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dcj22: When your best friend won't talk to you about something. It's like he knows what I need to talk about, but he doesn't want to listen to it, so unless we're talking about his interests or something neutral, he bails on me.
I have a specific thing that I want to ask him about, I've told him that I want to talk to him about something, but he's not there for me.
It hurts.
I have a specific thing that I want to ask him about, I've told him that I want to talk to him about something, but he's not there for me.
It hurts.
Bail on him D. If that is the best he can do then he is not a true friend. He is only looking out for his best intrest, not yours.
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dcj22: When your best friend won't talk to you about something. It's like he knows what I need to talk about, but he doesn't want to listen to it, so unless we're talking about his interests or something neutral, he bails on me.
I have a specific thing that I want to ask him about, I've told him that I want to talk to him about something, but he's not there for me.
It hurts.
I have a specific thing that I want to ask him about, I've told him that I want to talk to him about something, but he's not there for me.
It hurts.
My guess is that he is really NOT your best friend..
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sounds like your best friend is a self absorbed selfish dumba** to me.
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Dana, My best friend lives in Australia. I can talk to
him about anything and visa/versa. In fact, he probably
knows me better than I know myself.
Maybe this guy doesn't want to listen to you talk about
another man in your life because he wants to be that man.
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sassy49senior: Dana, My best friend lives in Australia. I can talk to
him about anything and visa/versa. In fact, he probably
knows me better than I know myself.
Maybe this guy doesn't want to listen to you talk about
another man in your life because he wants to be that man.
him about anything and visa/versa. In fact, he probably
knows me better than I know myself.
Maybe this guy doesn't want to listen to you talk about
another man in your life because he wants to be that man.
This is my opinion!!! Male/female platonic friendship is very, very rare. Yes it happens, but not very often. Just realize even with best friends their are borders that sometimes you have to respect and not cross. He appears to be a "real" friend and I wouldn't lose him over this.
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dcj22: When your best friend won't talk to you about something. It's like he knows what I need to talk about, but he doesn't want to listen to it, so unless we're talking about his interests or something neutral, he bails on me.
I have a specific thing that I want to ask him about, I've told him that I want to talk to him about something, but he's not there for me.
It hurts.
I have a specific thing that I want to ask him about, I've told him that I want to talk to him about something, but he's not there for me.
It hurts.
Drop him as a friend, Dana. This is not your best friend, then, for he's not acting like anyone's friend at all. Best friends are your shoulders to cry and lean on when you need them, not people who won't give you the time of day when you tell them that you need to talk to them.
My goodness, some of my friends are alcoholics, and one of the closest of those is a man with strong commitment issues who occasionally pushes me completely away, and yet when I really need them, they're there for me...100%. My shoulders to lean on and cry on, arms that hold me when I need them, and any other support that they can offer me.
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dcj22: No, I'm trying to talk to a guy friend about another man!
Maybe thats the problem...
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don't judge too harshly! He may have a secret you don't know about and is uncomfortable talking about certain things. Take your problem to someone else. Don't lose a friend too quickly
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Witchaywoman: Are you trying to talk to a guy about commitment?
Did ya ever think that he doesn't want to hear about it cause really, he may have feelings for you????
OR maybe he is avoiding the inevidable....that he is in LIKE or LOVE with you????
or maybe he doesn't want to hear it cause in the past, it was the same issue and he just feels like a broken record...always telling you the same thing on the SAME THING you keep telling him!!!???
Just a thought...
good luck..
and if THAT is not the issue,that he has the hots for you, then I concur with some of the other posts....GET A NEW BEST FRIEND..
CHEERS
Curvy
dcj22: No, I'm trying to talk to a guy friend about another man!
Did ya ever think that he doesn't want to hear about it cause really, he may have feelings for you????
OR maybe he is avoiding the inevidable....that he is in LIKE or LOVE with you????
or maybe he doesn't want to hear it cause in the past, it was the same issue and he just feels like a broken record...always telling you the same thing on the SAME THING you keep telling him!!!???
Just a thought...good luck..
and if THAT is not the issue,that he has the hots for you, then I concur with some of the other posts....GET A NEW BEST FRIEND..
CHEERS
Curvy
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dcj22: No, I'm trying to talk to a guy friend about another man!
Dana, after reading through some more of this, I'm going to make a different suggestion. He might have chosen to change the relationship to this level, but it doesn't mean he can listen to you talk about another man, especially in a romantic sense. Talk to someone else about this situation, someone who you also value for their wisdom and life experience.
You know I'm always here for you, btw.
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dcj22: You're right, Jon. Actually, I should. I'm always there for him. Now I want him there for me. I promise you that I will talk to him about that.
A while back, he chose to be my friend instead of my partner. Now I want that friendship.
A while back, he chose to be my friend instead of my partner. Now I want that friendship.
He's uncomfortable talking about your feelings for another guy, Dana? Not terribly surprising, I'm thinking...
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monty611: Get a new best friend that wants to listen and also discuss things!! Dont sit back an be all hurt by someone that hasnt got that ability!
JMO
JMO
I'm with monty611, that's no best friend. Best friends talk and listen not just about their interests or something neutral.
I had developed a few female friends like that once. I had to make the contacts all the time, only time they bothered to think about me, and contact me, was when something broke around the house or their car. Since I became suddenly busy every time they called, when their car broke down, they went away.
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He knows what I need to talk about, but he doesn't want to listen to it. ...It hurts.
There's always a reason for behavior.
My guess is that he knows that his own opinion on the subject will clash with yours. He's doesn't want it to trouble your friendship.
Another possibility is that the subject touches on a painful experience in his own life, so he avoids it for reasons that have nothing to do with you.