My Ex-

I hv ever got a long with my boyfriends for 3 years we hv a deal that we are going to end our friendship with married but until the day came everything was like something never happen,...crying crying

Since that i never keep in touch with him anymore,...

I passed my days with something seem that I live for nothing,...

after one day I met another one,... it's very hard for me to trust because of the things that hv ever come to me.

Afraid of my last makes me hard to move on...

How to rebuild my trust? confused confused
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@ Ikala - It takes time, Girl.... blues moping .... comfort wine
@ Ikala - You can't make a deal with a guy for marriage.... it needs to be spontaneous, when the time is right Girl.... cool ... hug wine
Hybrid!conversing
Hi Ikala :)

It's difficult to let yourself trust again - but it's necessary too! Just start slowly. That's my advice. There is no need to immediately put all your trust in somebody again. Little by little - this is the best way!
Hans & Patric : yes,... wine wine thanks anywayhandshake handshake
Turn yourself into hybrid...half human
half stone...it will workwine
Bangallow : it sounds interesting tell me more about 1/2 human & 1/2 stone blushing blushing blushing
Ikala,
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you dont rebuild your life as you still live in the past...
Don't dwell in your past. What passed is past. The guy you'll meet in the future is NOT your ex who will hurt you the same as your ex did to you although there is still possibility of it. If you're hurt again, you have to believe in yourself that you can cope with it better because you are stronger this time comfort
lachica :... hopefully I can learn from the past,..thumbs up thumbs up
Hi Ikala,

You're going to be okay. You're attractive and nice, and all those good qualities. You'll be okay. thumbs up

Just smile and keep on believing. Yeah! grin


Why, just look at me..(oh oh, that's not a good example. lol) I once got a really bad haircut, but then the lady only charged me half price, instead of me suing her. lol.

So, you see, the haircut looked better after that, especially with a hat on. lol

The future is bright. cool
Just walk away, don't look back and find something happy for yourself until you meet someone.

BUT!!!! Don't hold past experiences against him. If you do that it will only bring a bitterness in the relationship that could bust the new relationship. This new person was not the one that brought you unhappiness.
Sorry! I didn't answer the question.

That, dear Ikala, will be up to you! When are you releasing the old affair? As soon as you do you are now ready to love again. I repeat, the new person did not cause your unhappiness. Don't bring him into something he never had anything to do with!
Let go of the past....live yr life all over again. One man may hv caused u pain n that does not equates to all. Release forgiveness... u will eventually learn to trust again



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One thing I have learnt in life that when you count on the person that you love the most they might just end up hurting you im not saying they will but in your case,I no we humans and we get attached that's what brings us together it will take time to come around just go with you gut feeling once you start dating again make sure he is the one you want to be with.peace
You are ONLY 38, you have plenty of time to decide what you do with your life don't rush take your time.cheers
You are ONLY 38, you have plenty of time to decide what you do with your life don't rush take your time.cheers
You are ONLY 38, you have plenty of time to decide what you do with your life don't rush take your time.cheers
marraige is a big ask for some guys, be happy with how it is or was and it will happen on its on accord.
Thanks a lot for my bloggers,.... handshake handshake
hey ikala

well start believing in yourself life. isn't all bout relationship. someone will come along unexpected when u least expect... there's a saying expect the unexpected.

your issue is trust like all women you need self confidence and believing in yourself there's no point dwelling on the past focus on the future.

everything is BALANCE
Sometimes I feel women anyway need also build up their own financial life, and never ever expect a marriage with a guy can change your life dramatically. As if you put all of you into a guy, and you will lose it too easily. It is not because there aren't good guys, but you need make yourself qualified for a good guy. And also it takes time to find a right guy for you. Some guys are extremly good,but maybe not within the range of your circle at all. So I think once you build up your own confidence, as time passes by, you will feel strong in yourself. And to find a guy, to build a trust, it depends on two sides also.
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