How?
How to be free from the feeling scare of love after a broke up??I asked my friend this question and she replied 'try with several broke up and you will not scare of it anymore!'
But, I'm afraid I can't try anything relative to love now and ever later... It's quite difficult to love someone
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You are such a sweet young lady. Now stop torturing yourself. Just continue to go out and just have fun.
Mimi every time I read your blog I cry. Love ruined your life but it need not stay that way. Free yourself of your sadness as life can be great if you realize you need not hang onto that sadness.
I m Shorya,
Its quite tough to face situation rather then suggestions. but dear as far as concern to your question, if you feel guilty for your self then its wrong Bcz there is no need to blame on u or partner.. if u believe in destiny then only.
Because of love & life are like river u CNT stop it to flow.if its stuck then it would loose its purity... and yeah don't think that u have loose anything. just think that the person has loose you.. because of may be he does not deserve you...
Don't stop your self to do search for love & care....u deserve it. i know very well some one is some where around you who are having in great love for u..
KNenagh, I know I need help, I need to get rid of all this fxxking broken heart! I need more time, I guess. BTW, To be honest, it's quite hard for me to understand why there are a lot of people able to change their feeling so fast.
I (and I'm sure many others) had a broken heart and it took me years to get over it - but I didn't wallop for years, I had a bad time for a few month and then I kicked myself in the bum and rebuild my single life - friends, going out, doing things I enjoyed and eventually getting back on the dating scene. It is YOUR decision to hang onto these feelings and you allow this with YOUR attitude.
There won't be anyone who can "help" you to forgot someone, you have to be actively doing this yourself - distractions, letting it be friends or a lover does help.
Ian, I'm glad you are able to move that fast with your broken heart. Congrats!
I have posted a poem in my blog, "LOVE OF LIFE". Its message is especially for you. Please look at it and leave a comment.
Thank You.
It is not about pretending, but moving on and this is something you obviously haven’t done after all this time. If this psychologist can’t help you, try someone else, but for you own sake you should do something about this.
I know things aren't always easy, but I found changing my life in a way that I enjoy it just helps.
Yes, you probably will still hurt for awhile, maybe a long time. KN gave good advice to help come out of the pain. Of course its personal for everyone. Think about what gives you joy and work to bring it into your experience. Please take time to do this. You will find it hard to cry and feel sad when you are in your bliss! Find meaning and purpose in living other than romantic love. While you grow stronger, reach out in meeting others so the door is open for love to come again.
You can love again and you will. It always feels like "that" person is the only one, but those feelings are a lie. Don't let this crocodile keep the crocodile tears coming.
All the best to you.
KN and Calm, I'm happy for you that it seems you are able to "ask" your feeling following what you want very well, congrats on that! Here where I live, at my ages, to hang out with friends and relatives, ALL will just focus to below subjects:
1. Why not married?
2. Why no kid (if already married).
I'm getting tired for all of these questions.
You and some members here ask me moving on... I wish I could. Look at the photo of me in my icon, that photo had been taken just about 2 weeks ago, do you think I look "wallow in sadness"? I'm trying hard to "move" my life everyday and feeling sad if I do not allowed sometime speak up my real feeling. I still love my crocodile, that is the fact, I still feeling hurt, that is the fact, I feel scare of love, that's the fact. And I will "try someone else" if I find someone able to make me wanna try. Thanks for all of your advices anyway.
The comments addressed that...people took time out to care and try to help. I didn't notice anyone saying for you to tell yourself not to care....but if they did, of course that isn't the answer. I know that isn't what I said and I don't think its what KN meant.
The answer on how not to be afraid to love again is growing stronger from the experience, and moving forward in your life because staying where you are means staying in pain. I think there may be a lot of emptiness in your life that his love was fulfilling, and now that he is gone, you are feeling it acutely. The only way to avoid the same depth of sorrow in the future is being stronger next time!
I don't know what type of answer you hoped to get? I wish there was, but there is no magic bullet.