Hitting Rock Bottom and How Do You Act? ( Archived) (34)

When something is really crap in your life how do you respond and how do you treat the people that matter to you?

Do you push them away and find yourself saying things you do not mean?

After all if you push them away and they are not involved...then they will not get upset or hurt...

That you here yourself saying something harsh and pushing them away when really you mean the exact opposite.....

All you want is that hug and support...

Do you face it head on and with a very positive attitude?
Nothing will beat you.....

You put on that I am wonderful nothing gets me down...

The metal coat goes on and nothing will get through...

How do you feel and handle things that are really crap and make you hit rock bottom?

That's what I do (in red). When I don't feel well, I tend to be harsh in what I say. Knowing that of myself I stay away from people and avoid conversation because I don't want to say something that will be hurtful. I prefer to be left alone when I don't feel well.

When I have problems, I'm looking for someone to talk to.

I've been there, Tam...and am just pulling out of my most recent bout of it. I can honestly say that first I fight. Then if things are still heading downhill, I end up in a state of deep depression and withdrawal. This time I ended up with one foot starting to go off of the edge into the abyss. Closest I've ever come to stepping off into it. Then I start to pull out, and when I do I reach out to my friends and tell them what's going on, and ask for support and help. I start fighting again surrounded by that love and support, and make it to the other side. In the meantime, I find lessons that I've learned that I needed, and more strength is gained from the experience.

I have learned this time that there is freedom in letting go. That, and many others, were good lessons I needed to learn. I have also healed something from childhood that has shadowed me all of my life.

May you find peace and strength at the end of your trial, Tam.

Sometimes I want to be surrounded by love and encouragement. Other times I want to be left alone because there's nothing no one can do to make it better.

As many will state that being withdrawn is NOT the best solution as it sets up depression. But my thinking is this, if I can't even stand myself at the time, how in the world would I expect others to want to be around me?

Guess there's really no wrong answer.

Just always remember one thing Tam, when you're at the bottom there's only one place to look to.........................UP!!!

Rock bottom? The worst of the worst? If I'm completely devastated, I shut down. Function only as needed and that's it. My mom says it's like I turn into a robot on autopilot. That's rare though. Usually I keep it inside and put on an act for everyone else.

spent along time at the bottom but always pushed on ,and when your on your own its even harder.keep at it

Been there; done that. Lost my 20 year old son out of the clear blue for no apparent reason; then lost my wife after a 4 year battle with lung cancer. Dealt with both and came through okay. Life just is, period. Sometimes its fantastic; sometimes it really sucks! Have to deal with the hand you're dealt. Never made a whole lot of sense to get bitter about things that I had absolutely no control over. Took a while to get to this point but its who/where I am now.