My mission...
Conversations last week:Psychologist: tell me, what usual makes you happy
Me: working
Psychologist: GREAT!
Me: but sometime there are many stress made me tired too
Psychologist: list for me at least 3, other than working, what usually make you happy?
Me: cooking, eating, traveling, swimming, watching comedy...
Psychologist: ok, here are things you should do for next week before we meet agian:
1. Working, eating
2. Cooking
3. Swimming
4. Watching a comedy
5. Try to hang out with a friend/colleague who willing to listen to you, who you feel comfortable to be with...
This week, today:
Psychologist: you look more sad than last week, had you followed my instructions?
Me: yes, I followed exactly and quite happy from 1 to 4. But when I tried with 5, I feel so sad becuase in my life, the only person able to make me feel comfortable to be with until now is my Crocodile but I don't think it' good idea to hang out with him again in my life ever. It's passed. I have been trying hard to forget him.
Psychologist: your mission now is to find another Crocodile! A Crocodile that able to care for you and not hurt you, can you do that?
Me: ok, let's me try... But not sure where I can find that other Crocodile?
Comments (7)
Try finding a new crocodile where you have interests...there is a lot of men out there!!...do you know any other singles in your area that are keen to hang out and just have fun?...be open to it and it will come...
Here CS, my hope
You must forget Crocodile once and for all. He's not available and you will never find someone exactly like him.
Move on by socializing and forgetting your obsession. Then guess what? Your eyes open up and standing right before you is a man that loves you and you love him.
Your psychological blinders are the blinders you refuse to remove by clinging to Crocodile's image.
I have been looking for my new so-called "Crocodile" for a few years now. But, it seems as if I might of learned too much from my past relationship....and it is taking more time than I had expected.
You are making yourself available with getting professional help. :) In addition, by you being on a dating site, you are putting yourself out there and taking steps to find your new love. As time progresses you may start to see new opportunities...don't be afraid to seize them. :)
Keep up the good work.