Revenge, Getting Even, etc. (114)
Revenge..Well I would like to say that when I was growing up I was raised to use my fists before my words, and I took this lesson with me all the way to high school. and after. I have first hand on revenge...Nothing good has ever come from it, Ive hurt alot of people to prove I wouldnt be talked down to, and was always ready to be called out to prove myself. I use to think being a man was fighting and getting even with someone who disrespects you. But not once in my life has anything good come from it except for the thought of "I win" but in all honesty, It still didnt change the fact of what happened to me and it didnt change anything about the past situation that wanted me to get even in the first place.
I believe that two wrongs do not make a right and this is a lesson you will have to learn for yourself.
Forgive and move on is better then planning out an attack lol But revenge cant always be the same...
If a man hurt my family in a serious way I doubt I could wait for the law to handle it or for god to. so I may be a hypocrite in that sense.
I know deep down it really doesnt matter what people say or do, Self-Respect,knowledge,goals, and love is already alot to handle so dont waste time plotting on someone.lol. So just let go and move on.
I believe that two wrongs do not make a right and this is a lesson you will have to learn for yourself.
Forgive and move on is better then planning out an attack lol But revenge cant always be the same...
If a man hurt my family in a serious way I doubt I could wait for the law to handle it or for god to. so I may be a hypocrite in that sense.
I know deep down it really doesnt matter what people say or do, Self-Respect,knowledge,goals, and love is already alot to handle so dont waste time plotting on someone.lol. So just let go and move on.
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hopefloats: Thank you!
Sometimes people are put in positions with no choice but to seek revenge. It's not that I'm "lowering" myself or "playing" God or anything like that. But when I'm pushed into a corner I "will" come out fighting. Case closed.
Sometimes people are put in positions with no choice but to seek revenge. It's not that I'm "lowering" myself or "playing" God or anything like that. But when I'm pushed into a corner I "will" come out fighting. Case closed.
This post was for rodolpho.
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snugglysenior: Hi Hope.
I was living in a furnished room in a private home back in the early 90's.
The lady that rented the room to me wasn't reporting the income on her taxes. I didn't care....at that point.
When winter came she used a kerosene heater to heat the house. I was terrified and told someone. That person told me I should tell the renter how dangerous it is. I was nervous about telling someone what they should do in their own home so I asked my friend to talk to her.
My friend told the lady and within an hour the lady said I had 30 days to move out. I was very destitute at that time in my life and didn't have much time to find another furnished room.
I was angry and notified the IRS that this woman has been renting a room for many years and not reporting it on her income taxes.
Was I a scumbag for doing that, probably. But I wanted revenge. I wanted her to be in the same boat she put me in.
I'm not proud to tell you this....it's just the truth.
I was living in a furnished room in a private home back in the early 90's.
The lady that rented the room to me wasn't reporting the income on her taxes. I didn't care....at that point.
When winter came she used a kerosene heater to heat the house. I was terrified and told someone. That person told me I should tell the renter how dangerous it is. I was nervous about telling someone what they should do in their own home so I asked my friend to talk to her.
My friend told the lady and within an hour the lady said I had 30 days to move out. I was very destitute at that time in my life and didn't have much time to find another furnished room.
I was angry and notified the IRS that this woman has been renting a room for many years and not reporting it on her income taxes.
Was I a scumbag for doing that, probably. But I wanted revenge. I wanted her to be in the same boat she put me in.
I'm not proud to tell you this....it's just the truth.
As a renter you did have legal rights. You just informed the wrong agency.
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I do try not to entertain the idea of revenge any more.
Yes, cs is great at showing the effect of the cause.
One just has to read the threads and posts to see it.
Namaste'
(a peaceful life is what
I'm aiming for.
Yes, cs is great at showing the effect of the cause.
One just has to read the threads and posts to see it.
Namaste'
(a peaceful life is what
I'm aiming for.
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Karma didn't pay my rent or the mechanic who worked on my car nor did Karma go to the grocery store with me to pay the bill.
This woman put me out on the street and you think I should have let her treat me that way.
We are always told to stand up for ourselves. That's what I did.
hopefloats: This post was for rodolpho.
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NAKEDMUDPEOPLE: As a renter you did have legal rights. You just informed the wrong agency.
May you're right about the wrong agency. I didn't want to get in a legal battle. I wanted revenge!!!!!!
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snugglysenior: Karma didn't pay my rent or the mechanic who worked on my car nor did Karma go to the grocery store with me to pay the bill.
This woman put me out on the street and you think I should have let her treat me that way.
