suprflyboy
suprflyboy
cleveland, Ohio, USA
Jul 2011
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is it wrong to help out my ex-wife

my ex called me up and said..she needed help with the phone bill..and she dont have it... so... is it wrong to help her out...we have a kid together..and sometimes the kid stays with my ex...i have the money to help her and i will not go without...tell me what you thing out there
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Luminarius
Luminarius●San Sebastian, Puerto Rico
Jul 29, 2011●12 Blogs●51 Comments
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Well, what reasons would you have NOT to help her? I mean, so long as the divorce was civil, and you have a kid, I don't see anything wrong with a good deed every now and again. Then again, I'm only 25 and have never been married, so maybe I ought not to be giving any advice, lol
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HOUSTON4
HOUSTON4●Lampeter, Dyfed, Wales UK
Jul 29, 2011●31 Blogs●705 Comments
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So she don't have a copy of the phone billconfusedSo how will you know how much the bill isdunno
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particolor
particolor●Inverell, New South Wales Australia
Jul 29, 2011●9,376 Comments
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No Houston,I think he means she hasnt even got a phone..wow doh dunno rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing rolling on the floor laughing cheers
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titsy
titsy●Medan, North Sumatra Indonesia
Jul 29, 2011●71 Blogs●1,604 Comments
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Nothing wrong with it Supefly - if you feel good about it, then do it. No harm in doing something good even to an ex.....thumbs up
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zahra450
zahra450●Lebanon., Beyrouth Lebanon
Jul 29, 2011●2 Blogs●80 Comments
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yes,that will be a very good work,if you do it, she will be appreciated,and your kids too. Good luck.
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HOUSTON4
HOUSTON4●Lampeter, Dyfed, Wales UK
Jul 29, 2011●31 Blogs●705 Comments
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particolor Inverell, New South Wales Australia
8 minutes ago
No Houston,I think he means she hasnt even got a phone..
Maybe she means a pay as your go mobile laugh cheers
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african_single
african_single●kuwait, Al Asimah Kuwait
Jul 29, 2011●8 Blogs●1,025 Comments
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@suprflyboy: Make sure that she is not taking advantage of you .. You are responsible for the kids that's for sure .. But what if her phone bill was because she is talking to someone else roll eyes I don't want to make assumptions and accuse people ..

Anyhow, if you want to help JUST to help then do it without giving it a second thought wine ..
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kittens1949
kittens1949●Somewhere USA, Arizona USA
Jul 29, 2011●59 Comments
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Suprflyboy,

No it is not wrong. Even if she does not have the bill. You have children and sometimes they stay with her, what if there is an emergency while they are with her...??? Having a phone makes it easier to reach emergency services. Besides, I see no harm in helping anyone out, as long as I have the funds. One thing, don't count on being repaid. Just my opinion.
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lana1234567
lana1234567●Nowheresville, Michigan USA
Jul 29, 2011●77 Blogs●663 Comments
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Luminarius,

You may be only 25 and never married but you have more common sense and insight than some men twice your age.wine
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Luminarius
Luminarius●San Sebastian, Puerto Rico
Jul 29, 2011●12 Blogs●51 Comments
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Thanks Lana :) My parents raised me well :D
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lana1234567
lana1234567●Nowheresville, Michigan USA
Jul 29, 2011●77 Blogs●663 Comments
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Ultimately, the help you give her in whatever form will also help your child since SHE is your child's mother....but this is ultimately YOUR choice. Keep in mind that while your child is a minor what you do for your child's mother will also be helping your child.cool
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lana1234567
lana1234567●Nowheresville, Michigan USA
Jul 29, 2011●77 Blogs●663 Comments
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Lum,
Do not ever let life make you become hardened and jaded....when you have a child one day that child will forever cherish you as a father and as a positive influence in his life.....this is priceless.cool thumbs up
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survivor1969
survivor1969●West Flanders, West Vlaanderen Belgium
Jul 30, 2011●4 Blogs●68 Comments
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There is nothing wrong to help your ex to pay the phone bills, do it for your children.

But make sure that she will not take advantage of you, that you will pay her bills every month.
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Yaacs
Yaacs●Auckland, New Zealand
Jul 30, 2011●31 Comments
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lana said it Lum, you have more common sense and insight than some men twice your age. So I'm not gonna give any advice head banger
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montecito
montecito●Lovely, New Jersey USA
Jul 30, 2011●4 Blogs●49 Comments
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If you know she will use the money for the phone bill, give it to her. I think the bigger question is why isn't she able to pay the phone bill. Is she getting child support or alimony? Does she work? Is she frugal or does she spend her time at the mall. And why is it only the phone bill that she can't pay. Keep in mind, once you help her financially she will always think of you when she gets in a bind. I asked my ex-husband one time to help me with car repairs and he did because we were the best of friends after our divorce. I don't want to get in your personal business but maybe you need to sit down and have a talk with her to find out what's going on. Maybe she needs to learn how to budget her money..wine
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moodyblues
moodyblues●CAPE TOWN, Western Cape South Africa
Aug 1, 2011●1 Blogs●20 Comments
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Of course you should - but only until it becomes obvious that she is relying on or using you.
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summja
summja●Kingston, Ontario Canada
Aug 1, 2011●11 Comments
#17
I agree that there is nothing wrong with helping her out. You two seem to be civil with each other and there is nothing wrong with it. I agree if it becomes a habit, there is a problem, but you make it sound as if you have been divorced for a period of time and this is the first issue she's had.

I disagree that you should ask her why she can't afford to pay it, as it's none of your business. You are doing a nice deed, that seems like you are not expecting to get the money back. I think it's irrelevant why she is short on cash, especially if this is a one time occurrence. I also think it's irrelevant who she is calling, sounds like you are both mature and over each other, obviously it didn't work for a reason so no need to worry if she is calling another guy.

I would make sure that it is clear that it's not your intention to make this a habit, but emergencies happen and I have great respect that you would consider helping an ex. Shows how mature, and civil you are that you are willing to help her out.

Best of luck!
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