Concupiscence

I have been thinking and that is one thing I surely shouldn't be doing. Because my thinking head likes to ask silly questions. That's why I rather prefer to mindlessly flirt around. grin

Anyways, I have been trying to figure out what the original sin was, and still not sure what it really was. But that should be another blog.

Somehow, I have crossed out Adam and Eve having sex being the original sin, as God commanded to, "be fruitful and multiply". In order to do that, they had to have sex. So sex didn't have anything to do with original sin.(Enlighten me if I am wrong. I only know what they taught me at school of the apple tree. grin )

I know religious people will say, only Marital sex is not sinful. Sex outside marriage is sinful. uh oh

Then I often wonder how marital sex is different from any other sex. confused

I would only agree marital sex is sacred, if the God fearing Married women spread their legs and just lie down on a fertile day, eyes wide shut, not wanting to lust their naked husbands' bodies, while their husbands somehow managed to plant their seed in them and exit. (Don't try to picture this, because it's too erotic to handle.laugh )

My point is, even holy sex is impossible to happen, without pleasuring the flesh of each other.grin

Then on the other hand, there are others saying having sex is different to making love, and making love is more rewarding. wow

Eric Fromm said, "The s*xual act without love never bridges the gap between two human beings, except momentarily." As much as I agree, I have to point out, there are times sex leading people to fall in love.

I also don't think, love alone can bridge the gap between two people to make love/have sex.

I think I whined enough to get to my point with useless gibberish. laugh

Bottom line is concupiscence, carnal desire, or lust is the main reason for having sex.

So the question is, why do we tend to either sanctify sex with marriage or justify sex with love ?
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When I don't know..

Please let me hear your opinions.

Is it right to add, Late Mr. So and so & Mrs. Cordially invites........

I am not sure. It doesn't sound right. It's a happy occasion. Do we have to bring up the sad situation that my daughter's father is no more? It's sad alright.

If I put only the couple's names, Miss abcd and Mr. Efgh cordially invite...

Do they sound like orphans?

I can hear some outside views on this matter.

No jokes please. This is serious.
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Thank you!bouquet
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# Trinity time.

s*xual misconduct/harassment against women; being grabbed by Vees, bums, b00bs or anything some men could get hold of was happening way before Weinstein happened or became news. If not since beginning of time, I think. moping

Then there was equal rights or women's rights or something. We have the same rights as men, what ever they are. But in some places women are still paid less for the same job, even though we don't take leave during pms nor while menstruating. laugh

Leave that aside, that's not my point.grin

Then came the # Me too.doh

And came # times up doh

I don't know how a hashtag can really change anything other than awareness. But what is awareness going to do if you don't know how to react in a situation if some men continue to be the pu**y grabbing type. dunno confused

We don't have to think we are weaker sex, and end up being victims.

We just have to know the weak point. yay



Happy Women's Day to all the CS women! bouquet hug

Lets learn to kick some wholy trinity.yay rolling on the floor laughing

PS. No offense intended to anyone who is a victim of s*xual misconduct or harassment. I understand the shell shock factor, which must have been the reason for being a victim in most cases.
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Offerings please!

I am starting a new Religion.
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All votive offerings, in form of anger, hatred, dispair, disappoint, failure, envy, anxiety, depression, pain should be left in the box, and you will be born new this instance.
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A  votive offering is one or more objects (in this case emotions)deposited, without the intention of recovery or use, in a sacred place. (professor according to Google)

You shall not covert the votive crown made of these negative emotions, and live in peace for ever till you die.
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What happens after death is not my concern, and so shall not be questioned.doh

I am not a God, so don't pray for any s*xual or other favours from me. I am just a human.

But this blog is sacred. laugh

Message in a bottle.

Imagine two scorpions in a bottle.

Neither will gain anything by attacking the other. Yet they will think attacking the other is the best form of defense or survival. Naturally, they will gain nothing but end up killing each other.doh

Similarly to scorpions we share a common space called earth.

Birth and death are the only two ends of a string we are tied with.

Between those two ends we are all given a short sentence called LIFE.

