Men have feelings too.
Being a man.We have the image of a tough male. Can take physical pain and keep right on going.
But we are deep inside, for me anyway very emotional. we can be hurt in the heart just as easily as anyone else. I have been seperated for seven months and boy That is such a real heart ache Especailly when the one you loved with all your heart doesn`t love you anymore and decides to seperate and be with someone else. Us as men do have a sterotype where we are just supposed to shrug it off and carry on. But we really are in my case a softy. The pain of a break-up for either a man or woman from the one they truly loved can`t be described unless they`ve been there. It feels like your heart is being squeezed so hard and your stomach is cramping up all you want to do is curl up and cry and forget about the world. Yes even us men cry. I cried my eyes out for days when this happened. It`s a pain you would not wish on your worst enemy. it`s the kind of pain that no man made weapon can ever inflict. that pain upon the heart.
It`s the hardest thing I have ever been through is a break up of the heart. Especailly when you didn`t want it to happen. I don`t know about you blokes but I was floored, hurt, upset, balling my eyes out. So much more. emotions are taking hold now.
We do When we are hurt even us men especailly when love is involved and we are hurt from it. We begin to build up barriers around our hearts to protect ourselves from being hurt again. I know I have. Yet we still want someone to Love us for who we are despite our pain. We yearn for that special someone who can bring down those barriers and love us for who we are despite our failings and love us for who we are. Just as us men will love that one special woman for who they are and let your dreams become each others.
So yep Us men do have feelings and a heart......I think
Comments (23)
I feel for the pain you went for. I think on this site we all are people who have gone through pain to some larger or lesser degree but we can share and feel for each other.
I would say to any man, never be afraid of sharing your feelings. I am glad you have been able to share this as you are voicing what so many other men will be feeling.
I hope one day your pain will be gone and peace and happiness will fill that space. Time eventually does heal when we can finally let go of that person took our heart. We just have to reclaim it so that you can love again. I speak totally from experience of a 27 year love story gone wrong. I do understand.
Sending hugs to you
Very deep post, brought tears to my eyes
i know men have feelings and they cry too but i do think, women cry longer
But you are right blokes can cry less but we are still soppy on the inside.
too many women about waiting to pounch on an emotional man, so pls becareful ere with what you say
And eh, just to add...
the women really are quiet harmless
but what to say, men with feelings are rare these days
Gonna be more cold hearted and unemotional
Nope not working ahh well! back to being me again. soppy an emotional.
And then it is even harder again as they are not encouraged to show their feelings and emotions.
I am glad that you and others have an outlet such as these blogs to share your innermost feelings.
Well done..nice blog
We do have feelings and Men shouldn`t be afraid to show emotions even though we`ve been brought up not to show it by being a mans man kindah thing. But emotions all makes us who we are.
but would you believe iv actually forgotten where they are
i just know there far away ore the mountains
far away ore the sea..but where
Sounds like your bitter...is there any positive you can share?...
I really fail to see why I should say anything positive about something that was so distressing.
It's life and should be expressed as such warts and all.
Despite what people think I'm a very happy person.
I hope that things had turned out better for you...that would be good...reflecting on your situation and not wanting to down play your feelings...I hope you have resolved that matter and found a way to co-exist with your ex...
Glad to hear it...
How to deal with a break up or when it's time to move on - I think it depends on the person and isn't necessary gender specific. I know guys who suffered and took a long time to get back into wanting to meet someone and other guys who just say "next" - same with women.
Take your time, I wanted someone special again to make the hurt go away, but I don't think that works or is enough - talking about myself, making a life I'm happy with and enjoy was the right thing to do.
Thanks for all the comments I really appreciatte it. It is stressful, and hurts still at times. But that`s me starting to move along now. Aye Mr! can see where you can loose weight as well from stress. I love cooking but noy the joy has gone from it being on your todd. an now you cook just to survive, no enjoyment in it. But Saying that starting to mess abit with food again so coming back on track.
Well again I am waffling on thanks for all the comments I really appreciate all your kind words and input.
Take care, Sending you a big hug.