WHEN TO GIVE UP LOOKING (207)
druidess6308: Ah, this is what she meant...okay, then the right one hasn't come along for either of you. When they do, it will be mutual. And maybe you're not as ready as you think you are.
Last year I would have agreed with you on this. Now I am! Time gives you moments of soul searching.
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When to give up looking? I'm approaching that point now. I'm finding it hard to be on here, not sure this is the right way to go about meeting people. I'm finding it hard right now to want to go participate in activites where I would meet people. I guess just too many other things going on in my life that have me unsure of myself, myself worth, my future.
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HotrodLarrys:
WE ALL came out of the Damaged Freight Box, and are picking amoung the worst of Choices...... We are Scratching at the bottom of a Dirty Barrel...... and The Choices are not Good, And to Me has Become very discouraging, But who Has the Balls Tos Say it?????? I Did!
WE ALL came out of the Damaged Freight Box, and are picking amoung the worst of Choices...... We are Scratching at the bottom of a Dirty Barrel...... and The Choices are not Good, And to Me has Become very discouraging, But who Has the Balls Tos Say it?????? I Did!
I don't have balls,(thank God) but I think that it is insulting to say that you are picking among the worst of choices, the bottom of a dirty barrel.
Not everyone on here is a 'loser' as you imply. If you feel that way, then why are you looking here Are you one of the worst choices and sediment on the bottom of that barrel too? I'm not trying to start a fight with you, but you are so damn negative.
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When you`ve been on CS for 2 years beaching about the same thing.
Theirs women that are so picky that even after 10,000+ men contacted them they still think they can do better.
Don`t worry chances are you`ll be alone for a long time as many women on this site. Welcome to the gang.
Theirs women that are so picky that even after 10,000+ men contacted them they still think they can do better.
Don`t worry chances are you`ll be alone for a long time as many women on this site. Welcome to the gang.
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Big_John: Last year I would have agreed with you on this. Now I am! Time gives you moments of soul searching.
Yes, John, it does. I feel the same way. I discovered that I joined here and other sites long before I was actually done mourning and ready to love again. But I did find that here I had support from a wonderful group of people, many of whom have become friends, that helped me through that time. And now, I'm ready to love again when it happens. I'll go back to the fact, then, that the right one hasn't come along. When it's time, they will. I do wish you luck in finding her, John. I know how much you want someone special to spend the rest of your life with, and to travel with you.
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Brian67: When you`ve been on CS for 2 years beaching about the same thing.
Theirs women that are so picky that even after 10,000+ men contacted them they still think they can do better.
Don`t worry chances are you`ll be alone for a long time as many women on this site. Welcome to the gang.
Theirs women that are so picky that even after 10,000+ men contacted them they still think they can do better.
Don`t worry chances are you`ll be alone for a long time as many women on this site. Welcome to the gang.
I have been alone for a long time.
It's only recently that I decided
to start looking,hopefully start anew.
So,I will say that my being alone
is a choice,not because no one wanted me.
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druidess6308: Yes, John, it does. I feel the same way. I discovered that I joined here and other sites long before I was actually done mourning and ready to love again. But I did find that here I had support from a wonderful group of people, many of whom have become friends, that helped me through that time. And now, I'm ready to love again when it happens.
I'll go back to the fact, then, that the right one hasn't come along. When it's time, they will. I do wish you luck in finding her, John. I know how much you want someone special to spend the rest of your life with, and to travel with you.
I'll go back to the fact, then, that the right one hasn't come along. When it's time, they will. I do wish you luck in finding her, John. I know how much you want someone special to spend the rest of your life with, and to travel with you.
Several of us on CS are coming from the same place. The time will be right when it is right. Thanks for the desire for me to find her. I know she is out here somewhere looking for me. Maybe I will find her today or tomorrow. Hey I have a date this weekend.
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ladyfingers: I don't have balls,(thank God) but I think that it is insulting to say that you are picking among the worst of choices, the bottom of a dirty barrel.
Not everyone on here is a 'loser' as you imply. If you feel that way, then why are you looking here Are you one of the worst choices and sediment on the bottom of that barrel too? I'm not trying to start a fight with you, but you are so damn negative.
Not everyone on here is a 'loser' as you imply. If you feel that way, then why are you looking here Are you one of the worst choices and sediment on the bottom of that barrel too? I'm not trying to start a fight with you, but you are so damn negative.
Good think you saw this before I did, LF. I don't know if I'd have been quite as kind, which is why I'm just agreeing with you.
I have to ask the same thing...if you feel that way, then you feel you're part of the bottom of a dirty barrel too. And if you feel that's all we are, why are you here, Larry?
Some of us weren't rejected by our last love, they died. Some of us left unhealthy relationships and made ourselves healthier before looking for another. I think many here are the top of a clean barrel...they're positive, funny, intelligent, and have their lives and themselves together. I will agree that I don't feel you're one of those because you're very negative.
