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5 WAYS TO OVERCOME THE HURT THAT COMES WITH DIVORCE.
The Bitterness of Divorce
The 2019 movie — Holiday in the Wild further highlighted some of the emotions experienced when a marriage is coming to an end. These different emotions usually highlights what the marriage meant to the individuals that are involved. In the movie, Kate Conrad[Kristin Davis] was devastated when her husband — Drew Conrad told her that he was moving out and that their marriage was over, it was a huge blow for her even though things were not particularly great in their marriage.
People experience different and difficult emotions when an intimate marital relationship breaks down. Emotions ranging from disappointment in themselves because they didn’t put enough effort to make it work[the blame game starts here and it is not good for your mental well-being], hurt, break down of trust, shame, guilt, bitterness, sadness; because these emotions are not visible the individual might look okay even when they come to work but deep down they are suffering and require help before things go out of hand.
Some people feel really embarrassed when their marriage fails and it makes them feel that they have failed, these feelings become severe depending on their commitment to the marriage, their kind of person, social circle, family, religious and cultural influence, and more.
My awareness of my emotions was not this developed when I experienced divorce years ago but, it was tough for me to come face-to-face with the relationships in my life and my circle of friends, the church community and more. I avoided them like a plague because apart from the torrents of emotions and personal disappointment in myself for even going into the marriage in the first instance and also my lack of wisdom or strength of character to keep the marriage together, they were far from being supportive but judging and you could read from their body language and facial expression,
Therefore to help you navigate the hurt and pain that result from a broken marriage, whether you are at the verge of it or you have been divorced, here are 5 Mindsets to have in order to move past it
DON’T GET IN THE BLAME GAME
There would be a thousand reason to want to blame yourself for the demise of your marriage which is what most people would do, and I am not asking you not to take responsibility for what has happened however, remember it takes the two people involved to make it work or not, however, the challenge with just blaming yourself is that it would make you feel worse with an already difficult situation and you cannot afford the baggage of such emotion. Get past that simplistic and easy way out thinking and get help with gaining better perspective why the marriage didn’t work from your own end, become aware of the learning points so that you can do things differently when next you have the opportunity.
2. YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF TO BE HAPPY
Marriage is an important decision we enter into, just like every major decision of our lives however in spite of our effort to succeed, somethings just don’t work no matter how hard we try. Therefore, we must admit if it isn’t working and not use our psyche, loss of self esteem or self confidence or becoming a shadow of your old self as a statement to make anyone know it wasn’t worth continuing.
Marriage does not make anyone happy. If you are not a happy person before going into marriage, it won’t make you happy. Happiness is a function of service, what cause are you giving yourself to? After all said and done, it is still your life therefore be happy and live to your fullest potential. Choose to be happy, when you are living a life of purpose and significance you will be happy.
3. CHANGE YOUR CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE & LOCATION.
In the movie — Holiday in the Wild, Kate went on a vacation to Zambia in Africa from her regular New York life. That change helped her to focus less on herself particularly when she saw the Elephant calf whose mother had been killed by poachers. She regained one of the emotions.
The 2019 movie — Holiday in the Wild further highlighted some of the emotions experienced when a marriage is coming to an end. These different emotions usually highlights what the marriage meant to the individuals that are involved. In the movie, Kate Conrad[Kristin Davis] was devastated when her husband — Drew Conrad told her that he was moving out and that their marriage was over, it was a huge blow for her even though things were not particularly great in their marriage.
People experience different and difficult emotions when an intimate marital relationship breaks down. Emotions ranging from disappointment in themselves because they didn’t put enough effort to make it work[the blame game starts here and it is not good for your mental well-being], hurt, break down of trust, shame, guilt, bitterness, sadness; because these emotions are not visible the individual might look okay even when they come to work but deep down they are suffering and require help before things go out of hand.
Some people feel really embarrassed when their marriage fails and it makes them feel that they have failed, these feelings become severe depending on their commitment to the marriage, their kind of person, social circle, family, religious and cultural influence, and more.
My awareness of my emotions was not this developed when I experienced divorce years ago but, it was tough for me to come face-to-face with the relationships in my life and my circle of friends, the church community and more. I avoided them like a plague because apart from the torrents of emotions and personal disappointment in myself for even going into the marriage in the first instance and also my lack of wisdom or strength of character to keep the marriage together, they were far from being supportive but judging and you could read from their body language and facial expression,
Therefore to help you navigate the hurt and pain that result from a broken marriage, whether you are at the verge of it or you have been divorced, here are 5 Mindsets to have in order to move past it
DON’T GET IN THE BLAME GAME
There would be a thousand reason to want to blame yourself for the demise of your marriage which is what most people would do, and I am not asking you not to take responsibility for what has happened however, remember it takes the two people involved to make it work or not, however, the challenge with just blaming yourself is that it would make you feel worse with an already difficult situation and you cannot afford the baggage of such emotion. Get past that simplistic and easy way out thinking and get help with gaining better perspective why the marriage didn’t work from your own end, become aware of the learning points so that you can do things differently when next you have the opportunity.
