...I hear his voice, the butterflies are in my stomach all over again....of course I'm just overjoyed because I can see his sweet face again...but every time he returns, I know, deep down, it's only for a little while....until he's gone again, without a trace. I want to tell him I love him, but for some mysterious reason....I don't think it will ever happen.

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Imagine that .....

It has been what....3...4 years, maybe? And yes, I have returned. I have missed many of you here.

Please tell me...how have you been? Any crucial milestones? Exciting lifetime events?

I've actually missed the blogs, bloggers and blogettes lol

Some of you may remember me, some new faces too.....I'm looking forward to interacting with all of you once again :-)

~Red
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