In response to: why waste my time people come on here pretending they want a relationship or to meet people ,but nobody wants to meet in person or call on the phone all they want to do is chat on here I thought we were all grown ups here Inn guess not!
not all people are like that on here but are scared of there feelings good people on here too and i think i have found one so dont give up yet
druidess6308: Ain't that the truth. I've had more honesty from people I've met on here than with some I've met in "real life".
And I've had games from some on here and other sites.
So, people are people, and all you can do is keep trying. Or do like some of us, and remain in the forums to make friends and keep in touch with old ones, and get to talk about things you don't often get to in "real life". Relax, laugh, joke...and act like life is fun, even for adults!
I for one am seriously looking for my sweetheart. I am old enough to have played about all the games I care to and truly desire to meet Miss right. About the phone call issue. I have been given her number by a lady I could get very serious about. We have a ton in common and even expressed our feelings about making love. I wrote her a short note and said I wanted her to read more about me and if she still wanted to talk on the phone I would love to. I them wrote a nice long message about myself and what I was hoping for in a relationship. I'm waiting for her reply. I hope it is favorable she COULD be the one.
Oh the games people play now, every night and every day now, never meaning what they say now, never saying what they mean but it is a little criteria of their responses and profiles to possibly meet someone. I take it with a grain of salt but you never know so just accept it for waht it is and enoy. GL in your search.
Jan1305: I have to disagree with you there druids.
Of course honesty can be found from the friends we make here, but that´s not what the OP is talking about. I believe she is referring to romantic interest, and many people here can undoubtedly concur that there are a lot of dishonest people lurking behind their computer screen, and playing games.
In real life this doesn´t happen with such ease, and the bad apples are quicker to spot.
I disagree with you. I just got out of a relationship where we were introduced by friends, they thought they knew him well enough and that we might be a good match, and they discovered that they were wrong. For how he treated me in the end, he is now being ostracized by all of the drivers he's up here with, and not at my request or will. He embarrassed them, and they're making him pay dearly for it to get the lesson across. That, though, was quick...he showed his true colors within a month.
I married a man who deceived me for over a year until we got married. I was stuck in that marriage for 5 years.
I've dated many men that I met in person first and seemed to be one way, and turned out to be another, or were just playing games. Some took longer to show their true colors than others. Same thing happens online. I see no difference.
I think you have to use your head if you decide to use dating sites, and with a bit of time its not hard to work out if a person is playing you along, it a risk we take when join these kind of sites.
I have had some brilliant dates and made some goos friends, its what you make of it
amelie13Sydney, New South Wales Australia327 posts
xpeejayx: why waste my time people come on here pretending they want a relationship or to meet people ,but nobody wants to meet in person or call on the phone all they want to do is chat on here I thought we were all grown ups here I guess not!
I guess some people may be keen to keep it to chat initially. I personally, would not rush to meet anyone or exchange phone numbers; out of safety concerns more than anything else. If the guys you are chatting with have indicated they don't want to meet or chat on the phone, they may be cautious, just seeing you as a friend for now or maybe even married.
xpeejayx: ...nobody wants to meet in person or call on the phone all they want to do is chat on here
Nobody's obliged to meet in person or telephone. If we want it to happen we have to convince them that it's worth the risk and effort. And I don't think blanket accusations is the way to do that.
That is not all true. You seem to have the expectation that all persons you come in contact with will be mature which is not necessarily the case. Some will disappoint you, but you should be encouraged that there are a lot of sincere individuals available.
xpeejayx: why waste my time people come on here pretending they want a relationship or to meet people ,but nobody wants to meet in person or call on the phone all they want to do is chat on here I thought we were all grown ups here I guess not!
Jan1305: I have to disagree with you there druids.
Of course honesty can be found from the friends we make here, but that´s not what the OP is talking about. I believe she is referring to romantic interest, and many people here can undoubtedly concur that there are a lot of dishonest people lurking behind their computer screen, and playing games.
In real life this doesn´t happen with such ease, and the bad apples are quicker to spot.
EXACTLY!! atleast someone understands and no I am not desperite like someone else commented all Im trying to say is that life is too short and we are not 16 anymore and to answer someone elses question it has been ALOT of people that say they will call and they dont I am not sitting by the phone waiting, trust me I do have a life! but it just seems like pp just like to chat online and not want to meet and yes I am on here to meet pp and to have a romantic relationship like my bio states Also there have been a few pp that have been dishonest eg: their carrers, their picture ,is not them but someone else, , their age etc....
anyways good luck to all hope you find what you are looking for Unfortunalty I will be getting off this site and try somehwere else take care and thank you all for your comments have a merry christmas and a happy new year!
druidess6308: Ain't that the truth. I've had more honesty from people I've met on here than with some I've met in "real life".
And I've had games from some on here and other sites.
So, people are people, and all you can do is keep trying. Or do like some of us, and remain in the forums to make friends and keep in touch with old ones, and get to talk about things you don't often get to in "real life". Relax, laugh, joke...and act like life is fun, even for adults!
xpeejayx: EXACTLY!! atleast someone understands and no I am not desperite like someone else commented all Im trying to say is that life is too short and we are not 16 anymore and to answer someone elses question it has been ALOT of people that say they will call and they dont I am not sitting by the phone waiting, trust me I do have a life! but it just seems like pp just like to chat online and not want to meet and yes I am on here to meet pp and to have a romantic relationship like my bio states Also there have been a few pp that have been dishonest eg: their carrers, their picture ,is not them but someone else, , their age etc....
anyways good luck to all hope you find what you are looking for Unfortunalty I will be getting off this site and try somehwere else take care and thank you all for your comments have a merry christmas and a happy new year!
Desertguy49South Western Desert, Arizona USA2,259 posts
In response to: why waste my time people come on here pretending they want a relationship or to meet people ,but nobody wants to meet in person or call on the phone all they want to do is chat on here I thought we were all grown ups here I guess not!
I'm not on here pretending or assuming anything, I find the international forums a great way to connect with a diverse group of gr8 people that I probably would have not otherwise had the chance to meet. I leave the possibility of meeting someone on here always open, but have no great expectations, if it happens great, if not, I still have a life out here in real time.
there is always going to be dishonest people online or in real life..yes the pc makes it a little easier to play games but you soon get to spot the fakes..On the occasions I have given my skype or phone number to guys they have called..this doesnt always lead to romance..it can just lead to finding new friends( I have several lovely women friends I chat too from here too)..so dont give up just take it easy and have fun..romance can happen when you least look for it.
scousedonLiverpool, Cheshire, England UK1,643 posts
solsticemoon: there is always going to be dishonest people online or in real life..yes the pc makes it a little easier to play games but you soon get to spot the fakes..On the occasions I have given my skype or phone number to guys they have called..this doesnt always lead to romance..it can just lead to finding new friends( I have several lovely women friends I chat too from here too)..so dont give up just take it easy and have fun..romance can happen when you least look for it.
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people come on here pretending they want a relationship or to meet people ,but nobody wants to meet in person or call on the phone
all they want to do is chat on here
I thought we were all grown ups here
Inn guess not!
not all people are like that on here but are scared of there feelings good people on here too and i think i have found one so dont give up yet