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What the hell do we do with our wants and desires ? A couple of years ago I came to terms with my situation, my age, being new to a small town etc. I made peace with the high probability that I will spend the rest of my life without love. It felt good. I actually started to smell the flowers again. Then 8 months ago I discovered CS, and other than meeting so many great people It also brought back the "Want". Wanting is angst, "Wanting", is a perpetual state of being off balance as opposed to feeling grounded and content. CS has made it clear to me that it affects all ages. Initially I thought it was just this stage of my life and my situation at present. I was divorced 7 years ago. It sometimes feels like yesterday. I loved her. I do not miss her, I miss the intoxication of love.

I've never been a cookie cutter person, as per career, social status etc. Love fulfilled all my needs. It did not define me, it completed me. There is nothing that this world can offer me that will replace that feeling of unconditional love. I care not for money, status, or any other diversion that this world has to offer. I want the divine opiate, love, pure and simple. I have this intuitive feeling that I've had my time in the sun. Cosmic boredom is my battle at this point in my life. Thanks for listening. Love. Paws

I miss loving and being loved too paws. It has been a long time for me too.
I however work a lot, and it gives me almost no down time to reflect of what I do not have. And if I keep typing now, I will, I think begin to know what you mean.
Good luck to you paws. Hope you find something to make your life exciting.
Kat

I can relate to your words Paws.

I have been divorced for 15 years, and somehow I do believe that I will never find true love.

I feel content with the simple things in life and being humble in spirit.

I hope you find that devine love that you deserve.


... Angel...

Paws, Friend

I see someone that is clinging on to a love that was lost.

No one will ever replace her, so no one will replace that love.

Come to terms with it. Grieve it, Let it go because until you do Paws you are allowing yourself to be lonely.

Find happy my friend

Don't give up.

When I joined CS, I had no expectations. It was a "well, you never know" kind of thing. I had not dated in 2 years. Was ready to give up, but figured I had nothing to lose by being here.

CS has, at times, given me mixed emotions. So many wonderful women, surely someone was here for me. When things didn't happen, it encouraged my doubts. Then I would see couples meeting, a a bit of hope would glimmer again, then start to fizzle. Back and forth.

This week i received an email from a CS member. We've talked. We're attracted. We're not far from each other. It feels good.

Don't give up Paws. It's out there.

Thanks my dear friend, but I am not clinging to her nor her memory. I simply miss the feeling of love.

Hey Paws..
My advice to you is quit looking. Be visable and available though. If it's ment to happen, trust me, it will. When one tends to look, one tends to be somewhat blind because they want it so very much. It will come my man. Somewhere out there is your special lady. She will find you. Old Dog

I am not looking. I'm simply wanting. And I stopped believing in Disnyesque endings a long time ago. But I thank you. Paws

I have often heard that when we stop searching, it'll (love) find us.

I too feel the need's of love, to be needed, to be helpful, to share those tender moment's, And to stand as a couple against all odds. To listen, to build together all dreams, to comfort, to cry, to laugh, to learn, and to be each others best friend.

Then I got a dog, lol... just kidding.

I fill that need with kids, grand kids,hobbies,and lots of fishing.
Good luck Paws, You truly have the wisdom and charms and great looks. Heck, when that lucky girl comes along, someone will have to get your shoe's, from you getting tackling so fast and hard....