Do The Talk, But Not The Walk (36)
CrabbyMonkeyWicklow, Ireland4 Threads 31 PostsLol, only $10,000 Jimboace1? :>...
jimboace1: furthermore i think some men and women on here only want to play games with those they mail why is anybodies business. i had a message today from a 28 year old women in the usa, her picture well she had been well moulded by the divine potter if you know what i mean anyway i sent her the $10,000 she needed lol
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EagleWoman: I can be exceedingly bad at continuing correspondance with people with whom I´m corresponding with on CS... Usually the corresponding has NOT been started by me but even so it´s no excuse...
I was trying to work out why I do that ... Sometimes, I get busy in real life, and by the time I get on line their message is burried under loads of others, sometimes I don´t feel like writing and just wanna chill on the forums, sometimes I lose interest and forget the messages I read have not been answered
I am not looking right now (and it says so in my profile), so I don´t see my correspondance as something building towards a relationship
You've always been prompt getting back to me, or answering a question/comment. Today a man e-mailed me with a short note. I mailed back a short note as soon as I saw his. The mailbox out indicates he read it. So, what up? Courtesy is so economical, and so easy.I was trying to work out why I do that ... Sometimes, I get busy in real life, and by the time I get on line their message is burried under loads of others, sometimes I don´t feel like writing and just wanna chill on the forums, sometimes I lose interest and forget the messages I read have not been answered
I am not looking right now (and it says so in my profile), so I don´t see my correspondance as something building towards a relationship
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Sounds like you've wasted some valuable time on some unworthies. Try video chat with people during the screening process, which usually weeds out the game players and latent scammers with efficiency. Then again a percentage of people on here will be either in a relationship or married and thus enjoy the chats and getting to know others process up till the point of actually meeting, at which point they disappear from your life completely and move along to the next person willing to talk to them so they're not so lonely.
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CrabbyMonkey: Why do...Men & Women....practise the charade of exchange mail, the phone calls,...but as soon as you suggest a "Meet up", you get "recorded message/unavailable" or ignored texts/pm's...playground antics on a dating site...seriously???
because they weren't that into you in the first place?
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DaveD20: I agree with the above but I think it might be not the whole reason. I think there might be other reasons too.
(1)Shyness or insecurity - Mailing especially is easier for a shy person but when it comes to meeting up it all becomes too real for a person who is shy or may be insecure about the impression they will make or fear rejection (2) Emotional scarring, some people who think they are ready to return to dating scene realise at last moment they are not (3) Is this a dating site or a social site or both? - Some folks are only here for friendship and the forums - All of a sudden people start talking about dates frightens them off keeping contact.
In all of the above situations, 100% honesty is required, tell the other person why you are making this decision. By being honest the whole way through, nobody gets hurt in the way that indecisiveness and play acting can wound. People will recover easier from a failed attraction/crush as opposed to the doubts that creep in after a person shies away from meeting. We are all human - Is it me will definitely start in your subconcious psyche and in the cases I mentioned that is not the intention of the refusal to meet.
(1)Shyness or insecurity - Mailing especially is easier for a shy person but when it comes to meeting up it all becomes too real for a person who is shy or may be insecure about the impression they will make or fear rejection (2) Emotional scarring, some people who think they are ready to return to dating scene realise at last moment they are not (3) Is this a dating site or a social site or both? - Some folks are only here for friendship and the forums - All of a sudden people start talking about dates frightens them off keeping contact.
In all of the above situations, 100% honesty is required, tell the other person why you are making this decision. By being honest the whole way through, nobody gets hurt in the way that indecisiveness and play acting can wound. People will recover easier from a failed attraction/crush as opposed to the doubts that creep in after a person shies away from meeting. We are all human - Is it me will definitely start in your subconcious psyche and in the cases I mentioned that is not the intention of the refusal to meet.
I agree and one other reason I can think of is, they may be married
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Truly some well given advice to take on board, should an occasion arise.
I understand the reason for shy people choosing written words as say to visual web connection, not sure if I would be ready for chatting via a "screening", but phone chatting I think even a shy person can overcome.
I based this thread purely on an objective view, from reading comments on other threads, of how some buckle at the last hurdle, of actually meeting.
The reasons given for why such Folk would dwindle, has been taken on board, and appreciated...the "lonely married person" I never would have thought of as an example, but apparently so. Thanks for comments and advice.
I understand the reason for shy people choosing written words as say to visual web connection, not sure if I would be ready for chatting via a "screening", but phone chatting I think even a shy person can overcome.
I based this thread purely on an objective view, from reading comments on other threads, of how some buckle at the last hurdle, of actually meeting.
The reasons given for why such Folk would dwindle, has been taken on board, and appreciated...the "lonely married person" I never would have thought of as an example, but apparently so. Thanks for comments and advice.
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Sometimes it's something called The Candy Store Syndrome 
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2intrigued: Sometimes it's something called The Candy Store Syndrome
Agreed.
The cherry lollipop is really tasty, but what if that twizzler or chocolate bar tastes better? I can always go back to cherry lollipop of I just lay it to the side for a bit.
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2intrigued: Sometimes it's something called The Candy Store Syndrome
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Kaybee50: Agreed.
The cherry lollipop is really tasty, but what if that twizzler or chocolate bar tastes better? I can always go back to cherry lollipop of I just lay it to the side for a bit.
The cherry lollipop is really tasty, but what if that twizzler or chocolate bar tastes better? I can always go back to cherry lollipop of I just lay it to the side for a bit.
So true Kay, we've seen it plenty eh?
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2intrigued: So true Kay, we've seen it plenty eh?
Indeed. Tis the reality of online dating sites.
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venusenvy: I agree and one other reason I can think of is, they may be married
I have actually found this to be the case quite a lot
that and they are downright scammers and i hate that 
I've actually met two CS-ers before (one from the forums and one i met thru email on here)...both were a great experience although neither worked out (one lasted a few months and the other lasted 4-1/2 years)...but i'd do it again in a heartbeat
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CrabbyMonkey: Why do...Men & Women....practise the charade of exchange mail, the phone calls,...but as soon as you suggest a "Meet up", you get "recorded message/unavailable" or ignored texts/pm's...playground antics on a dating site...seriously???
married
has a girlfriend
or
scammer
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2intrigued: Sometimes it's something called The Candy Store Syndrome
Thats true Trigs
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rohaan: You've always been prompt getting back to me, or answering a question/comment. Today a man e-mailed me with a short note. I mailed back a short note as soon as I saw his. The mailbox out indicates he read it. So, what up? Courtesy is so economical, and so easy.
Rohaan, I had a CS friend do that to me yesterday...he emailed me last night and said he read my email on his phone earlier in the day and thought he sent a quick reply but did not see it later, so realized it must have not gone through and apologized for not getting back to me earlier.
Just a thought, maybe send him a glass of wine
or rose....just to see...can't hurt. If he doesn't respond then, you will know he is not a courteous person and therefore not for you!! 
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2intrigued: So true Kay, we've seen it plenty eh?
it is too hard , eh?
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