how do I handle this? (36)
RadioheadFan123Rochester, New York USA115 Threads 28 Polls 471 PostsMy college roommate's girlfriend acts very immature. It gets to the point where it gets annoying. I mean she has these childish antics and there are times she whines. There's nothing wrong with acting like a kid once in a while but I just want to tell her to "grow up, PLEASE!!" Apparently my roommate thinks it's cute when his girlfriend does things like that but I don't. How do I tell her in a way that isn't judgmental or so I don't come off as being a jerk?
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Well it sounds like you are judgmental somewhat "grow up please" who is to say...? You are you and she is herself. However if it irks you simply walk away when she does it or ignore her.
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CherryBlossom73: Well it sounds like you are judgmental somewhat "grow up please" who is to say...? You are you and she is herself. However if it irks you simply walk away when she does it or ignore her.
I agree, they are as they are, we ALL have aspects that we need growing up in and some people are slower than others learning about life, give her time as you have had to grow and heck in ten years she MIGHT put your words right back in your face never know what the years can bring to you. just my fyi, take it easy bro.------ This thread is Archived ------
RadioheadFan123: My college roommate's girlfriend acts very immature. It gets to the point where it gets annoying. I mean she has these childish antics and there are times she whines. There's nothing wrong with acting like a kid once in a while but I just want to tell her to "grow up, PLEASE!!" Apparently my roommate thinks it's cute when his girlfriend does things like that but I don't. How do I tell her in a way that isn't judgmental or so I don't come off as being a jerk?
soak her undies in dog food ....
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There's nothing wrong with being happy and not being so serious, it's just the way she goes about it. I swear she sometimes acts like she hasn't matured past being 5 years old.
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RadioheadFan123: My college roommate's girlfriend acts very immature. It gets to the point where it gets annoying. I mean she has these childish antics and there are times she whines. There's nothing wrong with acting like a kid once in a while but I just want to tell her to "grow up, PLEASE!!" Apparently my roommate thinks it's cute when his girlfriend does things like that but I don't. How do I tell her in a way that isn't judgmental or so I don't come off as being a jerk?
Why are you even hanging around when your room mate and his girlfriend are about...... Keep out of their way.... give them their own space and get out and find some company of your own.
It maybe that she only acts immature when you are around as she feels embarrassed that you are there. !
It's not your place to say anything... keep out of their way.... get your own life and be happy for them
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Englishman55: Why are you even hanging around when your room mate and his girlfriend are about...... Keep out of their way.... give them their own space and get out and find some company of your own.
It maybe that she only acts immature when you are around as she feels embarrassed that you are there. !
It's not your place to say anything... keep out of their way.... get your own life and be happy for them
It maybe that she only acts immature when you are around as she feels embarrassed that you are there. !
It's not your place to say anything... keep out of their way.... get your own life and be happy for them
well said 
morning english
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Get over it and move on. Its only your problem so deal with it in a mature fashion by accepting and getting to know her ways better or who she really is. And try had have some fun yourself along the way.
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demonfairy: well said morning english
Morning Demon
Hope you have a good day and weekend lined up
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Englishman55: Morning Demon
Hope you have a good day and weekend lined up
Hope you have a good day and weekend lined up
I wish,oh well 
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demonfairy: I wish,oh well
No point wishing...... you gotta make it happen
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"get your own life" that doesn't sound judgmental at all. 
So apparently I'm just a killjoy, spoiling everyone else's fun who doesn't have any friends and makes everyone else miserable. thanks you're real helpful... Just because I post on the forums on CS apparently implies I have no life.
So apparently I'm just a killjoy, spoiling everyone else's fun who doesn't have any friends and makes everyone else miserable. thanks you're real helpful... Just because I post on the forums on CS apparently implies I have no life.
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RadioheadFan123: "get your own life" that doesn't sound judgmental at all.
So apparently I'm just a killjoy, spoiling everyone else's fun who doesn't have any friends and makes everyone else miserable. thanks you're real helpful... Just because I post on the forums on CS apparently implies I have no life.
So apparently I'm just a killjoy, spoiling everyone else's fun who doesn't have any friends and makes everyone else miserable. thanks you're real helpful... Just because I post on the forums on CS apparently implies I have no life.
Not at all.... don't take it so personally..... read what I wrote.
You have much to offer here and in your relationships with friends, but have you never heard the saying.... "two's company, three's a crowd.
When you room mate and his girlfriend are around, just give them the space they want and need.
Think about it, if you were the one with the girlfriend and he was always around when you wanted some time with her, and then if he started criticising her attitude..... you would not be best pleased.
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RadioheadFan123; if you are going to post a question you may get answer that you don't like. That is exactly what happened here. All answers given (by different members)told you the same thing; mind your own business and give your roommate and his girlfriend some space on occasion. Good advice I think.
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I don't always hang out there. I go for walks, go the college library, etc. I mean I'll even go into my room so they can be out in the living room alone together. Sometimes it's because I get the feeling I am bothering them by being out in the living room.
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RadioheadFan123: I don't always hang out there. I go for walks, go the college library, etc. I mean I'll even go into my room so they can be out in the living room alone together. Sometimes it's because I get the feeling I am bothering them by being out in the living room.
Try to adopt a new attitude towards her...have fun with her and who knows? Maybe she will introduce you to one of her cute girlfriends!!
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mbcasey: Try to adopt a new attitude towards her...have fun with her and who knows? Maybe she will introduce you to one of her cute girlfriends!!
Now now, don't go giving away all our secrets dude, let him learn on his own.
To radiohead, you're only 21, these are the years to have fun and do silly things. You'll have your whole life to be serious. Everybody is different and sometimes people can grate on your nerves but that is your problem not theirs. Try to see the good things about her instead of focusing on the things that annoy you.
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puppypower: fiberglass shavings work sooo much better ...especilly if it gets warmen during the day ....err or so ive heard
yep...I had my share of fun with that...when we made the isolation of my attic
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Well, RH. My best advice is to practice what you preach. If you seek to be the more mature of the individuals present, and if it bothers you that much, initiate a respectful dialogue with them.
Yes them.
Yes them.
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It's not your place to single her out in this situation, because your relationship with them requires you to consider them as a unit. Your primary relationship is with your room-mate, but your room-mate is a package deal. So show respect for both of them by including them both in any dialogues about any issues you have. That way it's also both their responsibility to address and resolve any concerns you may express.------ This thread is Archived ------
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