I was Badly hurt once: Now Afraid to love fully (49)
Migsycandelaria quezon, Calabarzon Philippines16 Threads 1,632 PostsI cant give a very nice advice coz i am not dr.love aside from the fact that i am gamophobic type of girl i hate commitment so i never had a long term relatioship plus the fact that i am workaholic being but ur 7 years was an achievement u should be proud of it the sad reality was you loved the girl that god meant for others,people maybe a blessing or a lesson for u,just move on,life is too short :-)
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It's called life and everyone has to go through it at some stage. 
Sorry to break it to you, probably more than once.
It's how YOU deal with it these episodes that determines how you see life and how you will be getting on in the future. Draw your lessons out of it and try to move on.
Best of luck to you.
Sorry to break it to you, probably more than once.
It's how YOU deal with it these episodes that determines how you see life and how you will be getting on in the future. Draw your lessons out of it and try to move on.
Best of luck to you.
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Cataluna, you are right.. I need to regain my trust for love maybe but not that easy...So much bad memories in me still not totally healed. Thanks
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Thank you very much, ohwiseone, I truly appreciate your brilliant thoughts.
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Daveland: Thank you very much, ohwiseone, I truly appreciate your brilliant thoughts.
Your welcome and you will get there in your own time
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Migsy, good for you..you have still the sole control of all..
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KNenagh, thank you..I am dealing with them little by little.. because I also don't want to be rotten behind. Sometimes, i just can't help but tremble and shiver to recall the past..
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Hi Daveland,
Your allowed to have your feelings validated. Those two basic emotions In Life – Love and Fear
There are those two basic emotions that we all experience, love and fear. All other emotions are variations of these two emotions. Thoughts and behavior come from either a place of love, or a place of fear. It's only natural you would be feeling fear at this point,as they say time is the greatest healer,in time you will see this as a learning process,and be able to make some positive changes. Yes,I have been in your shoes in the past. Best wishes.
Your allowed to have your feelings validated. Those two basic emotions In Life – Love and Fear
There are those two basic emotions that we all experience, love and fear. All other emotions are variations of these two emotions. Thoughts and behavior come from either a place of love, or a place of fear. It's only natural you would be feeling fear at this point,as they say time is the greatest healer,in time you will see this as a learning process,and be able to make some positive changes. Yes,I have been in your shoes in the past. Best wishes.
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In response to: I was once hurt after a 7 years relationship. Third party sucks! Now I can see life sometimes as stupidly unfair. Since 9 years old, my parents parted ways, they live now freely with their own families in different countries. I do and live my own, I never felt real love then.
Thinking that love is just "four" common letters from the lips! The heart can't even speak for itself! Often I want to love from the heart not from the lips alone but my mind refuse! If you are in my shoe, will you do the same?
Thinking that love is just "four" common letters from the lips! The heart can't even speak for itself! Often I want to love from the heart not from the lips alone but my mind refuse! If you are in my shoe, will you do the same?
It lasted 7 years..........that´s not bad by today´s standards. I don´t know the details but if your partner hurt you so badly, I presume he/she didn´t love you enuf, so you´re better off alone. Love yourself first..........hopefully someone will appear who will love you the same.
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Daveland: I was once hurt after a 7 years relationship. Third party sucks! Now I can see life sometimes as stupidly unfair. Since 9 years old, my parents parted ways, they live now freely with their own families in different countries. I do and live my own, I never felt real love then.
Thinking that love is just "four" common letters from the lips! The heart can't even speak for itself! Often I want to love from the heart not from the lips alone but my mind refuse! If you are in my shoe, will you do the same?
I am also on the same boat..but mine was one side love...but had very hard time..its been 6 yrs..and still I cant get her out of my mind...will forget her soon..and will move on in life....Thinking that love is just "four" common letters from the lips! The heart can't even speak for itself! Often I want to love from the heart not from the lips alone but my mind refuse! If you are in my shoe, will you do the same?
coming back to your question..I would rather be single than to be in a relationship which has no love.Its really unfair to say some one that you love them..when you actually don't!!!I am sure you will find a nice girl who would love you as much as you loved your EX!!
