what is your Internet dating routine?
when you meet someone on the internet on a site like site CS? I read several times on forums how it "should be done". People start to email first, sometimes every day, then talk on msn, web cam or phone, sometimes every day too, then meet. I don't get it. Why so much talking? What is there to talk about? The most essetual is meeting anyway, nothing is more important than this. Especially if you meet someone from the blogs, you probably know him/her pretty well already. My routine was if that was in sweden to see each other on a photo, if we like each other physically, talk in a couple of emails and decide that we want the same thing of a relationship, then meet as soon as possible. If a date was abroad, we did the same thing, we decided that we like each other and what we want to do together, then basically didn't talk any more and just met when we had that possibility. I may fantisize a lot about him and our meeting and he about me. When we meet we do things together and talk inbetween which seems more natural to me. I am a talkative person in real life and like talkative people. You can talk a lot on the net before and then meet and don't like each other anyway so it was all for nothing, otherwise you can discuss anything you want further in person. Is there is a point in it anyway? If you mean that you want to know a person you are going to meet really well, there is no way to really know a person, also because we change all the time. I lived with my husband for 7 years and he did something I never expected from him, I thought I knew him. I had another relationship for 15 years and I suprised him(and myself) a lot this time, I have changed totally relationship-wise compared to 3 years ago.So how do you do it, if you talk a lot before meeting, what do you talk about?
PS. I never talk on webcam, or skype, msn or phone with anyone. I had a lot of dates without ever talking on the phone. I have friends that I have known for years and never talked to them other than on email or in person. I know it is unusual but it is possible.
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I think I would know if the person is real or not even through a few emails with photos. I had plenty long emails with a few people but it was almost always fighting of some kind, they were really crazy and we never met. Those who I met I didn't write a lot (never talked, or phoned or skyped). Some of them I still meet. No need of phones.
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if connecting one's are living in the same area/country i will go for your recommended style but for long distance thing where we are unaware about customs/ likes/dislikes/etc of others...we have to mingle up to learn more............
and men are like BONUS
a very unique approach
means you are dating places
and men are like BONUS
a very unique approach
Saskia, I will read your long post later, I know you have a lot of experience to offer, you have had a great life, you should write a book or more. I am going for my night walk now
oops,i pressed the wrong button!
If i happen to fall passionately in love with someone i meet i will go for it, thought i make it clear from the start no love to anyone will stop my life style and curiosity about the world.
As for me, it changes from person to person, a lot has to do with how quickly we feel comfortable with each other and of course the distance between us.
Thank you !
I don't know if it's the case but I am always suspicious to men who have something about Bulgaria (an ex, business trip, just crossing the country) so they search for Bulgarian women. I want to be picked up for myself, not because I am connected with some ex, or because I am a comfortable option for someone to have a pleasant time. So such quick arrangements usually are not serious.
Does save an awfull lot of time then.
You are right. What can it gain one to lie about yourself as it will surface in the long run..
she rejects me and I come back to CS to look again. lol.
Glatlol, so you are searching only for local men?
or something
I am yes, I really dont get the whole LDR thing, I think you have to spend time with someone to form a relationship.
I'll be on that list also.
U know... hehe, i had a date from here (cs). First one, over a year ago. Had two after that.
She came up from europe. Well halfway into the week i was pretty sure it was not going the way. Well i happened to know she had had contact with another guy in norway. I said to her she could go vist him, while she was here u know... lol. Even offered to drive her there (was an hour way).
She dident do it as i was her first choice and also it was bad custom or something.