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Big_John: Several of us on CS are coming from the same place. The time will be right when it is right. Thanks for the desire for me to find her. I know she is out here somewhere looking for me. Maybe I will find her today or tomorrow. Hey I have a date this weekend.
Cool! I hope it goes well! If nothing else, I hope you have fun and enjoy the date.
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westie97: When to give up looking? I'm approaching that point now. I'm finding it hard to be on here, not sure this is the right way to go about meeting people. I'm finding it hard right now to want to go participate in activites where I would meet people. I guess just too many other things going on in my life that have me unsure of myself, myself worth, my future.
And that's when it is time to take a break, Westie, and take some time to get yourself back together. That's what I do when I feel that way. I stop looking, and change all of my profiles to reflect that I'm not looking. If you need to, hide your profile for a bit, and take some time to pursue other activities and focus on bringing more positive energy into your life.
It's hard to attract someone if we don't feel attractive in some way. Blessings on your journey.
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Big_John: Honestly I have been doubting myself lately. I am picky. I refuse to settle. I do want someone in my life. I will not stop looking. I am loosing the interest in the chase though.
There are a lot of "I" in my statement above. Maybe this is my problem.
There are a lot of "I" in my statement above. Maybe this is my problem.
Yes " I" Think you are going thru, And can relate to what I an saying here..... The didscouragement of trying to be a good person, and Honestly desiring to Find a Good one, Yes JUST FRIGGIN ONE, out of the Thousands on here, or Millions, And Cannot find one who would be a Good match, I am PICKY TOO JOHN, I DONT WANT TRASH, just like you dont, I KNOW you are sincere, as I think you know I AM..... We have both been here a long time, and found what???????
Right , NOTHING, yes we have made a few friends, I didnt come to a Dating site to make friends, I came here to find , a Mate.... so Yes Tanio, WHEN do we just Give Up.....
It is awful hard to have hope, under , NO HOPE CONDITIONS!.....
Thjo I guess I will have some hope till I die... But the Hopes have severly deminished!
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I don't believe Hotrod is say'n any of us are losers. He's just try'n to get across the majority of us have been "beat-up" from previous relationships so we are in the same barrel so to speak. Some of us can't come to terms with our past so we pack the past with us which we shouldn't do because our past will ultimately be our future. I try to look at my past as a learning experience so I can be a better person for the future. We should all soul search and no matter how bad it hurts pick ourselves apart and search for the good and the bad. Retain our good traits, work on our bad ones and most of all admit our wrongs. None of us are or ever will be perfect but we can strive to be.
Ladyfingers you may not have balls but ya got guts!! Bless ya!!
Ladyfingers you may not have balls but ya got guts!! Bless ya!!
ladyfingers: I don't have balls,(thank God) but I think that it is insulting to say that you are picking among the worst of choices, the bottom of a dirty barrel.
Not everyone on here is a 'loser' as you imply. If you feel that way, then why are you looking here Are you one of the worst choices and sediment on the bottom of that barrel too? I'm not trying to start a fight with you, but you are so damn negative.
Not everyone on here is a 'loser' as you imply. If you feel that way, then why are you looking here Are you one of the worst choices and sediment on the bottom of that barrel too? I'm not trying to start a fight with you, but you are so damn negative.
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ladyfingers: I don't have balls,(thank God) but I think that it is insulting to say that you are picking among the worst of choices, the bottom of a dirty barrel.
Not everyone on here is a 'loser' as you imply. If you feel that way, then why are you looking here Are you one of the worst choices and sediment on the bottom of that barrel too? I'm not trying to start a fight with you, but you are so damn negative.
Not everyone on here is a 'loser' as you imply. If you feel that way, then why are you looking here Are you one of the worst choices and sediment on the bottom of that barrel too? I'm not trying to start a fight with you, but you are so damn negative.
I have been very positive , for a very long time, and maybe you havnt been played as a yo yo, over, over, over, and yes, I hardly ever feel this negative, but being caught up in GAMES Women ? Men? Where is sincerity in this world, And then others want to step in with there opinions, as to gang up on one for speaking the truth..... and some whop claim to be so good, and perfect , are the ones that may need to look at self....
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HotrodLarrys: Yes " I" Think you are going thru, And can relate to what I an saying here..... The didscouragement of trying to be a good person, and Honestly desiring to Find a Good one, Yes JUST FRIGGIN ONE, out of the Thousands on here, or Millions, And Cannot find one who would be a Good match, I am PICKY TOO JOHN, I DONT WANT TRASH, just like you dont, I KNOW you are sincere, as I think you know I AM..... We have both been here a long time, and found what??????? Right , NOTHING, yes we have made a few friends, I didnt come to a Dating site to make friends, I came here to find , a Mate.... so Yes Tanio, WHEN do we just Give Up..... It is awful hard to have hope, under , NO HOPE CONDITIONS!..... Thjo I guess I will have some hope till I die... But the Hopes have severly deminished!
