Ageing together
After looking a recent film by the title 45, I was quite perplexed for what its central message cot point could be. The old ageing actors are superb, CHARLOT Rambling just 70 and the magnificent old wooly of the sixties Tom Caurntey approaching his eighties.A couple with no kids somewhere in winter s England deciding to celebrate their 45 years of marriage because at their 40 the husband had a bypass operation and they missed it.And suddenly the authorities inform the old man that the dead body of his misress when he was 27 and before meeting his wife, was found intact as at the age of death that she was 28 in a glacier in Swizerland after an accident she had 50 years ago with her loverwho survived but her corpse was never found.She was wearing a marriage ring because the young lovers were telling to the hoteliers that they were married to have permission in a double room.The old man in a shoc by the idea to look at the face of his ex mistress exactly as it was 50 years ago decides to go to recognise the dead body as the authorities asked him thinking he was married to her. He goes even to a touristic agency to book a ticket to the Alpes.And suddenly he changes his mind and stays home to celebrate the 45th anniversary of his marriage with local friends in a public salon where he speaks a touching summary of his married life.End of the film but the message was still missing.
And just today I after a week passed I resolved the riddle or the mystery of his decision. By the thought that even in this age somebody has to look in the present and maybe in the future but not in the past that is lost. His 45 years of marriage is of course a past but a past connected directly with his present time. So, permitted nostalgia is this that can be connected to an actual condition and not something completely and definitely lost, otherwise it becomes an eternal mourn.Even ULISSES nostalgising his beloved Ithaka was planning how to recover it .
And my quest is the following: Is it worthy to choose a woman just for the easy things ( pleasures so common in youth) or somebody has to focus on the difficulties and how to face them together with a woman who can resist or tolerate or encouragen raising the morals this having not much to do with pleasures ?
Comments (13)
Both have a place and a time in our lives.
Most people enjoy one, the latter, and then move on to something deeper.
Some prefer to stay in the ever-changing fun, but superficial ones.
Off I go now. Byeeeeeeeee!
If you want a long term relationship with someone why can't you have both?
Of course there are many things to consider about future plans..where to live..family..health etc..
But...It should be fun as well. And not just for a short time but always.
The honeymoon..The sparks..fire..humour..love is what keeps people together.
Many marriages fall apart because all these ingredients are missing.
Hope I have answered your question ?
Anyways life is how you make it, mo.
As for the story, you've got me interested, I will look out for the film. I suppose for me it hinges on whether he would have loved and left her anyway, or whether she could instead have been his enduring love, but her death meant he had to find another.