In life we all strive to gain happiness, security and peace while avoiding suffering, pain and anxiety.

But just like the Scorpions we have failed to transcend the artificial boundaries and mental barriers like colour, race, religion, nationality, sexuality etc; that are more divisive than uniting us as a race. Human race.peace



Throughout history humans have abused, violated and killed each other over these barriers and continue to do so.

Animals only act by instincts of survival and does not act through a sense of morality.doh

We distinguish ourselves civilised and most intelligent species on earth, but failing miserably to uphold and treasure our ethics, morals and intellect in our day to day relationships as dignified human beings.blues sigh frustrated

Wish you a peaceful week with lots of patience and tolerance.!!teddybear bouquet hug

I am blogging with my phone for the first time while waiting for something.doh grin Excuse me for any mistakes and not enough emoticons.laugh

I am off to another planet.
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Enjoy the ride....

Imagine you paint your old boat and decide to take it out on the lake, even though it’s a foggy day. As you steer through the fog, another boat slams into your boat damaging the new paint job.doh

Most of us will be furious why didn’t the person in the other boat watch where he was going? Just when we try to react in anger we realize that the other boat is actually an empty boat that is drifting. wow

Soon our anger disappears. innocent cool

(A Zen story)

In Life we often come across people and events like empty boats.uh oh roll eyes

Even if there was a person steering the other boat and he deliberately rammed our boat, his behavior had nothing to do with us and we have no control over his actions. What others do or say is done for their own reasons, and most of the time they don’t even know the reasons. They may be driven by unconscious forces of their own wounds and pains. blues blues


One thing we must always remember is that we only have control over our own boat and must not lose it. If we find it difficult to respond from an aware and empathetic place, we must always steer clear.

Ramming back at an empty boat will only ruin the paint bit more.!!!

doh doh doh

Wish you a blissful journey this day!!!!teddybear hug bouquet
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fabulously flawed....

Once a monk was assigned to build a brick wall. Being a monk, he had all the patience he needed for the job. He made sure every single brick was perfect, no matter how long it took.doh

Eventually, he completed his brick wall and stood back to admire it. It was only then that he noticed he’d missed two bricks. All the other bricks were nicely in line, but these two were inclined at an angle. They spoilt the whole wall. They ruined it. By then, the cement mortar was too hard for the bricks to be taken out, so he asked the abbot if he could knock the wall down and start over again or, even better, perhaps blow it up. The abbot said the wall had to stay. frustrated

When he showed the visitors around the monastery, he always tried to avoid taking them past his brick wall. He’d made a mess of it and he was very embarrassed. He hated anyone seeing it. hole

One day he was walking with a visitor and he saw the wall. “That’s a nice wall,” he casually remarked. “Sir,” he replied in surprise, “have you left your glasses in your car? Are you visually impaired? Can’t you see those two bad bricks which spoil the whole wall?” . The visitor replied, “Yes. I can see those two bad bricks. But I can see all the good bricks as well.” wow wow

For the first time the monk could see other bricks in that wall apart from the two bad bricks. Above, below, to the left and to the right of the bad bricks were good bricks, perfect bricks. Moreover, the perfect bricks were many more than the two bad bricks.cool

When our eyes would focus exclusively on minor mistakes, we become blind to everything else. That was why he couldn’t bear looking at that wall, or having others see it. That was why he wanted to destroy it. Now that he could see the good bricks, the wall didn’t look so bad after all. It was, as the visitor had said, “a nice brick wall.”uncertain

In truth, there are more good bricks, perfect bricks, but at times we just can’t see them. Instead, our eyes focus exclusively on the mistakes. The mistakes are all we see, they’re all we think are there— and so we want to destroy them. And sometimes, sadly, we do destroy a “very nice wall.” blues

How many of us end relationships because all we can see in others are “two bad bricks”? confused

How many of us become depressed , because all we can see in ourselves are “two bad bricks.”? frustrated

How many of us are afraid of opening ourselves to others, because we are afraid that the others will notice our “two bad bricks.”?uh oh

How many of us see only the bad bricks in others, when there are more good bricks than bad in them? dunno

We’ve all got our two or more bad bricks, but the perfect bricks, the good bricks in each one of us always outnumber the bad bricks. Once we learn to focus on good bricks, things start to look not so bad. Not only we can live at peace with ourselves, inclusive of our faults, but we can also enjoy living with others in harmony .hug cheers comfort

Nobody is perfect. We are all fabulously flawed. grin

I know I am imperfect. But I only read that word as I’mperfect. laugh rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing


Wish everyone a fabulous Day!!!! hug teddybear flirty
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Where is the love?