Larry, may I make a suggestion that perhaps it is time that you take a break?
You had a more positive attitude in the beginning, but I've seen you become more negative over time. I still remember the wonderful threads you did about keeping the fires burning, and the positive things you had to say there...but it was months ago. Sometimes if it's starting to get to us, we do need to take a break from looking, or our frustration begins to make everything in our lives seem negative. Keeping your balance is important, and can require some more focus on our inner selves and on our lives offline for a little bit.
Seriously, if you're feeling it's that hopeless, then a break might do you good.
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HotrodLarrys: I have been very positive , for a very long time, and maybe you havnt been played as a yo yo, over, over, over, and yes, I hardly ever feel this negative, but being caught up in GAMES Women ? Men? Where is sincerity in this world, And then others want to step in with there opinions, as to gang up on one for speaking the truth..... and some whop claim to be so good, and perfect , are the ones that may need to look at self....
I've been played a lot in my life, too, Larry. I just don't let it make me see everyone as being that way, and I don't let it get me down. I just go on with my life, take a breather for a bit to recover, then take a chance again. You're not alone in this, and men do it to us, too.
And nobody was ganging up on you, we took offense to your offensive words. None here have ever claimed to be so good and perfect that I've seen...though I have seen some here say "I'm not looking for TRASH", which makes it seem that they feel that they're above a lot of others. Nobody is trash. So yes, people like that might need to take a look at self.
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wyowilly: I don't believe Hotrod is say'n any of us are losers. He's just try'n to get across the majority of us have been "beat-up" from previous relationships so we are in the same barrel so to speak. Some of us can't come to terms with our past so we pack the past with us which we shouldn't do because our past will ultimately be our future. I try to look at my past as a learning experience so I can be a better person for the future. We should all soul search and no matter how bad it hurts pick ourselves apart and search for the good and the bad. Retain our good traits, work on our bad ones and most of all admit our wrongs. None of us are or ever will be perfect but we can strive to be.
Ladyfingers you may not have balls but ya got guts!! Bless ya!!
Ladyfingers you may not have balls but ya got guts!! Bless ya!!
That is EXACTLY what I am saying, Many have been Beat up by the Foul ones, and No we are not all bad people, I am sharing my feeling as to what it does to those who have been hurt , over,and over, and then it being misunderstood, of what I am trying to present here, I am not Showing how negative I am , I am showing you the Friggin hurt that many low lifes can leave us with, even when we were the sincere, one, we still get the bad end, because the other had no heart.. The love of the world is growing cold.......
Not that all are not sincere..... but very few, as they have been done wrong,
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Before I came to this site just over 4 years ago, I spent time in quite a few others actively searching for someone to no avail.
When I came here, I didn't do any real searching, I jumped right into the forums. After ten months of being active in the forums, I met Shelia. This was 3 1/2 years ago
I'm a firm believer of the saying, "It will happen when it happens"
Earl
When I came here, I didn't do any real searching, I jumped right into the forums. After ten months of being active in the forums, I met Shelia. This was 3 1/2 years ago
I'm a firm believer of the saying, "It will happen when it happens"
Earl
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HotrodLarrys: That is EXACTLY what I am saying, Many have been Beat up by the Foul ones, and No we are not all bad people, I am sharing my feeling as to what it does to those who have been hurt , over,and over, and then it being misunderstood, of what I am trying to present here, I am not Showing how negative I am , I am showing you the Friggin hurt that many low lifes can leave us with, even when we were the sincere, one, we still get the bad end, because the other had no heart.. The love of the world is growing cold....... Not that all are not sincere..... but very few, as they have been done wrong,
I just finished speaking to a man a few minutes ago. We had pleasant conversation. A man that made my life a living hell while we were together - but guess what? We share a child together and for her sake some form of harmony has to reign. He is what I would consider one of the FOUL ONES that you mentioned. But guess what I will be damned if I am going to let my history with him or any other of the foul ones ruin my chances of happiness. I simply won't allow it! Just because people make a mess of our lives in the past does not mean you allow them to make a mess of your future. Negativity and bitterness only serve to keep you single and lonely. I have no time for that and neither should you. You can't allow your past to win. If you know you've got good to offer than project that good and others will see it and be attracted. If you know you're a good man then start believing it and ACTING LIKE IT. She can't find you because you're hiding under the cloak of "Look what they did to me." Remove it and when the time is right(and only when love feels you are truly ready)she will turn up. You do not know what your future will be
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Thank Tanio, and Druidess, I have been letting a few thing get me down, and I DO need to get my spirits back up... I have been frustrated for days now and even feeling my own attitude, and that isnt good, Tho I wioll do what ever I need to do to correct it, I have made it this far in life, and see i need to pick my chin up, despite the actions of others, Thanks to Both, Larry 
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There are a lot of "I" in my statement above. Maybe this is my problem.
Well, you are speaking of yourself. How can you omit the "I's" if they are your thoughts?