2. YOU OWE IT TO YOURSELF TO BE HAPPY
Marriage is an important decision we enter into, just like every major decision of our lives however in spite of our effort to succeed, somethings just don’t work no matter how hard we try. Therefore, we must admit if it isn’t working and not use our psyche, loss of self esteem or self confidence or becoming a shadow of your old self as a statement to make anyone know it wasn’t worth continuing.
Marriage does not make anyone happy. If you are not a happy person before going into marriage, it won’t make you happy. Happiness is a function of service, what cause are you giving yourself to? After all said and done, it is still your life therefore be happy and live to your fullest potential. Choose to be happy, when you are living a life of purpose and significance you will be happy.
3. CHANGE YOUR CIRCLE OF INFLUENCE & LOCATION.
In the movie — Holiday in the Wild, Kate went on a vacation to Zambia in Africa from her regular New York life. That change helped her to focus less on herself particularly when she saw the Elephant calf whose mother had been killed by poachers. She regained one of the emotions.
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Traumatic chip on the shoulder...
I was lucky to have parents that didn't divorce. Some of my friends did. When their parents remarried, they had a tough life growing up as 'the step-child', usually torn between accepting difficult terms for visitation, alienation from a distant biological parent and power struggles when the step-parent wasn't accepting them... on any terms.
Some carried the experience of being a step-child like a chip on their shoulder.
One guy who had an older sister and a younger brother was raised with both biological parents... no divorce. However, they were the meanest parents I knew of. He couldn't wait to get a job and move away from home. He became a successful musician, married and had 2 kids. While he was on the road (earning a living and sending money home) his wife has an affair that led to divorce. The experience literally caused a career change so he didn't repeat the same mistake.
Dysfunctional would be a good description of his home life growing up and he brought that into his marriage as well.
Looking back, those kids had it easy as some of my school mates were adopted. Some not knowing who their biological parents were. To grow up knowing you weren't accepted at birth is a hard road to travel. While things have changed with orphanages opening records and DNA testing, that doesn't change the past.
On a brighter note, I do recall one couple adopting a baby girl from Asia. The adoption requirements were strict. They had the funds and knowledge to do it right where their daughter although 'different' from her classmates was a shining star and accepted by everyone she came in contact with.
Traumatic chip on the shoulder...
Some carried the experience of being a step-child like a chip on their shoulder.
One guy who had an older sister and a younger brother was raised with both biological parents... no divorce. However, they were the meanest parents I knew of. He couldn't wait to get a job and move away from home. He became a successful musician, married and had 2 kids. While he was on the road (earning a living and sending money home) his wife has an affair that led to divorce. The experience literally caused a career change so he didn't repeat the same mistake.
Dysfunctional would be a good description of his home life growing up and he brought that into his marriage as well.
Looking back, those kids had it easy as some of my school mates were adopted. Some not knowing who their biological parents were. To grow up knowing you weren't accepted at birth is a hard road to travel. While things have changed with orphanages opening records and DNA testing, that doesn't change the past.
On a brighter note, I do recall one couple adopting a baby girl from Asia. The adoption requirements were strict. They had the funds and knowledge to do it right where their daughter although 'different' from her classmates was a shining star and accepted by everyone she came in contact with.
Traumatic chip on the shoulder...
Family find
It was just confirmed last night that I have a Son and 2 Grandsons I never knew about.
First of all I am adopted and have since found both my birth Mother's side of the family as well as my birth Father's side.
It started when my half Brother Keith (Father's side) called me and told me according to Ancestry.com I have a very close relative who thinks he is my Grandson. I looked at my DNA relatives and saw where in DNA strength the Grandson's strength falls between 4 of my half siblings and 2 of my half Nieces and 1 half Nephew.
I called the Grandson last evening and asked him to look at his DNA relatives and see if he not only sees Keith, but also sees Bruce, Lisa, and Karen, all on my birth Mother's side. He said yes. They all are 2 generations away from him. His Father was also adopted and I spoke to him (my Son) Sunday.
I have never been married and until now have never had any known children.
Ain't life grand ?!?!
First of all I am adopted and have since found both my birth Mother's side of the family as well as my birth Father's side.
It started when my half Brother Keith (Father's side) called me and told me according to Ancestry.com I have a very close relative who thinks he is my Grandson. I looked at my DNA relatives and saw where in DNA strength the Grandson's strength falls between 4 of my half siblings and 2 of my half Nieces and 1 half Nephew.
I called the Grandson last evening and asked him to look at his DNA relatives and see if he not only sees Keith, but also sees Bruce, Lisa, and Karen, all on my birth Mother's side. He said yes. They all are 2 generations away from him. His Father was also adopted and I spoke to him (my Son) Sunday.
I have never been married and until now have never had any known children.
Ain't life grand ?!?!
Incredible day
Incredible day for me today. Through Ancestry.com I was contacted by someone who appears to be my biological Grandson. His Father was adopted. The possible Grandson is going to gift his Dad with a DNA kit from Ancestry. When his results come in, in about 2 months, I may discover a Son I never knew I had.
