what is your Internet dating routine?
when you meet someone on the internet on a site like site CS? I read several times on forums how it "should be done". People start to email first, sometimes every day, then talk on msn, web cam or phone, sometimes every day too, then meet. I don't get it. Why so much talking? What is there to talk about? The most essetual is meeting anyway, nothing is more important than this. Especially if you meet someone from the blogs, you probably know him/her pretty well already. My routine was if that was in sweden to see each other on a photo, if we like each other physically, talk in a couple of emails and decide that we want the same thing of a relationship, then meet as soon as possible. If a date was abroad, we did the same thing, we decided that we like each other and what we want to do together, then basically didn't talk any more and just met when we had that possibility. I may fantisize a lot about him and our meeting and he about me. When we meet we do things together and talk inbetween which seems more natural to me. I am a talkative person in real life and like talkative people. You can talk a lot on the net before and then meet and don't like each other anyway so it was all for nothing, otherwise you can discuss anything you want further in person. Is there is a point in it anyway? If you mean that you want to know a person you are going to meet really well, there is no way to really know a person, also because we change all the time. I lived with my husband for 7 years and he did something I never expected from him, I thought I knew him. I had another relationship for 15 years and I suprised him(and myself) a lot this time, I have changed totally relationship-wise compared to 3 years ago.So how do you do it, if you talk a lot before meeting, what do you talk about?
PS. I never talk on webcam, or skype, msn or phone with anyone. I had a lot of dates without ever talking on the phone. I have friends that I have known for years and never talked to them other than on email or in person. I know it is unusual but it is possible.
Comments (71)
Go for it, goodluck
Morgen, there is a man on CS, I think he was from the UK, who lives in Bulgaria, near Sofia. He is a very successful businessman and a very handsome man. A friend of mine (who actually introduced me to CS) met him in a cafe here in Sofia and when she walked away after the meeting she met a friend of hers. They talked for awhile and it got clear that the other woman was going to meet the same man, in the same cafe! Obviously, he used the weekends for some "casting" of Sofia women
But out of this, I have never had such silent meetings. Believe me, nobody expects from you to talk all the time. Yes too long pauses can be embarrassing but the sense of humor always helps. My first meetings have always been full with laughter and jokes, I think people find it the best way to feel comfortable with each other. Just be honest and natural and ready to smile and joke, then it will be fine :)
Oh about staring in each other's eyes... My first bf used to do it from 2 cm distance and it made me nervous
GREAT STUFF ,, Spesiale drukkie vir jou,, mwah....
As for me, it changes from person to person, a lot has to do with how quickly we feel comfortable with each other and of course the distance between us
I read a lot of stories in newspapers every day how women are killed by people they knew very well, like family or husband, you never know who turns a psycho, talking to him on cam or phone doens't change anything
the rest i agree, also how soon we may feel comfortable with different people
Frank
Hi Virgo
Just 'promise' me one thing. If you fall head over heels,
revise the lover thinking.
Your whole thinking should be haveing an opening for becomming one-man woman again IF u find that one that is meant for you.
Remember that.
I notice one comment that got my atencion the most, that's it im going for a coffee in Uk see ya all, keep searching have fun..:P
Almera im avaible for a coffee if you are free today by the way is Sunday let go!!
Nevica sorry for