Playing The Victim...
to manipulate others.We could be a victim in so many ways. Some were neglected by parents, betrayed by partners, let down by lovers, picked on at school or by friends, ripped off on a business deal, etc, etc.
Healthy people usually learn from those experiences, forgive and move on. Others re-victimize themselves to give themselves some comfort
Control freaks love to play the victim, they try to control the person who hurt them as they owe them something and try to drain sympathy from people around them.
The person who play the victim is often times the real villain by portraying others as the demons and oppressors
Most of us have played the victims and not even aware about it. Whining and complaining about our children, jobs, partners, people around us, things we need to do etc…and having negative outlook in life. We can do something about these situations but we chose to stay and be a victim. People I know are doing this… I’m doing this too.
Real victims are those completely powerless and can’t do anything about it. They deserve sympathy…I’m not one of them.
Those who love to play the victim we should be wary of. They are manipulative and will do anything to be in control. It‘s tricky to recognize them … can leave you dumbfounded or worse.
Are you a "victim" too?
Comments (92)
pretty funny video...thanks for the humour...
Thanks! I was about to burst to tears...lucky for him, he's not near me!
I'm done crying ...
I'm happy blogging here but this Ian man is a nutter
Why don't you look at yourself first, Mr Perfect?!
I alone can judged him cos I know what kind of person he is, why can't you just leave well alone? What is it about them that bothers you so much?
As for the financial support, he doesn't owe me one but that's just his way of making sure we are well taken care of.
why are you doing this to me???
You just sound hurt...take it easy and life isn't always fair...
This topic is very general, nothing to do with anyone but he's turning it about my life and my exs...as usual.
He is a thorn that is for sure...someone needs a hug...
Again, I wasn't playing, circumstances have changed, on my side and on your side...don't deny that there are many others, that's exactly the reason why I didn't take things seriously.
do us both a favor, will you! : forget me, sod off and be happy!
Thanks!
I have nothing against him nor anybody...I didn't delete the blog though I'm dying to, I let him vent and I just hope this will make him feel better now and move on.
Stop making out I'm not happy...i couldn't be happier..jeez.
One thing I've learned is when something, involving two parties which used to make both happy, ended not in a "proper" way, most of the times one party (if not both) just could not let go.
So my suggestion to you is you both need to talk in PRIVATE.. be honest to each other.. and sort this "problem" out for good.
If I got mad at or disappointed by someone is closed to me or was once closed to me, I would definitely talk over the phone. I DON'T LIKE UNFINISHED BUSINESS.. Except if the other party shuts all communication media off, than I will consider that party DEAD.. NO longer EXIST..! I know it hurts, but it has to stop one way or another..
Closure would be nice and hope the two of you can work something out...take care...
nothing dramatic...just a simple misunderstanding, is all, it happens to everyonen
thanks, the 'teasing' was mutual not just on my part, it gotten out of hand, is all.
we don't talk privately anymore...he prefers it here on blogs for all to see...it seems to make him feel great to unmask me here and let everyone know of my painful past...and this is the part that confuses me
yep, Closure is all we need...would be nice.
My blog got messed up again
can we call a truce,please?
unblock me on whats app, if you have anything else to say, privately please...
There may be valid reason, excuses or no excuses...same reasons or excuses that you have had to deal with..you want it private..i'm sure they did to.
If Ian is a gentleman and is worth respecting, he will continue "talking" to you privately.
Hope you are ok!
Now Crazyh, GIVE ME MY PRIZE..!
you calculated everything but at the end things didn't turned out the way you wanted it so you turned it against me?
I am leaving this blog and will keep my mouth shut from now!
Quote.
Ive said, what u see is what you get..like it, or don't...you decide...I don't hide who I am..
if I stay here,don't come near my blogs again, from now on we don't know each other.
and I'll end up with him one day.