How does a person build up their self-esteem,keep a positive attitude,deal with there past? (151)
demonfairyNewton,hickory, North Carolina USA120 Threads 17 Polls 5,654 PostsShare with us how you came to terms with some of these issues so you could move on with your life...So you could be ready for Mr.Or Mrs. right!
In sharing maybe we can help some one else.
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I took it one day at a time.Looked inside myself,tryed to put myself in there shoes...i wanted to see both sides,it takes two to make or break a relationship,not just one.I saw the good and bad in both of us and made peace with it,because no body is perfect,we are human after all,and are aloud to make mistakes,its how we deal with the mistakes that make us a better person i think...
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bully small people and have a big head 
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I think you are right there DF. We all make mistakes, and anyone who says they have no regrets is not very self-aware. I think we should try to be the best person we can, while recognizing we'll never be perfect.
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very good posts so far...i think life is a work in progress,it does us good to work on our selfs,if you find a partner that will work with you...thats even better...------ This thread is Archived ------
demonfairy: I took it one day at a time.Looked inside myself,tryed to put myself in there shoes...i wanted to see both sides,it takes two to make or break a relationship,not just one.I saw the good and bad in both of us and made peace with it,because no body is perfect,we are human after all,and are aloud to make mistakes,its how we deal with the mistakes that make us a better person i think...
Yes......
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i accept things i cannot change and i try to change things i can change...i may succed or not, but i will try...the past is not an issue for me as it nearly doesn't exist for me
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lucynad: i accept things i cannot change and i try to change things i can change...i may succed or not, but i will try...the past is not an issue for me as it nearly doesn't exist for me
That's an excellent viewpoint. We shouldn't let the past dictate to the future. But I think we should be careful not to forget the past, either. Otherwise it may choose to refresh our memories at very incovenient moments.
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I tell myself everyday that there is always someone worse off than me. And while that sounds pretty fatalistic, it is really important to stop feeling sorry for yourself, in order to keep moving forward.
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ballerina9: bully small people and have a big head
Small height wise or age wise?
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lucynad: i accept things i cannot change and i try to change things i can change...i may succed or not, but i will try...the past is not an issue for me as it nearly doesn't exist for me
I have found my past life has handed me a trained response which I have taken forward with me ...now I look to identify what they are as in most cases they are not of my true personality, however something passed on to me though a bad relationship.
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Dagosto: That's an excellent viewpoint. We shouldn't let the past dictate to the future. But I think we should be careful not to forget the past, either. Otherwise it may choose to refresh our memories at very incovenient moments.
you are perfectly right, Dagosto
mine "the past is not an issue for me" was intended as "i don't dwell on it", but it is undoubted that my past experiences made me a person i am now
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demonfairy: Sounds like you are on your way back to living life again,be proud of yourself...that first step is the hardest,good luck on your job...
It's a relief to have found an employer who not only understands, but will appreciate me.
I basically applied for a job i was really overqualified for, and he asked my why i wanted that job, and i was just very honest and i told him my circumstances.
The guy was so taken back he said he wanted to see me for a far better job! So hopefully, i'm going to the right boss!!
Normal life, here i come.
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Firstly, try never to lose your self esteem.If you do lose it, remind yourself how unique you are,there is only one of you.Walk tall, and never be anyones victim,control your own destiny.
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time4fun4u: Firstly, try never to lose your self esteem.If you do lose it, remind yourself how unique you are,there is only one of you.Walk tall, and
never be anyones victim,control your own destiny.
never be anyones victim,control your own destiny.
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BBWfansdream: I tell myself everyday that there is always someone worse off than me. And while that sounds pretty fatalistic, it is really important to stop feeling sorry for yourself, in order to keep moving forward.
I do the same thing,self-pity only hurts yourself,keeps you from moving forward with life........My drivers ed teach,fussed at me one time,i started crying,he said what are you crying for...its not going to make you a better driver,its not going to get me to pass you on this course....at the time i thought god,what a a**hole...but as i think back every thing he said was true,he was a smart man,taught me some thing in life....------ This thread is Archived ------
demonfairy: Share with us how you came to terms with some of these issues so you could move on with your life...So you could be ready for Mr.Or Mrs. right! In sharing maybe we can help some one else.
I have a switch in my head, it turns darkens in to lights , rainy days in to sunshine ,cold winter in to spring ...
I haver the devil sleeping under my hat ,he won`t let me rest
I take my wander boots and my shepherd cane ...I have to get the devil under my hat ,tired and sleepy
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I simply stopped asking questions that start with "why". why did he do this, why me etc etc. It's non therapeutic at all. Even if i do understand everything (which i don't), it wasn't enough. I found that what works ultimately is acceptance, of self and others. It gets rid of unreasonable demands and expectations.
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Self esteem is a very fragile thing isn't it?....one day you can feel like a million bucks and the next like your broke lol....but there is one aspect you need to take into account, this is all linked to the external, to what has occurred TO you rather than what you have done to bring about the cause of the low self esteem. So long as you can look back at the situation and honestly say to yourself that you have tried then that is no negative reflection on you and you should not allow it to cause doubt in yourself.
I know it's difficult to accept something like that but if you tried and failed then you have a head start for the next time because you have the experience behind you now to know what to do the next time. Be happy in who you are, the lessons that you have gained and never doubt that you can change your situation even if its a painfully slow progress....
God, did i just sound like the dodgiest of of life coaches lol.....pay no attention to the rambling....there's a point in there somewhere lol....
I know it's difficult to accept something like that but if you tried and failed then you have a head start for the next time because you have the experience behind you now to know what to do the next time. Be happy in who you are, the lessons that you have gained and never doubt that you can change your situation even if its a painfully slow progress....
God, did i just sound like the dodgiest of of life coaches lol.....pay no attention to the rambling....there's a point in there somewhere lol....
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Boban1: I have a switch in my head, it turns darkens in to lights , rainy days in to sunshine ,cold winter in to spring ...
I haver the devil sleeping under my hat ,he won`t let me rest
I take my wander boots and my shepherd cane ...I have to get the devil under my hat ,tired and sleepy
I haver the devil sleeping under my hat ,he won`t let me rest
I take my wander boots and my shepherd cane ...I have to get the devil under my hat ,tired and sleepy
LOL.....yeah....i think its called a stroke my friend....you should get that check out :-P
Cacosi brato?
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