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You have been fortunate to have been able to LOVE...in your lifetime ;some people don't ever feel it.
Time is going to be your healer for sure...
Take it slow next time, be friends first,get to know the person well.
Men have emotions too and need to get them out...it does not make you weak.
Wish you the best!
Time is going to be your healer for sure...
Take it slow next time, be friends first,get to know the person well.
Men have emotions too and need to get them out...it does not make you weak.
Wish you the best!
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Daveland: I was once hurt after a 7 years relationship. Third party sucks! Now I can see life sometimes as stupidly unfair. Since 9 years old, my parents parted ways, they live now freely with their own families in different countries. I do and live my own, I never felt real love then.
Thinking that love is just "four" common letters from the lips! The heart can't even speak for itself! Often I want to love from the heart not from the lips alone but my mind refuse! If you are in my shoe, will you do the same?
Thinking that love is just "four" common letters from the lips! The heart can't even speak for itself! Often I want to love from the heart not from the lips alone but my mind refuse! If you are in my shoe, will you do the same?
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Daveland: I was once hurt after a 7 years relationship. Third party sucks! Now I can see life sometimes as stupidly unfair. Since 9 years old, my parents parted ways, they live now freely with their own families in different countries. I do and live my own, I never felt real love then.
Thinking that love is just "four" common letters from the lips! The heart can't even speak for itself! Often I want to love from the heart not from the lips alone but my mind refuse! If you are in my shoe, will you do the same?
Thinking that love is just "four" common letters from the lips! The heart can't even speak for itself! Often I want to love from the heart not from the lips alone but my mind refuse! If you are in my shoe, will you do the same?
They just seem to keep it in their trousers, my ex 15yrs, jumped the fence thinking the grass was greener but has found out differently now.
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Kristia49: They just seem to keep it in their trousers, my ex 15yrs, jumped the fence thinking the grass was greener but has found out differently now.
They just can't seem to keep it in their trousers.
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jac379:
If we understand that hurt is just a passing phase that we have survived once, we will survive it again if it happens and will be fine on our own again if it happens, we start to lose the fear of being hurt. Its just part of a learning process.
If we understand that hurt is just a passing phase that we have survived once, we will survive it again if it happens and will be fine on our own again if it happens, we start to lose the fear of being hurt. Its just part of a learning process.
True enough, Jac, but it occurred to me, a decade or more ago, when I was feeling just such despair: That was the saddest part of all, knowing that I'd get over it. Knowing that devalues what you're feeling at the time. You feel such sorrow and loss! And being told (or already knowing) that you'll get over it makes it seem like, well, you stubbed your toe, it hurts, but no big deal.
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Well for a start; I would be hopping. (EH?)
Common letters from the heart?
Pain? (Sorry but hurtful)
and just get over it!
Take a dive and dig deep within you!
As you come up spluttering for air
Who do you love!
YOU!!!
Now go find your other shoe!
Common letters from the heart?
Pain? (Sorry but hurtful)
and just get over it!
Take a dive and dig deep within you!
As you come up spluttering for air
Who do you love!
YOU!!!
Now go find your other shoe!
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Daveland: I was once hurt after a 7 years relationship. Third party sucks! Now I can see life sometimes as stupidly unfair. Since 9 years old, my parents parted ways, they live now freely with their own families in different countries. I do and live my own, I never felt real love then.
Thinking that love is just "four" common letters from the lips! The heart can't even speak for itself! Often I want to love from the heart not from the lips alone but my mind refuse! If you are in my shoe, will you do the same?
you think yr the only 1 who got hurt?Thinking that love is just "four" common letters from the lips! The heart can't even speak for itself! Often I want to love from the heart not from the lips alone but my mind refuse! If you are in my shoe, will you do the same?
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