We are always told to stand up for ourselves. That's what I did.
This woman put me out on the street and you think I should have let her treat me that way.
We are always told to stand up for ourselves. That's what I did.
Maybe you should have moved in with Karma, and she might have...
You seem bitter Snuggles. Some of us do not believe in revenge, even though you do. Does not make us any better nor you any worse.
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I won't deny that I have taken some measures of revenge in the past - one that comes to mind involved me getting a little carried away with the laundry soap while washing someone's jeans this of course resulted in 'soap lumps'. Yes, I could have rinsed them out before drying - but the point was better made taking an alternate measure. Why should he get to spend all his time with friends and usually in a bar while I tackle 'domestic bliss' in the form of his laundry?
The other incident involved a very upset friend, her recently ex-boyfriend showing up at the same rodeo with someone new and being overly blatant about it (including moving his campsite right next to ours). When they retired for the night somehow his wooden steps for the camper ended up in the bonfire
The best part was when he came out of the camper the next morning...
I will say that I have learned that karma is the best revenge.
The other incident involved a very upset friend, her recently ex-boyfriend showing up at the same rodeo with someone new and being overly blatant about it (including moving his campsite right next to ours). When they retired for the night somehow his wooden steps for the camper ended up in the bonfire
The best part was when he came out of the camper the next morning...
I will say that I have learned that karma is the best revenge.
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"When I was younger,I wanted to take revenge,as
there were many who did me wrong.And,I did take
revenge.It felt good just to get back at the
people who hurt me.But,now that I'm at a wiser
and more mature age,I think back and feel sorry
for my actions,as a younger woman.So,now whenever
something or someone offends me,in any way,
my actions are to think before responding to them."
there were many who did me wrong.And,I did take
revenge.It felt good just to get back at the
people who hurt me.But,now that I'm at a wiser
and more mature age,I think back and feel sorry
for my actions,as a younger woman.So,now whenever
something or someone offends me,in any way,
my actions are to think before responding to them."
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snugglysenior: SA, I'm not accusing anyone of anything.
Nor am I trying to convince anyone that what I did is the way to go.
I'm bitter about the situation this woman put me in. I suppose I should have called the fire department and told them she was using kerosene to heat the house. She still would have thrown me out!
You guys are angry with me today. Not all your fault nor all mine. This is the third thread I've been told I'm all wrong. Woe is me And I'm sure it won't be the last.
Think about how you feel when you believe you are right. Whether it's right or wrong, you believe in what you do.
That's what counts.
She probably had to pay up on her taxes but I know for sure that she wasn't thrown out on the street. She still lives in a fine neighborhood.
Nor am I trying to convince anyone that what I did is the way to go.
I'm bitter about the situation this woman put me in. I suppose I should have called the fire department and told them she was using kerosene to heat the house. She still would have thrown me out!
You guys are angry with me today. Not all your fault nor all mine. This is the third thread I've been told I'm all wrong. Woe is me And I'm sure it won't be the last.
Think about how you feel when you believe you are right. Whether it's right or wrong, you believe in what you do.
That's what counts.
She probably had to pay up on her taxes but I know for sure that she wasn't thrown out on the street. She still lives in a fine neighborhood.
No one is angry with you, Snuggles. You start threads, and then when someone isn't in agreement with you or your topic you say people are angry with you or want to fight with you or we lie.
You just accused those of us who don't believe in revenge as basically liars and above you. In your other thread you accused those who gave different opinions of starting fights with you.
Go reread your threads and see how you are coming across. You seem bitter. You mentioned, in your other thread, you had a bad week-end but no need to take it out on us.....
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hopefloats: Hi Corinne. I can honestly say that I've taken revenge into my own hands twice in my life. The first was taking my ex back to court over the children. And the second was turning my scammer in to crime stoppers after attaining his location. Other than that I've always let Karma be the teacher.
Good for you, Hope, for doing what you could when you could to put things right. I don't consider that revenge.
Now, to address the OP...of course I've thought about revenge. I'm human, after all. Have I ever taken revenge on anyone? As tempting as it's been at times, the answer is no. I have always forgiven and moved on. I have to answer to myself in the end.
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Revenge is tiring
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I agree, I too was younger and wanted immediate gratification.
If you ask me would I do it today, no I wouldn't. Not because I don't believe in it but because I get nervous easily these late years in my life and like someone else said, I'd only be creating a condition for myself that wouldn't be good.
In 2005 my boyfriend robbed me of $60,000. It forced me into bankruptcy. Did I get revenge on him. No. I could have made his life miserable cause I knew what buttons to push.
