GingerBe: I think their hot flashes must imprint little figures of Marylin Munroe look-alikes on the insides of their eyelids, so they don't forget what they are aiming for, in case of senility.
They must also see eyebrows that look like yard-brushes and long grey nose and ear hairs as signs of virility or something, a bit like silverback gorillas.
JeanMarlowMiddle of Nowhere, California USA815 posts
trurorob: I suppose it is genetic in some way because it is a personality issue which I believe is genetic. I know solsticeMoon disagreed with me but I stick by my thoughts that it is due to the fear of ageing and these type of personalities will never grow old gracefully.
I completely agree with you. The happy older couples I see are happy and compatible because they are happy with their place in life. It is sad, really sad, to see so many people who cannot accept themselves for what they are. I don't think that being 50 or sixty means you have to walk around with a can and have innumerable illness, aches or pains or pills to take. I do none of those things, but I want to be with someone who is at the same stage in life I am, someone compatible. The older person who is not fit and active but wants and assumes he/she should have a young, fit, active and young looking partner seems to be in denial. I think it has to do with advertising and the media, a youth oriented culture, not with genes. With personality, yes, character. Being overly influenced by the media.
Desertguy49South Western Desert, Arizona USA2,259 posts
GingerBe: I think their hot flashes must imprint little figures of Marylin Munroe look-alikes on the insides of their eyelids, so they don't forget what they are aiming for, in case of senility.
They must also see eyebrows that look like yard-brushes and long grey nose and ear hairs as signs of virility or something, a bit like silverback gorillas.
Really sorry to hear that your ol man ran off with a younger chick...You'll get over it in time...
sohailmm: youth is life and energy !!!.And man and woman have different ways to secure their egos and satisfy their self esteem.
For women its the successful ,financially secured and confident man who is 4-7 years older to him. While for men its the fascination of youth .Anyway ,for many men (including myself) women older or even equal to my age dont arouse them physically ,although its a pleasure to have dialogue with them . Actually may be I enjoy talking to them more.
But for men the physical attraction is very important part of partenship.
so you prefer women youn ger than yourself..hey thats fine..but can you say why?
And really if Im honest with myself Im no longer a 20 year old hotbod. But I like where I am in life now, Im much happier and have grace and wisdom that I didnt have then. I think I bring a lot more to the table now, I think its the same for most men.
JeanMarlow: Many people are fit and healthy in their 50's and 60's and beyond. You may feel you would be a good partner for a woman in her 40's but will she? And why do you not think a woman your own age would be a good partner for you? Why do you think you need to date someone 10 or 15 years younger?
Never said i need to date anyone 10-15yrs younger,there your words,not mine. My point was,at 54, i wouldnt feel inadequate with someone in thier 40s, i never made any comment about anyone in thier 50-60s.Read what i write,not what suits you please.I find women attractive in thier 50-60s, it depends on the individual,and thier attitude to life.
venusenvy: And really if Im honest with myself Im no longer a 20 year old hotbod. But I like where I am in life now, Im much happier and have grace and wisdom that I didnt have then. I think I bring a lot more to the table now, I think its the same for most men.
I would rather be in the hottub with you,than a 20yr old,as i am not trying to prove anything to a myself.
venusenvy: I like strong confident men. That know what they want and how to get it. I like a man that can handle himself as well as me...and Im a lapful believe me...I just dont get that vibe from young men
I am in!!, I handle myself every day will that do??
GingerBe: Strange isn't it, that we know all the faults a man has in middle age, yet we love them like we love favourite teddy bears, and beloved treasures. We treat them with care and cater to their needs and make excuses for thier grumpiness and their tired old bodies.
Yet a young thing who is after his money, hoping she will never have to work again, who keeps them towing the line, (him thinking he is impressing her), will be the focus of their attention.
Often as not, it is the most expensive mistake they will ever make, monetary, physically, spiritually, and emotonally.
I have seen men wrecked when reality finally hits. Sad really!
So have i,and lets be honest,only on very rare occasions does it last.Yes,nice to have a laugh and giggle with a twenty year old,but i personally havnt got the mental energy.
GingerBe: Strange isn't it, that we know all the faults a man has in middle age, yet we love them like we love favourite teddy bears, and beloved treasures. We treat them with care and cater to their needs and make excuses for thier grumpiness and their tired old bodies.
Yet a young thing who is after his money, hoping she will never have to work again, who keeps them towing the line, (him thinking he is impressing her), will be the focus of their attention.
Often as not, it is the most expensive mistake they will ever make, monetary, physically, spiritually, and emotonally.
I have seen men wrecked when reality finally hits. Sad really!
trurorob: I suppose it is genetic in some way because it is a personality issue which I believe is genetic. I know solsticeMoon disagreed with me but I stick by my thoughts that it is due to the fear of ageing and these type of personalities will never grow old gracefully.
GingerBe: Strange isn't it, that we know all the faults a man has in middle age, yet we love them like we love favourite teddy bears, and beloved treasures. We treat them with care and cater to their needs and make excuses for thier grumpiness and their tired old bodies.
Yet a young thing who is after his money, hoping she will never have to work again, who keeps them towing the line, (him thinking he is impressing her), will be the focus of their attention.
Often as not, it is the most expensive mistake they will ever make, monetary, physically, spiritually, and emotonally.
I have seen men wrecked when reality finally hits. Sad really!
Desertguy49: Really sorry to hear that your ol man ran off with a younger chick...You'll get over it in time...
Oi J...behave...I never did this thread for arguemnts..tho guess its only natural, but for every one of my mates, male or female yeh some have ran off with younger people, some with older,,,,whats more insulting, ur partnet leaves u for someone 20 years older?
Thats not the bloody question Now ive forgotten the damn question
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They must also see eyebrows that look like yard-brushes and long grey nose and ear hairs as signs of virility or something, a bit like silverback gorillas.