An ISIS member stopped the car of a christian couple, and asked them if they are Muslim or not?

The Christian man: I'm Muslim.

ISIS member: If you are a Muslim then recite a verse from Quran.
Christian man recited a verse from the Bible

ISIS member: Yeah! that was right, you are allowed to go.

"What a risk you took! Why did u tell him that we are Muslims? if he knew you are telling a lie he would have killed both of us" asked the wife when they got further.

"Do not worry! if they knew the Quran they would not kill innocents" Answered the Husband.

ISIS is not Islam, Terrorism has no religion. This is plain terrorism.





When we start to suffer from superiority, because of our nationality, colour of our skin, the religion we follow or any other invalid reason, our minds, hearts and eyes are totally shut for humility, equality, compassion and love.

If we take an eye for an eye the whole world will be blind. If the Muslims and Christians start killing each other, just looking at this chart what will be left of.




Hatred does not cease by hatred. But only with Love.

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Peace be with You all !!!!

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Containers and Content

This is an excerpt from a book I was reading. I just edited it a bit so that I won't attack any religion and added few of my own thoughts.

A local journalist asked me “What would you do, if someone took one of your Holy Books and flushed it down the toilet?”

Without hesitation I answered “Sir, if someone took a Holy Book and flushed it down the toilet, the first thing I would do is call a plumber!” doh


Then went further to explain that someone may blow up many statues, burn down temples, churches and mosques or kill believers or non believers, they may destroy all of this but I will never allow them to destroy my faith, my belief and who I am as a person.

You may flush a Holy Book down a toilet, but you will never flush forgiveness, peace love and compassion down a toilet.

The book is not the religion, nor the statue, the building or the priest. These are only “containers.”

What does the book teach us? What does the statue represent? What qualities are the priests supposed to embody? This is the “content”.

When we recognize the difference between the container and the contents, then we will preserve the contents even when the container is being destroyed.

We can print more books, build more temples and statues and even train more religious figures, but when we lose our love and respect for others and ourselves and replace it with violence, hatred, and intolerance then the whole religion has gone down the toilet.


Religion is what we make what it is. So let's not try to make our religion what is flushed down in a toilet.

Be the content. !!!!


Wishing everyone a peaceful week ahead!!!!
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A match made in heaven!!!

During a seminar, a woman asked," How do I know if I am with the right person?" confused

The speaker then noticed that there was a large man sitting next to her so he said, "It depends. Is that your partner?" In all seriousness, she answered "How do you know?" dunno

Here's the answer. professor

Every relationship has a cycle… In the beginning; you fall in love with your partner. You anticipate their calls, want their touch, and like their idiosyncrasies. Falling in love wasn't hard. In fact, it was a completely natural and spontaneous experience. You didn't have to DO anything. That's why it's called "falling" in love.
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People in love sometimes say, "I was swept off my feet."Picture the expression. It implies that you were just standing there; doing nothing, and then something happened TO YOU. doh grin

Falling in love is a passive and spontaneous experience. But after a few months or years of being together, the euphoria of love fades. It's a natural cycle of EVERY relationship. blues uncertain

Slowly but surely, phone calls become a bother (if they come at all), touch is not always welcome (when it happens), and your spouse's idiosyncrasies, instead of being cute, drive you nuts. The symptoms of this stage vary with every relationship; you will notice a dramatic difference between the initial stage when you were in love and a much duller or even angry subsequent stage. conversing very mad hug

At this point, you and/or your partner might start asking, "Am I with the right person?" And as you reflect on the euphoria of the love you once had, you may begin to desire that experience with someone else. This is when relationships breakdown.sigh moping

The key to succeeding in a relationship is NOT finding the right person; it's learning to love the person you found. heart beating

People blame their partners for their unhappiness and look outside for fulfillment. Extramarital fulfillment comes in all shapes and sizes.

