Kasih
Kasih
Jakarta, Indonesia
Oct 2009
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What can i do to keep him. . .

I have something bothering my mind lately. And i could use a little help here...
Let say i have met someone here and it looks like that person worth of your time. He has the quality of a nice guy. And we just seem to clicked about everything.
So for the time being you see there is no problem and there is none of that funny feeling that something is not right with him.
The communication went smooth and everything went well. Although there is still a possibility of not ending up together, i enjoy the company, i enjoy being friend with him.
But a long distance thing is very confussing,it takes lots and lots of trust,effort,patience and time...
What i am worried about right now, could a nice and decent conversation become boring for some man? Then it would make all things turn cold?
I mean what should a woman do to keep a decent conversation and relation interesting without giving to much of her self. And what should the man do to keep the relation alive? What to do to make the best of now?. . .
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scon1916
scon1916●Sisophon, Cambodia
Oct 19, 2009●71 Comments
#1
you're going to have to éscalate the conversation otherwise it'll just be pen-pals. Good luck
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Cookie_2009
Cookie_2009●Dublin, Ireland
Oct 19, 2009●9 Comments
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If ur looking to buy urself some time then i'd suggest sending messages that aren't too long.. cos if they are it means that u are talking about a lot of different things and probably in a lot of detail.. and that means that u can soon find urself running out of things to say. Tell ur stories but dont give away all the details so that ur giving him a chance to ask u questions and so that u will have the opportunity to reply. if he keeps asking questions then it means he's listening as well as interested.. if not then.. well at least u kno not to waste anymore time on him. This works both ways.. so u will need to get interested in whats goin on with him too.. otherwise it'll just get boring.
Either way.. dont put too much expectation on anything.. if its meant to b it will happen! Good luck
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soccerfan90
soccerfan90●San Jose, Costa Rica
Oct 19, 2009●2 Comments
#3
I agree with cookie. It is for most men difficult to keep up a conversation when the woman says to much at once or viceversa. We guys arent as evolved as you hehe ;) . Anyway try to find things in common and be constant. If youre flighty or sloppy to him it can drive him away cause he will think youre not into him. And also be yourself. Im sure youre a wonderful woman who has much to offer so go for it!

soccerfan90
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moonlove
moonlove●chiang mai, Northern Thailand Thailand
Oct 20, 2009●140 Blogs●778 Comments
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Wish you the best but i don't know how to advice!!blushing bouquet beer
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RDM59
RDM59●Edinburgh, Lothian, Scotland UK
Oct 20, 2009●299 Comments
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Online long distance relationships can be very hard I think.
When you realise that the only way you could ever be together means one of you has to give up their current way of life, job etc and move to the other one's country. It is a big risk but you have to be 100% positive about taking it, or else what is the point of getting a LDR started ?......dunno And if you have children then that is a near impossible thing to contemplate, for me anyway.

Wishing you the best of luck though, it can and does happen here.....wave bouquet
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bjsss
bjsss●Melbourne, Victoria Australia
Oct 20, 2009●3 Comments
#6
Hey kasih wave

Follow your heart... good luck i hope it works out for you wine
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kyriacos2009
kyriacos2009●Hemel Hempstead, Hertfordshire, England UK
Oct 20, 2009●8 Comments
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I think you need to break away from emails and try some live one to one on msn or skype. If it's a genuine feeling for one another it shouldn't be an effort to keep a good conversation going, if anything, the longer you talk the easier the conversation should be.

Good luck. :)
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how1e
how1e●NRW, Nordrhein-Westfalen Germany
Oct 20, 2009●7 Blogs●346 Comments
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When you say "long distance" presumably its safe to assume another country ?
When you say "it takes lots and lots of trust....", trust about what ? About whether or not he is still "talking" to other people !??
Surely if you meet someone on a website and it gets at all "serious", one thing to do is both leave the website ! Another thing to do is to arrange to meet in person, or you just happy with a cyber friend for life ?
Finally, you say "there is still a possibility of not ending up together". A possibility !? Well without all the normal face to face things I would have said a very real probability of "not ending up together".
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Kasih
KasihOP●Jakarta, Indonesia
Oct 20, 2009●102 Blogs●1,482 Comments
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Thank you guys. . . Like i say,we all play to win . . . I just hope i get lucky?
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PHUL_MONTY
PHUL_MONTY●Botulism, Ontario Canada
Oct 20, 2009●4 Comments
#10
I agree with how1e,, Get off the site..Get off the social-dating sites..go from there.
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PHUL_MONTY
PHUL_MONTY●Botulism, Ontario Canada
Oct 20, 2009●4 Comments
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prestidigitator1 Thats good so you can stay there in your Dirt swirl country and I will marry a bice Asian girl inspite of my low energy,desperation ..u can keep all the girls in your country to yourself..U have a nice day :)
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Kasih
KasihOP●Jakarta, Indonesia
Oct 20, 2009●102 Blogs●1,482 Comments
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@prestidigitator1 . . . They say love is something u cannot see but yet u can feel it presence. You feel the love of children and parents. But first you have to believe in it . Its like the air that u breath, u cant see it but its there.
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Kasih
KasihOP●Jakarta, Indonesia
Oct 23, 2009●102 Blogs●1,482 Comments
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Dear how1e, im not stevano im me. I like poetry and i like looking towards my life from my own little beautiful window.
I will keep in mind all your advice and i have to say you have some point there. Once again thanks for the advice .
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