dillydally: Natural to change themselves ,yes .Others ,no .
i tend to disagree there, dear. it takes both hands to clap. if only one changes and the other partner doesn't in a relationship, it will be mighty hard to have a smooth and sustainable relationship.
mnowsa: i tend to disagree there, dear. it takes both hands to clap. if only one changes and the other partner doesn't in a relationship, it will be mighty hard to have a smooth and sustainable relationship.
not to change the topic but how's the drought? is it really as bad as the meida makes it out to be?
dillydallyBehind the hills and Burns ..., Strathclyde, Scotland UK57 Threads2,697 Posts
dillydallyBehind the hills and Burns ..., Strathclyde, Scotland UK2,697 posts
mnowsa: i tend to disagree there, dear. it takes both hands to clap. if only one changes and the other partner doesn't in a relationship, it will be mighty hard to have a smooth and sustainable relationship.
Of course change should be together . But for one to change the other without contributing ,is a no go for me .Yes we grow ...... tastes differ and we all eventually move from phase to phase .But can you honestly say your 'ok' with the fact your lady may change you to suit herself without sacrificing something of her own good self (unless of course its for health/money reasons ) .Why would someone allow another person to say who they can and cannot be ?!
dillydally: Of course change should be together . But for one to change the other without contributing ,is a no go for me .Yes we grow ...... tastes differ and we all eventually move from phase to phase .But can you honestly say your 'ok' with the fact your lady may change you to suit herself without sacrificing something of her own good self (unless of course its for health/money reasons ) .Why would someone allow another person to say who they can and cannot be ?!
well, gosh, what shall i say here? why you are making it only about "YOU"? if you have noticed it in your daily life, you will find that almost everyday you try to change yourself. for example, let's say, you like a certain dress and you really like to wear it outside to your work. But the problem is your boss or office doesn't allow that kind of dress. so what you do? you probably wear a different dress which you may not like that much. so things like that happen everyday in our lives.
mnowsa: well, gosh, what shall i say here? why you are making it only about "YOU"? if you have noticed it in your daily life, you will find that almost everyday you try to change yourself. for example, let's say, you like a certain dress and you really like to wear it outside to your work. But the problem is your boss or office doesn't allow that kind of dress. so what you do? you probably wear a different dress which you may not like that much. so things like that happen everyday in our lives.
so my question is, if we can do those things to change ourselves almost every other day, why it is so difficult for us to change ourselves for the person that we "claim" to "love" so much?
On this thread I just read through, pretty good opinions to share. I just finished a relationship and now I'm just letting time come to pass. I've seen people trying to improve themselves which I applaud greatly. Others that are laid-back and if it comes, it comes. People overcoming a break-up, still bitter and angry. I believe you should never give up there is always someone that can make you happy. I'm focused now in getting my life together and moving forward . I have enjoyed CS and thought at some point to get off for a while but then realized it is a good place to connect with others. You can never predict when that person is coming into your life, I had been alone for quite a while and tried but did not work. I'm inviting here everyone to be positive, I was just scrolling through the pictures how many faces are out there looking. Make that first move to initiate,( he or she) so many surprises can come into your life.!!
southmiami: On this thread I just read through, pretty good opinions to share. I just finished a relationship and now I'm just letting time come to pass. I've seen people trying to improve themselves which I applaud greatly. Others that are laid-back and if it comes, it comes. People overcoming a break-up, still bitter and angry. I believe you should never give up there is always someone that can make you happy. I'm focused now in getting my life together and moving forward . I have enjoyed CS and thought at some point to get off for a while but then realized it is a good place to connect with others. You can never predict when that person is coming into your life, I had been alone for quite a while and tried but did not work. I'm inviting here everyone to be positive, I was just scrolling through the pictures how many faces are out there looking. Make that first move to initiate,( he or she) so many surprises can come into your life.!!
I like what you said. I too thougth about leaving but decided to stick it out and see how my personal changes will come to affect my ability to give love.
steve6611Victor Harbor, South Australia Australia1,767 posts
avecaim: I like what you said. I too thougth about leaving but decided to stick it out and see how my personal changes will come to affect my ability to give love.
I was a great post & I prsonally am so glad you chose to stay Ave
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i tend to disagree there, dear. it takes both hands to clap. if only one changes and the other partner doesn't in a relationship, it will be mighty hard to have a smooth and sustainable relationship.