Argument

Ever felt like you’re losing out in arguments?

Well, get ready as I’m about to reveal 10 cool tips from psychology that can help you.
These are real techniques that anyone can learn and apply.
1. Understand the Other Person’s Perspective
The first and possibly most important psychological trick to get the upper hand in any argument is empathy.
Understanding their perspective doesn’t mean you have to agree with them, but it can help you see why they feel the way they do.
Ask yourself: “Why might they feel this way? What experiences or beliefs could be influencing their point of view?”
2. Stay Cool and Collected
Ever heard the saying, “keep your cool while others lose theirs”?
This is crucial when you’re in an argument.
If you lose your temper, you’re likely to say things you’ll regret later.
Deep breaths can help.
3. Use ‘I’ Statements Rather Than ‘You’ Statements
Here’s a simple yet powerful switch that can make all the difference in an argument. Instead of starting your sentences with ‘you’, which can come off as accusatory and put the other person on the defensive, use ‘I’ statements.
For example, instead of saying, “You never listen to me,” try saying, “I feel like I’m not being heard when I speak.”
4. Listen More Than You Speak
It might seem counterintuitive, but sometimes, the best way to win an argument is to listen more than you speak.
When we’re engaged in a heated discussion, our natural instinct is often to defend our position and make sure our voice is heard. But here’s the thing: If we’re too busy talking, we might miss out on understanding the other person’s point of view.
5. Seek to Understand, Not Just to Win
This one is more about your mindset going into an argument. If your sole aim is to win at all costs, you might end up winning the battle but losing the war. That’s because a victory won by bulldozing the other person can damage your relationship in the long run.
In essence, arguing doesn’t have to be a zero-sum game where one person wins and the other loses. Instead, it can be an opportunity for both parties to learn, grow and come to a mutual understanding.
6. Avoid Absolutes
When you’re in the heat of an argument, it’s easy to get carried away and start using absolute terms like “always” and “never.” But absolutes can make the other person feel attacked and defensive, which can escalate the argument instead of resolving it.
7. Admit When You’re Wrong
No one likes to be wrong. But let’s face it, we all mess up sometimes – it’s part of being human. The problem is, when we’re in an argument, our pride often gets in the way of admitting our mistakes. We dig in our heels and defend our stance, even when we know deep down that we’re in the wrong.
Here’s the truth: Stubbornly sticking to your guns when you’re clearly wrong doesn’t make you look strong or smart – it just makes you look, well, stubborn. And it won’t get you any closer to resolving the argument.
8. Use Silence Strategically
Silence is a powerful tool in an argument that many of us often overlook. When used correctly, it can shift the dynamics of the conversation and even put you in control.
When you’re silent, it forces the other person to fill the void, often causing them to reveal more about their thoughts and feelings. This can give you more insights into their perspective and provide you with valuable information that you can use to shape your arguments.
9. Focus on the Issue, Not the Person
In the heat of an argument, it can be easy to start attacking the person instead of addressing the real issue at hand.
But personal attacks only lead to hurt feelings and more conflict, not resolution.
10. Know When to Walk Away
Let’s be honest: not every argument is worth having.
Sometimes, the best thing you can do is to simply walk.Link: Mindful living