Still seeking my soulmate... next. Hmm, nope, next? Oh.. really? Next please!

Man... there is always something. I feel like I’ve been shagged by the first one, she said as much... the most recent, she digs me but like the first, has issues going on, ex boyfriend was abusive syndrome and is all conflicted... meanwhile, I’m bummed because I catch feelings ... particularly when they talk for hours and we have a blast, have great everything ... repeat dates... lots of em... the. There is some shoe that drops.

The most recent one is freaking awesome, but in recovery... thirteen stepping its called ... she is trying to not thirteen step, she has issues worse than mine ... both do actually, but I wasn’t thinking it was a red flag for either... but ex boyfriend syndrome, issues with recovery and can’t really hold their liquor and struggling with a dui... um.. she didn’t lie about a thing, but she got wonky when she started to feel love for me... she will be around, but I’m not looking to chase... see ya honey, I’m here... if you need moral support and stuff... cool... frankly she is kind of young for me... certainly has some issues that I hope she grows out of... but judge her? No way, she is pretty awesome flaws or not, friends for life... and I know she enjoys being with me... you can tell...

They both were conflicted with ex boyfriend baggage... the first one dug me enough for five dates, this last one over ten dates... and she didn’t call it off... she has needed tome before and comes back ... but... the hot cold hot cold.. I love you, want to shag you a lot followed with... this is getting too hot? Hmm... ok... here is some ice... that should help. Im moving on....

I just blasted all my dating logins too boot except here.

It wouldn’t be too bad, except, you can’t tell if they talked crap the whole time telling you what you wanted to hear to mess with you or are legitimately conflicted and slightly damaged goods and actually going through stuff... I can’t complain, we weren’t dating, she made moves, not me, caught feelings, passion, intimacy, going strong, catch feelings, tell me she is falling for me.. then cold feet after lots of that? Ok...

This isn’t me... I’m honest, god fearing, and my biggest crime god wise is not waiting until marriage to rock there world ... and this one, I was not even making moves, we were just hanging out... then she flipped the script... and she flipped it again... not after one time mind you... and every time we got frisky, she was The one to go from friends to benefits... and seconds, thirds, etc. lol..

Dam... well, I hear feedback from women... and so far, I have game and romance and they all seem to like me in the bedroom and think I’m intelligent, polite, not a d*ck basically and know how to love and treat a lady... but you know... I’ll jist keep my eyes open and meeting folks all over like I do...

My thing is monogamy ... and not major commitment, jist don’t screw any other dude if I’m your current tickle... that’s reasonable... lol. If I call you my lady, it means, I’m spoken for, you are spoken for... if that’s too much and you shag over and over and can’t commit to that bit... none said they wanted to go screw another... one shagged me, the other... jist got overwhelmed with her own feelings and she needs to regroup... whatever... sounds like a pain in the a** to deal with to me...

I have a simple dating philosophy... the bedroom is easy to master... it’s all that time you aren’t in bed that is the problem.... I prefer no drama ... can deal with quite a bit of drama, but not when my heart gets caught in their yo-yo of saying one thing, then back peddling the. saying it again, ... um... leading me on then Off on then off, more frisky, lots of lovey Dubby stuff and conversation, all is awesome, followed with the I dunno...

Well often these women call back, both did this hot cold hot cold thing over and over... next please... frustrated
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Relationships can be hard work. Everything is always wonderful right in the beginning. My rule of thumb is to go through all four seasons with a person before I let my heart engage.
Just because the younger one wants kids at some stage doesn't mean to say you will be the father. You only know her a few weeks. Anything could happen.

Plus, as you say you are an honest person, then let her know that you don't want to be a father again. That will allow her to go find a younger man who does want kids before you get too involved.
plenty fish in the sea Jegas. laugh
Just remember!!

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Jegas ~ very honest post as usual. Could I suggest [only a suggestion] you go into your local book store and buy one of those books that get to the point quickly.... about Al Anon. or better still, drive out of town and go to an al anon meeting. You don't have to speak but you will learn alot about being in a relationship with an alcoholic.
Why? Because many people who get clean, go through 12 step programmes and come out the other end very decent people, yes, they have some issues but don't we all ? and I am always wary of people who purport to have no problems and no baggage. We all do. She is finding her feet, and not that steady. IS she ready for a relationship at all ?

If you care for her, be with her, AA people like it straight. Tell her how you feel but,should the relationship get deeper, you don't want kids. Be tender, and truthful like you are on here, on the blogs. She may be hurt but she will be very grateful for your honesty. Her obsession with an x is just part of the 'ism' .

Looking for a Soulmate is more fantascist, romanticist, than reality. It does exist but a watched kettle doesn't boil. You can't go looking for one, it either happens or it does. love Boy when it does, you will know.
I really wish you the best.

I had a Soulmate, they say you can have several, I d isagree. I wish her the very best but there are alot of dry drunks going around and the fact she is doing her best to stay dry, perhaps the odd slip, if you don't feel thats for you, get out now, before you hurt her. Sorry for sounding like mother hen.blah blah
Jegas ~ I just read your love life and I need a sedative or a drink
Lord Grant me the Serenity to accept the things I cannot do.
The Courage to do the things I can do
And the wisdom to know the difference. Say this daily. Whether you believe or not.

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