Swedish dating ( Archived) (44)

people, stuck in fear mode.

People .........thinking realistically .........

i read in a swedish newspaper that many swedish guys have to go and seek girls from thailand, because swedish babes are arrogant, drunk, shallow, materialistic, have a lot of demands, while thai women are nice, affectionate and family oriented.
i suppose all swedes are different like other people in the world, i had/have two swedish lovers, they are very different people. they are probaply a little reserved with people they don't know but none of them is cold. both of them are good in bed in completely different way.
i don't drink and never go to places when people have to be drunk to meet. i met my first lover via newspaper ad, another - on the internet,
OP, try local sites.

Yes, there are many differences between American and Swedish customs, as I have learned over the years from American family members and living in the US, etc. I think this one has to do with Swedes wanting to really mean what they say, before they say anything - in this case wanting to be sure what they feel about someone or something, before expressing it. As opposed to Americans, who like to tell people exactly what they think of them and anything else from the start - it is their way of being sociable.




Exactly - once you get to know them, they are just like most people. Drinking has traditionally been a big part of Swedish culture (vikings - need I say more...), and unfortunately a lot of people use it as a crutch when socializing.




I agree - well travelled people of any nationality are usually a bit more openminded, and perhaps even more sociable than many of their other countrymen. You do also need to keep in mind, though, that well travelled individuals are not only perhaps more familiar with the customs of your own country of origin, but also more used to speaking your language (unless you have managed to learn Swedish, of course ). Swedes, like many others in the world, are known for being able to handle the English language pretty well, but are also known for not being very happy about talking any foreign language until they feel they have mastered it more or less fully (which is not the case with people from many other countries, where you use the English you know, and fill in the blanks with body language, etc).




There is also another factor which is very important to understand the Swedish mentality, that might not be as well known - this is in Swedish known as 'Jantelagen'. This is a code of conduct that goes back a long time in Swedish history, and basically says that you should not stand out in any way - not be better than anyone else, or show off in any way. This was due to the poverty at the time, and in order for everyone to show solidarity with each other (still a big mantra in Sweden). This is still very strongly encoded in the Swedish genes, and anyone who dares talk to much about their good fortune, success in life, etc, is quickly scorned publically. Therefore, anyone who is different than the majority of Swedes, or thinks in a different way, does things differently, is looked at quite suspiciously. Thus it is more natural for a Swede to 'be one in the crowd', than to stand out as an individual. This also includes showing emotions too much in general (unless in private).

God Jul!

Do ya ever get the two guys together double-team for ya ?

Oh, that sounds so frustrating. I've never dated a Swede but it seems that a lot of people are not truly interested in commitment. I think that's fine but it can leave those of us who are feeling left out in the cold, so to speak.

I have no idea about your case because it's a personal matter
But personally I like Scandinavian attitude
I think they are very logical and realistic
Also they have many great Metal bands like "AmonAmarth" and Archenemy!

Yeah you may be on to something. It gets pretty damn cold here in Canada and the men here are cold. I think I should be Australia bound.