WAS IT SOMETHING I SAID?
How many times have you started talking to someone then all of a sudden (almost mid conversation) the person you were talking too disappears.I have received more than the usual amount of flowers and mails over the last week (most of them a one line question or just “Hi”) I reply as best I can, politely answering any question asked followed by a point or two of interest I have read from the persons profile. In most cases my reply is sufficiently interesting to initiate a response however after a couple more mails…. Nothing!
My profile says “talk/email/pen-pal” which means that unless you live on the same Island as me (or are coming here on holiday) all I can offer is some stimulating conversation if you are looking for something else then I am afraid I cannot help you so why do you waste my time and your own if you are not interested in chatting?
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I met a man for coffee about two weeks ago. I thought we hit it off extremely well in fact he kept telling me that he couldn't believe that he finally found someone who he really liked a lot and he couldn't wait to see me again. The next day he sent me these really sweet text messages saying things like: "I love your beautiful smile!" and "I hope you are having a great day!" and " can't wait to see you again!"...then two days later he seemed to drop off the face of the earth. He even canceled his profile. Gone, MIA , zip...no sign of him so I text "what happened?" and never got a reply.
I thought this type of bizarre behavior was just a "guy thing"
So a married man may have a two-day deadline to bag a cat, or lasso in a new filly. Then the wife returns with the kids, or the friend's apartment won't be available for a romantic get-together any longer.
This is especially transparent because the guy was 1. Genuinely nice, 2. knew how to express that in the languange of womanhood and 3. he even took off his profile when he broke up with you (at the same time, too.)
The sad truth is that married guys are more to the liking of women, than single guys. They are cleaner, more presentable, they shave every day. Don't downplay these features. Women are health- and cleanliness counscious. They are homemakers, healers, health providers to the family. Support. The guys go out to kill and bring home the kill. They can go for days in the bush without showering. In fact, they prefer to shower only once very few days.
Married guys have to compromise on these things. And they are better men than the single ones, right from the start: that's why they are not single.
And I`ll do it short!
I`m very proud that you adressed me the way you did! Thank you, because that mean you are a real woman with feelings way beyond my dreams!
Just remember this comment of mine could have been to anyone?
But thanks fore youre respond!
But as I said in my blog, probably safest as it is!
You make a good point, like you when I read profiles I tend to take them at face value as the site is perhaps not sufficiently flexible to explain better a persons circumstances. I am on this site to find a partner unfortunately I am unable to travel or re-locate so this limits my availability.
Now that you have brought this to my attention I shall change my profile to detail more precisely my situation and what I am looking for.
Thank you you have been most helpful.
My type of relationship in the profile is the same and I have similar experience as you do. I suppose that people just send same texts to many profiles and when they get replies they have a more detailed look at the profiles they messaged and make decisions which ones to continue corresponding with. When they get aware of the type of relationship you are looking for they don't like it and they don't send you any more letters.
I had lots of experiences with guys keeping corresponednce with me for awhile and then just stopping it. Without any explanations, and I see thier profiles stating that they are still on the site. Well, that can be very strange. Thinking about it, I have concluded that they must be enjoying it, kind of gives them impression that they are wanted, or something like that.
Well, there are all sorts of funny people.
In some instances I think there are people that stop writing because they realize that the person they are talking too is not interesting to them so they move on in their search. Unfortunately they do not have the courage to say "goodbye" they just stop writing.
Most people wouldn't consider re-locating or traveling just to see someone for a serious relationship, so even if your profile says "long-term" or "dating" 90% of the women would realise that you want that kind of relationship with some who lives in your country (at least I would think so)