Missing California teen autistic Connerjack Oswalt found safe in Utah after three years
After three years of desperation, the family of missing California teen Connerjack Oswalt is overjoyed after the teenager was found this week in Park City, Utah.
In September 2019, then-16-year-old Oswalt was reported missing by the family in Clearlake, Calif.
The National Missing and Unidentified Persons System says that Oswalt, who was diagnosed with autism in 2014, had "a history of running away." Prior to his disappearance in September 2019, NamUs reported that he went missing in May of the same year after his mother took his phone away; he fled his home in Clearlake, taking only his cat.
He then reportedly went missing again on September 28, 2019.
Over recent weeks, reports came in to the Summit County Sheriff's Office of a man pushing a shopping cart in Summit Park in Park City. The last report sighted him sleeping outside Jeremy's Store, a convenience store by a gas station near the I-80.
Oswalt reportedly declined to tell the officers his name, but he allowed them to scan his fingerprints, revealing he had a warrant out of Nevada under the misspelled name "Conner Jack Oswald." After suspecting there was more to his story and researching missing people that might fit his profile in National Center for Missing and Exploited Children database, the match was made.
Oswalt's family had moved from California to Idaho since his disappearance. "We searched all over California, we had the missing centers of America, we had the Polly Klaas Foundation and the DOJ," Oswalt's mom told CBS News. "We've had a lot of false hope over the last two-and-a-half years," added Oswalt's stepfather, Gerald Flint.
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In September 2019, then-16-year-old Oswalt was reported missing by the family in Clearlake, Calif.
The National Missing and Unidentified Persons System says that Oswalt, who was diagnosed with autism in 2014, had "a history of running away." Prior to his disappearance in September 2019, NamUs reported that he went missing in May of the same year after his mother took his phone away; he fled his home in Clearlake, taking only his cat.
He then reportedly went missing again on September 28, 2019.
Over recent weeks, reports came in to the Summit County Sheriff's Office of a man pushing a shopping cart in Summit Park in Park City. The last report sighted him sleeping outside Jeremy's Store, a convenience store by a gas station near the I-80.
Oswalt reportedly declined to tell the officers his name, but he allowed them to scan his fingerprints, revealing he had a warrant out of Nevada under the misspelled name "Conner Jack Oswald." After suspecting there was more to his story and researching missing people that might fit his profile in National Center for Missing and Exploited Children database, the match was made.
Oswalt's family had moved from California to Idaho since his disappearance. "We searched all over California, we had the missing centers of America, we had the Polly Klaas Foundation and the DOJ," Oswalt's mom told CBS News. "We've had a lot of false hope over the last two-and-a-half years," added Oswalt's stepfather, Gerald Flint.
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The career politician.
East of CA, sum where in Amerika, gasoline sold for $1.68 a gallon on Nov. 9, 2020.
Meanwhile, on that same day here in Fowler CA...
Gasoline was @ $4.20..( Chevron/ Texaco.
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Deut. 9:11...2 table covenant
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Lavoris...
My family used to buy Lavoris mouthwash when I was a kid. I thought the company went out of business as I haven't seen the product in a generation. I went to the dollar store (where things are $1.25 now) and was surprised to see they still sell this nostalgia product.
I brought home a bottle!
It's cinnamon flavor with a bright red color. Wow... a blast from the past.
I brought home a bottle!
It's cinnamon flavor with a bright red color. Wow... a blast from the past.
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Headed for nowhere } jets Overhead...
... eventually I will convince you of my bona fide.$..
... heavens on Fire / the Radio Department
..radio surgery / new found glory...
In rainbows.. )..) radio head...
...radio free Europe $ucked. Look @ Evidence. From 1945 to 1960...communism spread around the world @ ( approx.) 44 sq. Miles per hour. Washington is ground zero.
...part 2. The super bowl came from Montana.
..eYe don't presume to know what Joe Biden is saying here-- but it is cool.
Z. super Position / young the GIANT.
....y. GIGANTIC / P I X I E S.
X. .phone Power / they might be Giants.
..also ran.) Stargazer / rainbow
...just sayin, the new Age will feature GIANTS. LOOK, LOOK, LOOK at LP rainbow rising 1976.
...a few notes along this way...a.) code name for allied WW2 war plan; RAINBOW
b.) Song that the studio heads wanted to cut from 1939's wiz.of Oz.) Sum where over the rainbow
Place where deals were made in L A... rainbow cafe, where also the deep purple morphed into the band
Rainbow..circa 74/75.
C.) .most popular Joe Rogan podcast f. Alex Jones in an inverse rainbow NASA shirt. Comment scroll is already Legendary.
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Life is unpredictable.
I lost my younger brother on 23rd December 2021. He was 37 years old. He died of a heart attack. I am not happy on new year, I miss him a lot. Now life seems depressing and boring.
How uncertain is life. Everything you did, everything you thought was over in an instant.
I have heard people say that sharing reduces sorrow. That's why I'm trying to share my grief here.
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