I probably didn't do it cause I was emotionally hurt as well as financially.
It's just not worth it anymore.....
If you ask me would I do it today, no I wouldn't. Not because I don't believe in it but because I get nervous easily these late years in my life and like someone else said, I'd only be creating a condition for myself that wouldn't be good.
In 2005 my boyfriend robbed me of $60,000. It forced me into bankruptcy. Did I get revenge on him. No. I could have made his life miserable cause I knew what buttons to push.
I probably didn't do it cause I was emotionally hurt as well as financially.
It's just not worth it anymore.....
Polarbutterfly: "When I was younger,I wanted to take revenge,as
there were many who did me wrong.And,I did take
revenge.It felt good just to get back at the
people who hurt me.But,now that I'm at a wiser
and more mature age,I think back and feel sorry
for my actions,as a younger woman.So,now whenever
something or someone offends me,in any way,
my actions are to think before responding to them."
there were many who did me wrong.And,I did take
revenge.It felt good just to get back at the
people who hurt me.But,now that I'm at a wiser
and more mature age,I think back and feel sorry
for my actions,as a younger woman.So,now whenever
something or someone offends me,in any way,
my actions are to think before responding to them."
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Mercedes1: Revenge is tiring
I agree.
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snugglysenior: It seems that I've been getting in trouble today with my posts. Geez, I hope that has ended.
I'm also hoping that you will have an interest in this subject.
I think (I'm not saying you have) at one time or another we have thought of revenge or getting even. I certainly have.
There is alot to talk about if we are all honest.
The sayings go that "revenge is sweet"
"getting even is the way to go"
"an eye for an eye"
How do you feel about getting revenge or getting even with those that hurt you.
I'm also hoping that you will have an interest in this subject.
I think (I'm not saying you have) at one time or another we have thought of revenge or getting even. I certainly have.
There is alot to talk about if we are all honest.
The sayings go that "revenge is sweet"
"getting even is the way to go"
"an eye for an eye"
How do you feel about getting revenge or getting even with those that hurt you.
Why are you getting into trouble with your posts, love?!
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People think I'm trying to change their opinion about something when it is different from mine. I would never do that.
I like to discuss things. That's why I joined the forums, to talk to people.
Maybe I'm just having a feel sorry for myself day. Oh, poor Corinne
I can make fun of myself can't I ???
I don't know Rose. Maybe it's the time change. Gotta blame it on something
For all those that read this, I REALLY do try to get along with everyone, even those that have bashed me in the past. I have have had private conversations with people trying to make people understand me. That's all I want from you guys.....just understand me.....
I like to discuss things. That's why I joined the forums, to talk to people.
Maybe I'm just having a feel sorry for myself day. Oh, poor Corinne
I can make fun of myself can't I ???I don't know Rose. Maybe it's the time change. Gotta blame it on something
For all those that read this, I REALLY do try to get along with everyone, even those that have bashed me in the past. I have have had private conversations with people trying to make people understand me. That's all I want from you guys.....just understand me.....
roseofsharon: Why are you getting into trouble with your posts, love?!
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rodolpho: dutch saying says revenge is sweet,
being succesfull is the best revenge.
being succesfull is the best revenge.
Yep....correct my Dutch Grand parents taught me that too....Good call there Rodolpho
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snugglysenior: SA, I respect you. And I know you mean no harm - that you are trying to show me where you think I am going wrong.
When I joined the forums, I was clueless how to work with it.
What I didn't know and still don't know is, when I start a thread, is it expected of me to respond to each and every poster??
There are times when I don't have a response to the poster but I feel I would be ignorant if I didn't acknowledge the time they took to write.
When I joined the forums, I was clueless how to work with it.
What I didn't know and still don't know is, when I start a thread, is it expected of me to respond to each and every poster??
There are times when I don't have a response to the poster but I feel I would be ignorant if I didn't acknowledge the time they took to write.
No, it is not expected of you or any thread starter to respond to the posts in their threads they started. Threads are started for discussions on those topics which those thread starters deem interesting. (and some not so interesting).
I am trying to tell you that we all don't agree with your opinions. No need to get angry with us. Again I will repeat, I do not believe in revenge. It doesn't make me goody-two shoes (as you stated) nor above you. This is my personal belief in Karma and so far she has not let me down.
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It is always tempting to get revenge on someone but the best thing is to not do so.
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Sometimes people are put in positions with no choice but to seek revenge. It's not that I'm "lowering" myself or "playing" God or anything like that. But when I'm pushed into a corner I "will" come out fighting. Case closed.