"According to the U.N. Human Development Report of 1995, the annual value of women's unwaged work worldwide is about $11 trillion."
Looks like my ex owes me some back wages for 23 years. I have to agree with him now. He told me many years ago that he could never afford to pay me. He worked (truck driver) while I took care of everything else in our lives.
My ex didn't have a whining woman. He was home about 6 days a month. During his hours at home he was catered to. I did his laundry, cooked his favorite meals, baked his favorite snacks to take on the road when he left for work again, let him sleep in, provided him with a heated towel after his showers, and kept him supplied with fishing gear and R/C planes so he could relax. I raised our 3 girls, took care of house and yard, maintained our vehicles, did all the barn work, cared for 15 horses and 3 dogs.
I was grateful for his dedication to providing the financial means for our family to have a good life. Our girls and I let him know every chance we got how much we loved and appreciated him. The only breaks I got were when I was hospitalized. Once I got home, the work started again, even after major surgery when I wasn't supposed to do anything.
At that point in my life, it was all a labor of love for my family.
imsophie1: My ex didn't have a whining woman. He was home about 6 days a month. During his hours at home he was catered to. I did his laundry, cooked his favorite meals, baked his favorite snacks to take on the road when he left for work again, let him sleep in, provided him with a heated towel after his showers, and kept him supplied with fishing gear and R/C planes so he could relax. I raised our 3 girls, took care of house and yard, maintained our vehicles, did all the barn work, cared for 15 horses and 3 dogs.
I was grateful for his dedication to providing the financial means for our family to have a good life. Our girls and I let him know every chance we got how much we loved and appreciated him. The only breaks I got were when I was hospitalized. Once I got home, the work started again, even after major surgery when I wasn't supposed to do anything.
At that point in my life, it was all a labor of love for my family.
Christmas1: What is a winging woman? Does she wing you in head when you are mouthy? Men contribute....ha!
A whinging woman to me is one who moans and whines about everything without making much of an effort herself. I have lived with said type of woman. I cooked, cleaned, did DIY(lots of major stuff), sorted the garden out, worked damn hard in my job, took her to the caribbean on holidays, paid for her meals and drinks, etc i could go on and on and on. All she did was moan. Nothing i did was good enough.
imsophie1: "According to the U.N. Human Development Report of 1995, the annual value of women's unwaged work worldwide is about $11 trillion."
Looks like my ex owes me some back wages for 23 years. I have to agree with him now. He told me many years ago that he could never afford to pay me. He worked (truck driver) while I took care of everything else in our lives.
ya I worked outside the home and took care of all the household chores but my ex didnt view that as work..lol. My dad said whats wrong with that man? Doesnt he see that house chores are work too? I had a very lazy ex for sure..
You did not live there? You did not eat or use the things he provided? Was your work worth more than minimum wage and did you have an agreement as such to it? The next husband you get....work out wages....I bet your asking price will not be meet. You will work as such for a practical wage above the expenses you create......rent....use of appliances......utilities.........
RillyNiceGuy: All should be fair.....a balance between work and house work.
I had a job outside the home "and" did all the household chores and my ex didnt see the chores around the house as work even though he did nothing to help around the house..Plus he was way more messy than I would ever be..Even if he ever did help ( which he never did) it still wouldnt have been equal or fair because he was such a slob.
Swissblueeyes: ya i dont think he ever cleaned a toilet in his whole life..He definitely thinks any cooking, cleaning, ect is a womans job that he felt he was entitled to just getting done for him. As far as money goes he spent it as soon as we got it..There were so many other things he did that made it virtually impossible for me to want to stay with him..
There are still too many guys with mommies they call wives....
plainlyjuneLegazpi City, Bicol Philippines8,175 posts
A housewife's work is really incomparably difficult. It's a 24/7 job without days off. Keeping everything clean and ready for use by all members of the family. Making sure clothes are cleanly pressed, that there's always food on the table(lucky if you have a good provider, if you don't then it's your obligation for the kids' sake), being practical, learning all kinds of conservation techniques to make everything manageable.
imsophie1: My ex didn't have a whining woman. He was home about 6 days a month. During his hours at home he was catered to. I did his laundry, cooked his favorite meals, baked his favorite snacks to take on the road when he left for work again, let him sleep in, provided him with a heated towel after his showers, and kept him supplied with fishing gear and R/C planes so he could relax. I raised our 3 girls, took care of house and yard, maintained our vehicles, did all the barn work, cared for 15 horses and 3 dogs.
I was grateful for his dedication to providing the financial means for our family to have a good life. Our girls and I let him know every chance we got how much we loved and appreciated him. The only breaks I got were when I was hospitalized. Once I got home, the work started again, even after major surgery when I wasn't supposed to do anything.
At that point in my life, it was all a labor of love for my family.
thanks sophie
it's amazing how many people don't understand that and think we're freeloading as stay-homes. I had 4 children (and most of their friends all at once - me time? Is that a foreign language)?
I had girl friends tell me that they had gone back to work to get a break
Oh, and my ex? ya, he thought I was freeloading...
imsophie1: "According to the U.N. Human Development Report of 1995, the annual value of women's unwaged work worldwide is about $11 trillion."
Looks like my ex owes me some back wages for 23 years. I have to agree with him now. He told me many years ago that he could never afford to pay me. He worked (truck driver) while I took care of everything else in our lives.
HMMMMM,......... I am so confussed ! I thought MARRIAGE was supposed to be a TEAM EFFORT........
imsophie1: "According to the U.N. Human Development Report of 1995, the annual value of women's unwaged work worldwide is about $11 trillion."
Looks like my ex owes me some back wages for 23 years. I have to agree with him now. He told me many years ago that he could never afford to pay me. He worked (truck driver) while I took care of everything else in our lives.
I am a single Parent, I raise 2 young boys and I am crippled, I do NOT have a Maid ! my house is clean,... my boys are on the honor roll. and I do the yard as well !
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Looks like my ex owes me some back wages for 23 years. I have to agree with him now. He told me many years ago that he could never afford to pay me. He worked (truck driver) while I took care of everything else in our lives.