Dating a married man/woman (65)
never have and never will. i will not break up a family
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druidess6308: No, not for most of us. And men and women have cheated on their spouses for centuries...it was just kept hush all of those years ago. Now we can divorce because of it and rail against it.
Most of the reasons why some date married people have been mentioned...and I agree with the majority here, I wouldn't date anyone who is still attached. Separated and living separately I used to consider, but not any more. Attached is attached, and I won't go there.
Most of the reasons why some date married people have been mentioned...and I agree with the majority here, I wouldn't date anyone who is still attached. Separated and living separately I used to consider, but not any more. Attached is attached, and I won't go there.
Irrespective of today women being liberated many continue to perceive a married man as having type of security
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Dmire: Irrespective of today women being liberated many continue to perceive a married man as having type of security
Mistresses have been "kept" by married men for centuries, Dmire...the only thing that I see has changed is that some men aren't as picky as they used to be. 
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BOBANBOBAN: Baby.........only if you`r marryd.....
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Nothing good will ever come from dating a married person and if you do you better hope her husband isn't a good marksman. As for me I won't go there.
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lonelygirl53: never have and never will. i will not break up a family
But some womenperceive having an affair with a married man as asort of triumph over the wife and as such they get a feeling of acconpolishment and triumph over the legitimate woman.
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Goofie42: I have dated some men only to find out that they were married and I left before it went anywhere. In their cases, they said they were missing the passion in their lives. Yes, I was naive and didn't see the sings, but oh soooo careful now.
Yes, that can be the other problem...and many times there's no way to tell that they're married until it's too late. Married men who hunt for affairs don't often give it away early in the game. And then there are married men who have told me that their wedding ring is a turn on for women who don't want commitment, but want a steady partner.
I don't get it myself...I dated one married man accidentally. He told me he was divorced, and he was living in the barracks, so it seemed to be right. Suddenly he was moving his stuff into post housing and getting his furniture delivered before his wife and daughter arrived, and it was time to put the wedding band back on. I was furious. And no, I would never have dated him if I knew he was married...even at 19 I wasn't that stupid, and certainly was never desperate.
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Dmire: But some womenperceive having an affair with a married man as asort of triumph over the wife and as such they get a feeling of acconpolishment and triumph over the legitimate woman.
Yeah...and I have a name or five for them...none of which are complimentary.
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Because it is wrong.Do it and it will be retuned on you. Then you will see how much fun it is.
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romanticman4u: Nothing good will ever come from dating a married person and if you do you better hope her husband isn't a good marksman. As for me I won't go there.
Nice pics.....
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druidess6308: Mistresses have been "kept" by married men for centuries, Dmire...the only thing that I see has changed is that some men aren't as picky as they used to be.
So therefore there is no denying that times have changed and most of us live in a culture that largely dismisses significance of marriage.This has lend many young men and wome to believe that all people out there are incapable of being faithful
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In one respect, I can understand why someone would not date a married one.
But, then, love is love, and what kind of love is it if it’s self-limited, with rules and restrictions?
If you fall for someone who’s married, you’ve simply fallen, the married bit is irrelevant, sort of. If the man leaves his wife for you, then he’s ending up with the one he truly wants to be with.
The marriage would be false if he remained simply because he’s abiding by some religious rules.
Ask yourself this….
If you lived with a man who told you, honest, that he’s having stronger feelings for someone else who he met at work “but I’m married to you and will respect the vows we took so am not planning no leaving you”
How much love would you feel, and how much would you carry on with that sort of arrangement?
But, then, love is love, and what kind of love is it if it’s self-limited, with rules and restrictions?
If you fall for someone who’s married, you’ve simply fallen, the married bit is irrelevant, sort of. If the man leaves his wife for you, then he’s ending up with the one he truly wants to be with.
The marriage would be false if he remained simply because he’s abiding by some religious rules.
Ask yourself this….
If you lived with a man who told you, honest, that he’s having stronger feelings for someone else who he met at work “but I’m married to you and will respect the vows we took so am not planning no leaving you”
How much love would you feel, and how much would you carry on with that sort of arrangement?
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CaptainBeirutIII: In one respect, I can understand why someone would not date a married one.
But, then, love is love, and what kind of love is it if it’s self-limited, with rules and restrictions?
