why are 55-65 year old men choosing not to form permanent relationships (76)
StressFree: Good sensible point Kalimera.
It's weird because from my vantage point, I'd assume that once I am older, I wouldn't be so picky or afraid of whatever. At my age, one of the things that I fear is still being single after the age of 55. That thought frightens me and this is only how I feel from a hypothetical position.
It's weird because from my vantage point, I'd assume that once I am older, I wouldn't be so picky or afraid of whatever. At my age, one of the things that I fear is still being single after the age of 55. That thought frightens me and this is only how I feel from a hypothetical position.
Well I am not to far off the age group the OP mentions and while it would be nice to have someone, being single at any age is not something I fear, have been single for best part of the last 13 years.
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Cold be, at our (my age 61) we feel that any relationship would be considered permanent already!
Who knows how much time we have left? So, it could very well be your (my) last one!
Who knows how much time we have left? So, it could very well be your (my) last one!
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TheresMyFriend: Cold be, at our (my age 61) we feel that any relationship would be considered permanent already!
Who knows how much time we have left? So, it could very well be your (my) last one!
Who knows how much time we have left? So, it could very well be your (my) last one!
should have been "could"
sorry for typo!
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Kalimera: Well I am not to far off the age group the OP mentions and while it would be nice to have someone, being single at any age is not something I fear, have been single for best part of the last 13 years.
That's a healthy view Kalimera. I'm glad that you are not too worried about it
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islandbreeze: any ideas?
Maybe we don't want any more kids or larger 'hangers on'?
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Conrad73: Probably negative,have to be on Oxygen pretty much 24/7.
So, I suppose you are going to make me come to a COLD climate..
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PS........ We have an oxygen supply here..
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HJFinAZ: PS........ We have an oxygen supply here..
To organize it on the Flight,is a small nightmare!
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Conrad73: To organize it on the Flight,is a small nightmare!
Better than a LARGE nightmare..
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islandbreeze: any ideas?
Good question as I was wondering that too. Could it be the mid-life crises? Bad divorces?
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haiqu:
Meanwhile, I agree with Boban1 (chasing 25yo's) but not for the reasons that they're any better. Just that the older women don't go out anywhere, and when they do they seem to cluster in herds like frightened wilderbeest.
Interesting theory. I found that to be the problem with men. They just want to hang with their buddies at the pub. I went to a dance from 45 to 60 and the men stood against the wall like high school boys. I personally don't hang around in clusters of other women as I really have nothing in common with them but have lots of male friends that I can relate to.
In short, you women need to improve your game. Playing the coy, unavailable ingenue doesn't really work after the age of 30.
I don't play coy myself as I am usually the one that will approach the guy as he is playing hard to get with me. Maybe us military gals are too scary for you guys. And do please email with your wisdom about dating as I am at a loss to understand this.
BTW I am available to give personal dating advice to women by email. :-)
Meanwhile, I agree with Boban1 (chasing 25yo's) but not for the reasons that they're any better. Just that the older women don't go out anywhere, and when they do they seem to cluster in herds like frightened wilderbeest.
Interesting theory. I found that to be the problem with men. They just want to hang with their buddies at the pub. I went to a dance from 45 to 60 and the men stood against the wall like high school boys. I personally don't hang around in clusters of other women as I really have nothing in common with them but have lots of male friends that I can relate to.
In short, you women need to improve your game. Playing the coy, unavailable ingenue doesn't really work after the age of 30.
I don't play coy myself as I am usually the one that will approach the guy as he is playing hard to get with me. Maybe us military gals are too scary for you guys. And do please email with your wisdom about dating as I am at a loss to understand this.
BTW I am available to give personal dating advice to women by email. :-)
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Blues63: In all seriousness, it could be owing to retirement plans. Would a relationship place stress on already meagre superannuation funds?
That is why prenups are about. I would sign one and have him sign one too. No problems.
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haiqu: If a woman is wily enough to attract me and crazy enough to want to stick around, I'd go for long term in the blink of an eye.
Meanwhile, I agree with Boban1 (chasing 25yo's) but not for the reasons that they're any better. Just that the older women don't go out anywhere, and when they do they seem to cluster in herds like frightened wilderbeest.
