Adropted child and being a single Mom!

It may hard for a lot of people to believe but the first serious love of my life came when I was at my 30! By that time I used to have a beautiful dream having kids in a full house!

But things doesn't work well and I came back being a single.

The break up from that only loved was too much of hurts making me somehow scare of love.

Now, after more or less 3 years from that sad relationship, I think I feel completely ok but still its very difficult for me to fall in love with someone. I understand this is because the right man for me is not appear yet but I prefer patiently wait for him instead of being with a wrong once again, and, somehow I'm happy with my current single life anyway. So, there is nothing urgent at looking for someone and I think it will never becomes urgent at this point for whole of my life to avoid mistake that brings hurt again.

However, I like to have kid!! I think I can be a single Mom!! But for sure I'm NOT able making kid with someone who I don't love!! I'm 100% sure at this point!! And I don't want to do artificial insemination because if I give birth to a kid I want to know exactly who is the father.

If I'm young I can wait until I meet someone I love and make a kid with him but I'm not young anymore and it's not recommend to have kid at my ages.

So, I'm thinking about getting an adropted child and being a single Mom!! I have been thinking about this a lot recently but I'm still a bit hesitate because I do not have any experience with kids and for sure my parents do not support me with this so even I don't live same house with my parents but I may have very hard time with them if I make this decision.

What would you advise me in this sistuation? Should I just get an adropted kid and being a single Mom or should I wait to have my own kid?

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Wait a couple of years to meet your prince as your still young enough to have a child, if not then adoption is a great idea,.....wine
easiest solution: Hop over here and I'll make you a wee creature. It's free also. I won't charge you. dunno

Of course, you'll have to pledge to claim unknown father.
Get a pet first; it will be good practice for you in caring for another living creature, that is completely dependent on you.
My first thought is, that is crazy. (if preventable)It's selfish to raise a child without the balance that both parents bring. Then I thought, I guess if there is a child with no parents, then you would be helping them immensely.

I use to love children, until I watched some grow up. What a pain! Tradition alone is not enough to breed.
Scotty, perhaps you are right! Thanks.

Dieci, you look really good in your photos! I guess you can make good kid! :) but sorry, as said, I can make kid with someone I love only. Thanks for your offering anyway! :)
Tepid, I like dog a bit but I don't like it smell! I don't like cat so much, which pet you recommend to take?

Rocking, yes, exactly what you said! I think if I get an adropted child, will be a daughter and being rejected by her parents! I'm a lady so I think I will know better how to care for a daughter than a son. But maybe a bit too early to make decision for now, maybe I will wait for few years more.
Adopt you can always have another child if you find love but meantime a child willl have a parent who loves and cares. Women like Angeline Jolín adopted before having a natural child. I'm sure you would be happy with the love this child would give you.
Why exactly... am I this unlucky? blues

Although your comment is very flattering. Thanks. lips
You asked why exactly I can make baby only with someone I love, right? Just simple because I'm not baby making machine! :) I need love to do such 'activities!' :)

And don't think you are not lucky because even my hips are curvy, I'm not mathematician! ;)
@mimi
get a little dog of your choice.
I like dog they are cute but I don't like their smell! :( - someone told me that there are special soap for dog that make them smell good, is that correct?

However, I work quite far, I have to leave my house for work since 6:30am in the morning and back home at around 7:30pm if the trafic good from Monday to Friday. My maid comes to do housework when I'm at home only so if I ask her take care for the dog when I'm away then I have to give her key of my house which I don't like.

I wish there was a pet school in my city I could got one dog and sent her to school before I went to work and pick her up when I back home that could be fun! :)

Maybe I will get some birds when I move to my new apartment in this November. But I don't have experience with bird I hope I don't make them feel terrible when staying with me! :)
Doctor won't suggest you to be pregnant when you're over 40.. even me, still able to pregnant and give a birth..

Dieci..? Come... make a baby rolling on the floor laughing
You say that you work from 6:30am in the morning and be back home at around 7:30pm - you don't have time for a dog and think about having a baby? doh
HotZ, I know who you are nowwave Those bedroom activities always on your mind!
Very very good point, Kn. I think she will need a rich man to pull this off.
Dieci has good looking and may make good baby I guess but he is smoking I can't lips ! :) - further, I'm not mathematician who he is looking for! And I'm not baby making machine so things will not work between me and Dieci for the baby thing! :)

If I have baby I can stay home to work when baby still small (less than 6 months or even one year), and when baby after 1 year I will send her to school for babysit during I'm away from home for work and pick her when I'm back. That's normal in my city. But if I have a dog I can't stay home to take care the dog! It will be very strange if I do that and it's not in company's policy to staying home take care the dog!!

Believe or not it up to you but honestly I do not need a rich man! I need a man who makes me feel happy to be with! What is inside his head is definitely for me more important than how much money he has in his pocket/bank account! I just tell what I think, you do not need to believe if you don't want!

And to few of you here please if no things good to talk then just keep away from me and let's me alone with my world! No need to jump to my blogs and say bad things, it's sad! Life are a lot of sad things already, isn't it? Do not need trying hard to judge people when you know nothing about them!
Pets and children are not the same thing..when the child arrives..and there is a dog/cat/bird..it is only going to be double chaos..leave the pets if you want a child, have the child you really want:) animals only get left without care once they stop substituting for a human..good luck!
Birds may have less trouble, I guess. But I don't want them feel terrible when they are with me just because I don't know how to care for them so I will need to read and ask about them first before I get them later (if any) then.

I just think should I change my profile: 'I'm looking for someone makes me want to make a baby with him!'? LOL grin
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