Would you leave your disfigured husband/wife? (82)
single4everCalgary, Alberta Canada1,109 PostsNope, I honestly wouldn't. I am no beauty queen myself so who am I to say someone isn't good looking enough for me. I am 51 not 18 years old and would like to think I have gotten past the superfical crap.
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autumnstarlight: Beauty is only skin deep, it is what is inside a person that counts for more so - No, I for one would never be that shallow as to leave someone for that reason .
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54xmax: Then why did you marry him in the first place - - - - - Then your oath, pledge - - what ever was a lie, and you have double standards - - - - how would you feel if the tables would be turned - - - - ?
I think you misunderstood the OP. She said No, she would not leave her disfigured husband.
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No neva...Hearts and souls all look the same and I fall in love heart and soul
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no ..true love never fades,love is patient love is kind most of all love is blind
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Besides, beauty is in the eye of teh beholder (or beerholder) Ive never fallen for the GQ type anyway
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trurorob: It doesnt always work like that, I am sorry but No has simplified the issue and it is a very difficult issue. The injured party may instigate the other leaving because their love is so strong they would feel they are ruining their partners life. You are also forgetting the mental scars and changes that could occur with this type of awful injury. people change and sometimes not for the better and drive a partner away no matter how much they love them.
I am still afraid that NO is a very simple answer to a very fifficult life changing occurance.
I am still afraid that NO is a very simple answer to a very fifficult life changing occurance.
like with your first post..I have to agree to this one..
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You mean like if she caught her arm in a woodchipper
or something? No, but if she pops a butt cheek
I'm hiring a stand in.
or something? No, but if she pops a butt cheek
I'm hiring a stand in.
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DynamiteLuv: What if they were once beautiful/handsome when you marry them but was disfigured very badly in a horrible accident that will leave them that way for life?
My honest answer would be No.
What about you?
My honest answer would be No.
What about you?
No, of-course not!
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venere08: No, of-course not!
Never!
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trurorob: No is a very easy answer, i think you will find that 100% will say that but not sure if that is true, although we may wish to stay with them some will leave because they just cannot handle it.
Some may think that shallow but I would not critisise them, as for me I would like to think my love covered all eventualities. But you can never be sure of how you might feel. I just think that is more an honest answer than a straightforward No!.
Some may think that shallow but I would not critisise them, as for me I would like to think my love covered all eventualities. But you can never be sure of how you might feel. I just think that is more an honest answer than a straightforward No!.
I agree - men will leave their wives because they show signs of age or can no longer bear children - people leave each other for far less - I think it would depend on the quality of the relationship before the disfigurement as what we are not accounting for here is the disfigured partner's attitude. If that person becomes impossible to live with after the accident that will erode the love & good intentions of the other partner....so it really is not that black & white, in my opinion
Personally, I think of the last 2 men I fell for (one of whom I hadn't even met yet!!!!) and No. I do not think I would leave them - not if they wanted me to remain
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In response to: What if they were once beautiful/handsome when you marry them but was disfigured very badly in a horrible accident that will leave them that way for life?
My honest answer would be No.
What about you?
My honest answer would be No.
What about you?
No.
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DynamiteLuv: What if they were once beautiful/handsome when you marry them but was disfigured very badly in a horrible accident that will leave them that way for life?
My honest answer would be No.
What about you?
My honest answer would be No.
What about you?
We are all damaged, physically, mentally and spiritually.
If you truly love your mate these issues have nothing to do with it.
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DynamiteLuv: What if they were once beautiful/handsome when you marry them but was disfigured very badly in a horrible accident that will leave them that way for life?
My honest answer would be No.
What about you?
My honest answer would be No.
What about you?
We are all damaged, physically, mentally and spiritually.
If you truly love your mate these issues have nothing to do with it.
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DynamiteLuv: What if they were once beautiful/handsome when you marry them but was disfigured very badly in a horrible accident that will leave them that way for life?
My honest answer would be No.
What about you?
My honest answer would be No.
What about you?
We are all damaged, physically, mentally and spiritually.
If you truly love your mate these issues have nothing to do with it.
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I wouldnt want to leave my partner but, we have to bare in mind that the one with the disfigurement will in all likelihood try to get us to leave because of their own feelings on how they look. I think if I had the disfigurement, I would do everything in my power to make my spouse leave me because I couldnt imagine how they could look at me without some revulsion.
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whowhatwherewhen: I wouldnt want to leave my partner but, we have to bare in mind that the one with the disfigurement will in all likelihood try to get us to leave because of their own feelings on how they look. I think if I had the disfigurement, I would do everything in my power to make my spouse leave me because I couldnt imagine how they could look at me without some revulsion.
The human body is but a "shell". To try and make your spouse leave you,...are you not betraying the love they have for you and are giving you by trying to push them away? They may love ALL of you and not just one aspect, such as physical appearance,..IMHO
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A_Non_A_Moose: The human body is but a "shell". To try and make your spouse leave you,...are you not betraying the love they have for you and are giving you by trying to push them away? They may love ALL of you and not just one aspect, such as physical appearance,..IMHO
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A_Non_A_Moose: The human body is but a "shell". To try and make your spouse leave you,...are you not betraying the love they have for you and are giving you by trying to push them away? They may love ALL of you and not just one aspect, such as physical appearance,..IMHO
I agree with you to a certain extent but, I think its very naive to think that nothing would change in the relationship.
Heck, even some woman dont want their husbands to look at their bodies after they have borne children. Unfortunately, in some cases, love does not conquer all.
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whowhatwherewhen: I agree with you to a certain extent but, I think its very naive to think that nothing would change in the relationship.
Heck, even some woman dont want their husbands to look at their bodies after they have borne children. Unfortunately, in some cases, love does not conquer all.
Heck, even some woman dont want their husbands to look at their bodies after they have borne children. Unfortunately, in some cases, love does not conquer all.
Yes, I have seen this occur, but in in the example you quoted above,...isn't that a matter of self-esteem? In a healthy relationship each partner should serve to bolster the others self-esteem. If the man still finds the woman he married beautiful despite all of the "character" her appearance has garnered overtime, yet she does not want him to look upon her - to me this sounds like a lack of self-love, of self-esteem. Love will NOT conquer all happens only when you believe that it won't. Again, just my possibly naive but heartfelt opinion.
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