So I've been writing to women on this site and another site.. ( Archived) (21)

I've been writing messages to women on this site and another site and sometimes I get a reply and sometimes I don't. I've been told it isn't rude for a woman who isn't interested in me not to reply and that's fine. I understand that it's probably better that she doesn't reply than to tell me that she's not interested. What if she does reply and asks me something and I send her a response and she doesn't reply back? Isn't that considered rude? I've had mixed results with these dating sites. My friends tell me to not try so hard but I get impatient. I know people are going to say "stop whining" or "stop moping" but this is something that bothers me. When I take the time to write a message and a woman replies and then doesn't write back after I reply.

In your case, its apparent that you can compose sentences and thoughts, in some of the letters that I've received that is not so apparent, hence why waste my time and energy in corresponding to people that don't interest me or its like pulling teeth to correspond back and forth?

As well, sometimes life gets in the way, so give it a couple of days, write a quick note and see if they respond to that or not. If they don't - then simply move on.

I can empathize with you. When someone writes to me, I try to respond appropriately. If I prefer they not write back I try to convey that. Sometimes they don't get it so I have to be more firm. I know what I'm looking for, others do not but think they do.

What bothers me more are the number of men who "check me out" but never write a thing to me. Makes me wonder what it is...my pics, profile, or what?

Well although not easy maybe they have something else going on depending on what you write to them :-)

That works both ways sweetheart.

I have stopped writing to ladies, responses were hardly, if ever, forthcoming so I considered it a waste of time. Only yesterday, i sent a lady a flower - NOT as a chat up, merely a compliment on something, and she didn't have the common courtesy to respond with a Thank You.

I know you ladies get hit upon with plenty of emails, many that are disgusting too, and I apologize on behalf of the 'normal' males for those idiotic few...we aren't all like that!

I would ask the ladies though to have a thought for the feelings of those that do write a coherent and decent letter,to reply or respond to that writer even if it is a flower to say 'Thank you, but no thank you'.

Yes, naturally, you might get an unwarranted mail back and if you do, please report the ignorant bast**d to the powers that be.

One last thought, it takes some men a lot of courage (balls) to write to a lady in the hope that there might be a common ground with some interest....and when no response is forthcoming, it is and can be like a kick in those balls to some.

Yes I agree with that. I usually say good luck with your search.

I agree with you Steve5721. You have some real good points there. I feel like I am one of those guys who wants something serious and that I am not just someone looking for a one night stand. I look at both a woman's looks and her personality. Personality matters most to me though.

I just don't understand that when it seems like a woman is interested by replying and asking a question or two yet she doesn't write back after I reply to the message she sent.

Depends on the questions!

Personally, I wouldn't bother asking questions until much later on. Many people on here have their guard up and I know when a lady has asked me questions, I have not answered those questions and said it's too early for in-depth details.

Hell, I even had one ask me why I wasn't in my own country at MY age!!