Things I don’t understand here. Part I.
Prelude:The other day I had an exchange here with a younger man from another country:
Him: How are you doing?
Me (thinking “what exactly do people expect as an answer to that kind of questions?”): How am I doing what?
Him: It’s hello in English. I thought that you speak English.
Me (thinking “what led to that conclusion?”): Wrong assumption.
And that innocent remark made him to give birth to a tirade:
Him (verbatim): Well your profile is written in English ??? Am I missing something ? You sound very angry ? Divorced , old alone , your children don’t live with you , you sad ugly withered Old skank, you will never find anyone , enjoy being alone all the remainder of your miserable life , you horrible little woman
Yes, I am little. Never thought that it’s something one has to be ashamed of. Anyway, if my counterpart prefers tall, overweight, perhaps obese women, why did he contact me?
Yes, I am divorced. If my counterpart prefers married women, why did he contact me?
Yes, my child is grown-up and lives on her own. If my counterpart prefers 5 generation living under the same roof, why did he contact me?
Somebody, please, can explain me what is it that I don’t understand in this situation?
Comments (31)
It could be .....who knows!
I believe in virtual relationships as a way to meet people in RL, mostly of my friends came from virtual world due to my particular recent interest but, I´m sure not all people in virtual are looking for meeting people or maybe they do not understand what it is needed to develop a relationship under this particular circunstances and they become kind of agressive ¿? ...confused ¿? I do not know.
This is like RL but reloaded LOL!
Delete and continue, if you are sure about what you want, that´s what I would do
Note: as you might noticed, english is not my mother language and it´s very frustrating for me most of the time but ...there is only one way to get away from my limitations, keep trying
However.....you did kind of rub him up the wrong way. You could have simply answered his opening question. He was just trying to give you a friendly opening remark.
Almost every knows that ‘how are you doing?’ Actually is a standard opening greeting and usually gets the answer -“I’m fine thanks, how about you?” And the conversation proceeds from there.
Your second remark “wrong assumption” after he had explained the meaning to you, comes over as rather blunt and unwelcoming.
So even though he was too rude and bad mannered to you after that, I think I would have been a bit irked by your response too.
Just saying
– How are you?
– I’m fine? How are you?
– I’m fine too, never been finer.
– What’s the weather over there?
– Very weatherly weather over here. Never been so weatherly weather before indeed.
You can also rub yourself the all right ways you want to. From that fence to the sun-rise.
My first answer was an act of good will (a man much younger than I prefer and living in another country, has everyone missed that?) and an invitation to change the gear. He didn’t. My second answer was another act of good will and another invitation to change the gear.
You are outside my preferred demographics, you have to be good. Or get lost. As simple as that.
By the way, are there unreal Robby?
Well how’s the weather in your neck of the woods?
It’s really weathersome over here..haha
Last time I looked in the mirror I was real...but I could have been a figment of my imagination...so I could be unreal....
Dear Sir or Madame!
Show me your odd one and then (and only then!) we are going to discuss my assumptions. Or lack thereof.
Madam, indeed!
So now we agreed on the weather, the sky is the limit, we can talk about anything!
Oh, should I have used "mademoiselle"?
There seems to be a theme going. The last guy in RL in his early 20 hitting on me up on a night out I wouldn't have found attractive when I was in my early twenties, let alone these days.
Should I hazard a guess which guys on your blog do get replies to their emails and which don't?
Please, don’t disclose the deal :)
I leave it to your imagination Tulefell.
But they sure moan at me
I was simply trying to help ~ Sometimes they guys with the great lines can be serial womanisers.
I was just saying, maybe, give the shy man a chance. ~ Just trying to be helpful.