If you fall for someone who’s married, you’ve simply fallen, the married bit is irrelevant, sort of. If the man leaves his wife for you, then he’s ending up with the one he truly wants to be with.
The marriage would be false if he remained simply because he’s abiding by some religious rules.
Ask yourself this….
If you lived with a man who told you, honest, that he’s having stronger feelings for someone else who he met at work “but I’m married to you and will respect the vows we took so am not planning no leaving you”
How much love would you feel, and how much would you carry on with that sort of arrangement?
But, then, love is love, and what kind of love is it if it’s self-limited, with rules and restrictions?
If you fall for someone who’s married, you’ve simply fallen, the married bit is irrelevant, sort of. If the man leaves his wife for you, then he’s ending up with the one he truly wants to be with.
The marriage would be false if he remained simply because he’s abiding by some religious rules.
Ask yourself this….
If you lived with a man who told you, honest, that he’s having stronger feelings for someone else who he met at work “but I’m married to you and will respect the vows we took so am not planning no leaving you”
How much love would you feel, and how much would you carry on with that sort of arrangement?
I get your point...
Well in a civilized society you have rules. Granted they my limit your actions as they are establish to protect people from those who have no limits. Need to draw a line some where.
On you second point then I say leave at the first sign then let the feeling grow or get physical which ever the case may be. That would be the right choice. If not they are just hedging his bet. After all he or she doesnt want to be standing out in the cold. That wouldnt be fair would it.
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Sommerauer71: Hi Dmire! Are you stating that you think becase one person is 'committed' to another that they should remember the commitment? What if a man has truly fallen in love?
Exactly Sommer.If i am married man and fall in love with another woman, after sometime its likely i will fall with a third one in future, and the cycle will keep repeated every time i get tired of latest catch
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Rules, love?
I shold have stated that to my ex husband.
Rle no 1. You are forbidden to fall in love, you must remain with me only for the rest of your days!
Yes, I took vows, he did too, how was he going to stop his feelings? Being married to me was not enough. He couldn't stop himself.
I shold have stated that to my ex husband.
Rle no 1. You are forbidden to fall in love, you must remain with me only for the rest of your days!
Yes, I took vows, he did too, how was he going to stop his feelings? Being married to me was not enough. He couldn't stop himself.
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Good4U2: I get your point...
Well in a civilized society you have rules. Granted they my limit your actions as they are establish to protect people from those who have no limits. Need to draw a line some where.
On you second point then I say leave at the first sign then let the feeling grow or get physical which ever the case may be. That would be the right choice. If not they are just hedging his bet. After all he or she doesnt want to be standing out in the cold. That wouldnt be fair would it.
Well in a civilized society you have rules. Granted they my limit your actions as they are establish to protect people from those who have no limits. Need to draw a line some where.
On you second point then I say leave at the first sign then let the feeling grow or get physical which ever the case may be. That would be the right choice. If not they are just hedging his bet. After all he or she doesnt want to be standing out in the cold. That wouldnt be fair would it.
No captain, it woudn't be fair.Then i guess the way forward is to divorce before you fall
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Sommerauer71: Rules, love?
I shold have stated that to my ex husband.
Rle no 1. You are forbidden to fall in love, you must remain with me only for the rest of your days!
Yes, I took vows, he did too, how was he going to stop his feelings? Being married to me was not enough. He couldn't stop himself.
These are the feelings am reffering to as emotions.The question is...Should a guy follow the emotion or conscience?Can you remember when you were dating before you got married how the same man was close to you?I shold have stated that to my ex husband.
Rle no 1. You are forbidden to fall in love, you must remain with me only for the rest of your days!
Yes, I took vows, he did too, how was he going to stop his feelings? Being married to me was not enough. He couldn't stop himself.
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I don't date someone if I know he's married. That vow he took with someone else makes him off limits to me. I could maybe be friends with him but that's it.
Besides, if he's committed to someone else, why would I want him?
Besides, if he's committed to someone else, why would I want him?
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Dmire: These are the feelings am reffering to as emotions.The question is...Should a guy follow the emotion or conscience?Can you remember when you were dating before you got married how the same man was close to you?
Does conscience never carry any weight? We use conscience for those times that it benefits us. When we have an overriding compulsion to follow another path, we disregard conscience. Many people abandon conscience for a fleeting emotion. Their so-called conscience is self-serving. I don't buy into this thought process, Dmire.
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