virgosingle: Yes now I am a boat builder ,I am home every day ,so I now have the time that is needed to be there for each-other ..I'm the youngest in my family and I have a lot of family members that are older and still alive and are very active
Ok sweetie... I was actually married to a sailor and divorced over it.. it's like not being married to tell the truth.
Had my last kid at 41, wished I'd done it sooner as, what can I say, I'd of been freer sooner... sometimes life is just like that.. piss poor timing . But I got the whole grama thing and I can still outwalk the lazy sod, who's 19 going on 20 this year.
Just remember.... having kids is no walk in the park and it's not fair to push everything onto the younger mom either. Stand up and hold your own... or leave it be, there can be other ways to get a kid ya know... plenty of them in need. And you could enjoy them faster too.
gininitaly: Ok sweetie... I was actually married to a sailor and divorced over it.. it's like not being married to tell the truth.
Had my last kid at 41, wished I'd done it sooner as, what can I say, I'd of been freer sooner... sometimes life is just like that.. piss poor timing . But I got the whole grama thing and I can still outwalk the lazy sod, who's 19 going on 20 this year.
Just remember.... having kids is no walk in the park and it's not fair to push everything onto the younger mom either. Stand up and hold your own... or leave it be, there can be other ways to get a kid ya know... plenty of them in need. And you could enjoy them faster too.
Just sayin....
I think there must have been plenty of young families that sent there kids to their grandparents and other extended family even myself as both my parents worked ,..so now I have all these life experiences and skills that I can teach to my children
GingerBe: I also think it is selfish to be in your 70s when your kids are in their teens or twenties.
You are going to die when they are young. You will never see grandkids. You haven't the energy or patience for the late endless crying nights when they are young.
Most are retiring by then, often with little pensio and no hope of a job at that age to raise kids with or put them through college.
It is selfish in the extreme, unless you are an athletic millionaire, and even then.........
Not sure I agree with all of this post Ginger. I´ve seen many men who are raising chidren the second time around much more responsibly and with more patience than they did as a young father.
Young fathers can, and often do, find fatherhood extremely difficult.
Anyway, as for why men go for much younger women, I think it´s a combination of things, the biological reasons already mentioned i.e. youth equals fertility, the fact that young women are more physically attractive in general, which sadly is of paramount importance to some men, and perhaps a fear of women their own age who are strong and independent.
Danny48: I think you are a well preserved older woman that attracts young mem When that fades as it will. you may face reality. Which is companionshhip counts far more. In the end. Go on being a Cougar as long as it lasts eh? I have long ago given up the shallow younger women. Who were the Who?Lol I once wrote to you and your reply was deeply offensive. The only person so far I bothered to block. Should have guessed very limited mind? Good looks does not forgive bad manners. Its called Arrogance. Or Disdain. You may learn?
Exscuse me??????????? Did I at anytime say this was a cougar thread? I suggest you don your reading glasses and re peruse the actual question Danny! Then, once you have come to grips with it, please feel free to add constructive comments! If you still harbour grudges re a once forgotten comment then my suggestion to you would be to get a life! I think you will find the response and context of the message bear no malice, but are mere reflections of your words within the in intial message?
Danny48: I think you are a well preserved older woman that attracts young mem When that fades as it will. you may face reality. Which is companionshhip counts far more. In the end. Go on being a Cougar as long as it lasts eh? I have long ago given up the shallow younger women. Who were the Who?Lol I once wrote to you and your reply was deeply offensive. The only person so far I bothered to block. Should have guessed very limited mind? Good looks does not forgive bad manners. Its called Arrogance. Or Disdain. You may learn?
Don't be so uppity there Danny boy.... I sent you a note and you never responded... so the game works both ways. Too old for you?
Frequently we get the cougar polls..ok old hat..but maybe they want to learn a trick or two...Now, guys who want younger girls, Is it a confidence issue, they feel they haven't the confidence to go out with women their own age, because those cougars have a "bad" rep...so lets get it on with younger women that settle for less? What do you reckon?[/quote(he is thinking others are thinking:)
"he must be really hot/sensational/great guy/the last word if she (young, gorgeous, model quality) wants him". any questions?
rohaan: Frequently we get the cougar polls..ok old hat..but maybe they want to learn a trick or two...Now, guys who want younger girls, Is it a confidence issue, they feel they haven't the confidence to go out with women their own age, because those cougars have a "bad" rep...so lets get it on with younger women that settle for less? What do you reckon?[/quote(he is thinking others are thinking:)
"he must be really hot/sensational/great guy/the last word if she (young, gorgeous, model quality) wants him". any questions?
Another thought--people seem to make a wide path and show the utmost respect for an older gentleman with a beautiful young, perfect ten girlfriend. As soon as older guys,who all of a sudden get filthy rich on the lottery, etc..., can, they get a young star quality girlfriend. It's like a mark of success.
JeanMarlowMiddle of Nowhere, California USA815 posts
rohaan: Another thought--people seem to make a wide path and show the utmost respect for an older gentleman with a beautiful young, perfect ten girlfriend. As soon as older guys,who all of a sudden get filthy rich on the lottery, etc..., can, they get a young star quality girlfriend. It's like a mark of success.
Yep, as I said before, a guy I dated told his friends I was 5 years younger than I am, just so he could impress them that he was dating a 'younger' woman. Pathetic.
tomcatwarneOcean City, Plumouth, Devon, England UK17,106 posts
JeanMarlow: Yep, as I said before, a guy I dated told his friends I was 5 years younger than I am, just so he could impress them that he was dating a 'younger' woman. Pathetic.
Yep, as I said before, a guy I dated told his friends I was 5 years younger than I am, just so he could impress them that he was dating a 'younger' woman. Pathetic.[/quote --what a dorky dork, Delbert Gridley. No wonder he is now mentioned in the past tense.
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Ok sweetie... I was actually married to a sailor and divorced over it.. it's like not being married to tell the truth.
Had my last kid at 41, wished I'd done it sooner as, what can I say, I'd of been freer sooner... sometimes life is just like that.. piss poor timing . But I got the whole grama thing and I can still outwalk the lazy sod, who's 19 going on 20 this year.
Just remember.... having kids is no walk in the park and it's not fair to push everything onto the younger mom either. Stand up and hold your own... or leave it be, there can be other ways to get a kid ya know... plenty of them in need. And you could enjoy them faster too.
Just sayin....