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Why do men post on their profile "my friends say" or "my friends tell me" ???? I have to wonder if the friends are just pumping them up or telling them the truth? What does everyone think?

Not a bad thread -- just a curious one.

Its just the word friends substituted for I..

On some womens profiles also

I think because they are too modest to just come out and say Hey! Im a handsome hunky

I don't read that many of mens profiles and don't care why they do it.JMO

Very well put. To be understood by others, on other words, the first step is understanding ourselves.
The differences between how a person sees themselves and how others see you is not just a matter of simple egocentrism; we all have 'blind spots'. We change our self-conceptions when we see ourselves through the eyes of others, or some of us do, if we can.
How well we understand ourselves has a profound impact on our ability to navigate the social realms. In some ares, we know ourselves better than others do. But in other areas, we're so biased by our need to see ourselves in a good, in a positive light that we become strangers to ourselves. By soliciting feedback from others, we can usually learn more about ourselves and how we are coming off. Only by trying to understanding how we're seen can we make sure we're sending the 'right signals'. To be understood by others, in other words is definitely by understanding ourselves.
We seem to have 'bright spots''dark spots' and 'personal spots'., and most assuredly, 'blind spots'.
The most interesting are the latter two; 'personal spots' and 'blind spots', since they involve the discrepancies between how we see ourselves and how others see us; a not sometimes flattering image at all...

my friends tell me i'm an a**hole...so i won't be paying attention to what my friends say