Infidelity is the most common. But sometimes people turn to work, a hobby, friendship, excessive TV, or abusive substances. But the answer to this dilemma does NOT lie outside your relationship. It lies within it. wow wow

I'm not saying that you couldn't fall in love with someone else. You could. And TEMPORARILY you'd feel better. But you'd be in the same situation a few years later. scold comfort

Because...........

The key to succeeding in a Relationship is not finding the right person; it's learning to love the Person you found.

SUSTAINING love is not a passive or spontaneous experience. You have to work on it day in and day out. It takes time, effort, and energy. And most importantly, it demands WISDOM. You have to know WHAT TO DO to make it work. Make no mistake about it.

Love is NOT a mystery. There are specific things you can do (with or without your partner), Just as there are physical laws Of the universe (such as gravity), there are also laws for relationships. If you know how to apply these laws, the results are predictable.

Love is therefore a "DECISION". Not just a feeling.
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OMG!!! Why am I sharing relationship advice with singles????

doh doh doh

Ok, when you find the wrong partner you can still love him/her perfectly and try making it last.
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Wish everyone a blessed week!!!!!!teddybear hug bouquet
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How great thou are???

Greatest tragedies in human relationships are the inability and unwillingness to tolerate and accommodate views that are different.

We find comfort in those who agree with us, but personal growth occurs in situations where there are differences in views. professor

It is best to express our views regarding any matter, without the usage of harsh words written in anger to hurt other people's feelings.


Sometimes opinions others have of our views and actions may not be what we would like to hear. But if we listen to them, we often find some truth in their opinions. If we are prepared to change our ways and approaches there is always a chance for self improvement. idea

No one can hope to change the world by preaching a message of love while criticizing, blaming and publicly humiliating fellow humans.sigh sigh On the other hand if we can not deliver a Godly message in a gentle manner with respect to every living being, then we may sound like we are preaching some failed religion with a false prophet. uh oh uh oh

And it is not fair to lose temper when our faults are pointed out. Though we might think we can intimidate others by using foul language, to overlook our shortcomings, it exposes our weakness of inability to handle criticism. Foul language and anger are weak man's imitation of strength.grin


Having said that, we cannot remove all the stones and thorns so that the pathway be smooth. To feel comfortable, it is better to wear a pair of shoes instead. likewise, we should learn to guard our senses to have our peace of mind since we cannot succeed in removing all the disturbing objects from the world. uncertain uncertain

The mark of great people lie in how they face daily irritations with equanimity. grin grin grin

Wish You a Blessed Weekend!!!teddybear hug bouquet
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When you believe...

Once there was a General who was leading his army into battle against an enemy ten times the size of his own. roll eyes uh oh

Along the way to the battle field, the troops stopped by a small church to pray for victory.please please please

The general held up a coin and told his troops, "I am going to implore God to help us crush our enemy. If this coin lands with the heads on top, we'll win. If it's tails, we'll lose. Our fate is in the hands of the God. Let's pray wholeheartedly." choir choir

After a short prayer, the General tossed the coin. It landed with the heads on top. The troops were overjoyed and went into the battle with high morale. boxing boxing flex flex boxing boxing flex flex

Just as predicted, the General and his smaller army won the battle.
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The soldiers were exalted, "It's good to have God on our side! No one can change what he has determined." grin grin grin

"Really?" said the General, and showed them the coin which had heads on both sides.

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The moral of this story is......

1. Check the coin before you call tails.rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing

2. Numbers and size don't matter. wink

3. When you believe, somehow you will believe. thumbs up thumbs up

Wishing everyone a fabulous Wednesday and self belief!!!!hug teddybear bouquet
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