Well, I've gone and done it.....

The past few months with the mystery man was certainly bittersweet. The times spent together were absolutely amazing....had never been happier than in those moments cut short. I was treated like a queen when he was actually by my side. But to me, quality time is crucially important and sadly, one day every 1-2 weeks was just tearing me apart, for in those times apart I was always missing him. I do not blame him, he is a good man. No, hes not married....as i had gotten to know him better, i had seen his scheduled calendars, filled with work, studies for his bachelors exams, weight training, etc. Maybe he is married...but only to his work. He is very dedicated to everything he does. His wealthy career choice has ruined relationships in the past and i can understand how that would happen. However, i was willing to be patient....and i was. But with all that he has given to me, i feel that i just dont have enough to offer him in return and i feel as though I'm holding him back from his goals. I broke things off not because he had treated me poorly in any way, but because he deserves to be happy and i dont think im enough to fill those shoes. Money is certainly helpful, but it doesnt fill the void space that only love can occupy. And without love we are all just an empty shell merely existing with a masking smile. sigh sad flower
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You'll probably have to do a lot worse in times to come.
No doubt about that, pat....good times as well as bad, come and go. Many decisions are difficult dunno conversing
I have broken off a couple of potentials because I felt I never had enough to offer.

Its hard, hey.
Thank you dream hug wave
Isn't it, though, track ....I've never before broken things off under these circumstances. Usually Ive always thought i was enough...but he was very different...offered up so much and expected so little. Even so, maybe because of this generosity, i felt he deserved more
Hi Enigma,

Maybe he was content in just 'you'...?

...but I'm sure you've thought it through and that was a selfless act on your part.... sad flower
He couldn't offer you enough...(time).....you did the right thing.....handshake
Berry...he said he was and expressed his gratitude for my patience. But I could see from my view that he was just doing everything to please me but i think it was really burdening him ...of course he wouldnt tell me that. He didn't want to let me down, I think. That's just the kind of person he is. Ill always be here for him...but i will let him carry on with whatever it is he needs to accomplish. Thank you handshake wave
I think so, cal.. Time together in a relationship is so important thumbs up handshake
He sounds like a nice guy....albeit busy with commitments...but leave the door ajar....men like that are hard to come by.

...and he obviously valued you in what you were able to give.

Sometimes, if we let go....and men are given space they are able to reassess and discover they don't want to lose someone special.

...but, in the meantime....just get on with your own life.

...and, yet who am I to offer advice? I am hopeless at relationships....laugh doh
Enigma, would this situation not have been a temporary thing?

wave
Berry....hes a wonderful soul...and with looks to match, ill be honest giggle and absolutely! Men like him are very hard to come by, I had even told him numerous times I had never met anyone like him...which is very true. Maybe he will miss me...I can hope. But, yes, he has my number...i will continue on with my own and focus on things here at home. But the soor is certainly ajar wine wink
Enigma...good for you....you're being wise about it....thumbs up wine
British....I don't plan for any relationship to be a temporary thing. If I choose someone, I choose a best friend, a lover, a confidant. I'm very selective for this reason. I don't go on dates with different people because I don't like juggling possibilities. Maybe I'm different than many in that sense, but its me...I just want one. wave
Thanks berry, I hope so thanks
Gee Enigma,

Is this the way you're breaking it off with me? blues

Just because I'm busy a lot?

Okay then. I unnerstand. I guess it's time for me to get drunk.. blasted drunk.. and I'm not even a drinker.

But for today I am. drinking drinking

okay, just kidding.. laugh

But sincerely, you have to do what you feel in your heart is right. I cannot say that I agree or disagree with what you did, but then I wasn't in that situation to know more. Only you and the guy knew the situation best.

Anyways, I wish you the best in all that you seek, in all that you do.. and always happiness to you everyday. hug
Lol robrt... I'm sorry it has to be this way but getting drunk is NOT the answer scold roll eyes rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing you will move on in good time lol


Thank ya dear wink bouquet
Enig,bouquet

"but because he deserves to be happy and i dont think im enough to fill those shoes."

This is exactly the reason why I want him to move on and forget about me...sigh
Crazy....unfortunately sometimes its just the right thing to do comfort bouquet
I am sorry to hear your story ,you are a beautiful girl as someone can pray to have hug comfort
Enigma you are wise and lovely, alas sometimes keeping oneself busy, busy,, is a commitment phobic. ~ Not saying in your case, but there are plenty of men who work, study and still put in the time, and you are worth more than waiting and being so understanding... I have a feeling that you were a lovely warm fire, and that he will miss the heat, and make more time for you.

If not I see it as his loss. Sorry ! I am just being truthful.
Either way, you have alot to offer and somebody who can give you the time that you deserve will come along.. bouquet
Enig,

Yes, agree with you there...and if it's meant to be then it's meant to be then it's meant to bebouquet
The glass slipper only fit on one foot!
Ali....thank you. You are kind bouquet
You're precisely right, crazy thumbs up wave
Calliope I think my foot's too big uh oh doh rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing
I think deep down you know you've done the right thing and that's all that matters rose
Yes diova.....not to say it doesn't hurt though wine
Enigma, you really know the meaning of Love..
I hope it doesn't hurt for too long and that you find someone willing to love as much as you have .
You deserve it.
Enigma you know true love, not just what's in it for you, but thinking of him, putting his needs first... the man who wins your heart, and can give you time too, will be the lucky man. Thanks for explaining his background to me. bouquet
I tend to fall for workaholics so I am very used to the empty spaces, and learned to fill them up my own way (mainly and increasingly with writing). On the other hand, none of my choices were as dashing and romantic when my turn in their busy diary came up! sigh
Legs..maybe its the independence in the men we fall for...this one in particular though was so very unique because of the dashing romantic side that ive never experienced...nor probably will again. Hes one in a million. I wish the best for you...its not an easy scenario to be in comfort wave
If he is one in million , if he is that good ,why your are broken with him lady Engi?laugh
Ali....because his goals and career take priority in his life right now...and with the way his life is and has been, may always be. But i am still here, if and when things would change if such be the case. Hes got my number wink
Engi
Good wishes for you hug
Thank you Ali...I'm going to need it laugh wave
Hi Enigma, sorry to hear that. hug It was obvious that you liked him. I don't get it tbh. If he is a complete workaholic, it will be very difficult for him to meet someone that will accept that. You offered him your acceptance of his way of living and that he was still able to have someone special in his life. There won't be too many people willing to put up with a situation like that. The patience you gave him is a lot to offer.

It is hard enough to meet someone you like and you even mentioned amazing - jeez, don't just throw something like this away! blues
Well, KNenagh...
I suppose its a bit too complicated to explain anymore than I already have. I could sense it in his voice..the look in his eyes...the guilt that he felt when hed be gone for so long...leaving me alone. I could see that it bothered him to have to make that choice to be distant...but he wanted me happy ...he was very happy with me....but his work is his livelihood. I made a choice that he has probably thought of but never acted upon because he couldnt hurt me. Maybe this explains it a little better dunno wave
Engi

I am sorry ,did he not have Goals ,Career and priorities when he been squeezing you? ..whatever ...it doesnt make sense to me ,hope you dont mind wine
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