Even for a mature, interesting, charming and intelligent guy (and I have actually met a couple) it can be daunting to try to approach such clusters. You have to win over the whole group and gain social acceptance before you can start to chat up the one that caught your interest. And often times she's either married, boring, or has a fat annoying friend who keeps interrupting the conversation.
In short, you women need to improve your game. Playing the coy, unavailable ingenue doesn't really work after the age of 30.
BTW I am available to give personal dating advice to women by email. :-)
Meanwhile, I agree with Boban1 (chasing 25yo's) but not for the reasons that they're any better. Just that the older women don't go out anywhere, and when they do they seem to cluster in herds like frightened wilderbeest.
Even for a mature, interesting, charming and intelligent guy (and I have actually met a couple) it can be daunting to try to approach such clusters. You have to win over the whole group and gain social acceptance before you can start to chat up the one that caught your interest. And often times she's either married, boring, or has a fat annoying friend who keeps interrupting the conversation.
In short, you women need to improve your game. Playing the coy, unavailable ingenue doesn't really work after the age of 30.
BTW I am available to give personal dating advice to women by email. :-)
Lets try this again with my responses being seperated.
Interesting theory. I found that to be the problem with men. They just want to hang with their buddies at the pub. I went to a dance from 45 to 60 and the men stood against the wall like high school boys. I personally don't hang around in clusters of other women as I really have nothing in common with them but have lots of male friends that I can relate to.
I don't play coy myself as I am usually the one that will approach the guy as he is playing hard to get with me. Maybe us military gals are too scary for you guys. And do please email with your wisdom about dating as I am at a loss to understand this.
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As always, I can only speak for myself,at the age of 60 I have had a good life and have lived and worked in many countries, while there I have had a fair amount of relationships, some good and some bad.
Having been single for a while I ventured into the "market" again,what I have found is 50+ women thinking that they have the allure of much younger women, often more interested in what you can provide for them rather than establishing if you are even interested.
A good lady friend once told me that she didn't know exactly when she became invisible ie, after a certain age the men just stopped looking, very true!.
After many years of playing the game, men just give up playing and will take it if it is there but they are not going to go out of their way to accomodate some elderly females foibles.
Having been single for a while I ventured into the "market" again,what I have found is 50+ women thinking that they have the allure of much younger women, often more interested in what you can provide for them rather than establishing if you are even interested.
A good lady friend once told me that she didn't know exactly when she became invisible ie, after a certain age the men just stopped looking, very true!.
After many years of playing the game, men just give up playing and will take it if it is there but they are not going to go out of their way to accomodate some elderly females foibles.
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kanokwan: sawadee ka,its never too late as they say but at that age why would they want to start relationships all over again..let us presume after divorces,break ups,kids,etc etc...for the sake of being with someone at their older age?Can always hire a maid for the housework if problem 2-3 times a week.Can always visit the occasional lady of the night if problem & also no backchat!Think about it...
At least somebody on this site is talking sense
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I agree kanokwan about wanting it all. For me, younger men have been interested in me and older. I really don't care about some age difference. So if the men in your age bracklet aren't bitting, maybe a younger man would be better for you. Some act older than men my age. If it is good for men, it could be good for you.
But speaking about much older men, I had a almost 80 year old man who I walk a dog for give me a hug when I asked him for one outside. I was having a rotten day, and you better believe he gave me one and even lifted me in the air and held me there.
I told his daughter and she laughed.
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But speaking about much older men, I had a almost 80 year old man who I walk a dog for give me a hug when I asked him for one outside. I was having a rotten day, and you better believe he gave me one and even lifted me in the air and held me there.
I told his daughter and she laughed.
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robplum: hehehehe
Sorry my dear but just couldn't resist. Too many uptight people here.
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Good sensible point Kalimera.
It's weird because from my vantage point, I'd assume that once I am older, I wouldn't be so picky or afraid of whatever. At my age, one of the things that I fear is still being single after the age of 55. That thought frightens me and this is only how I feel from a hypothetical position.