What age did start feeling "Older" and concerned about finding a special partner. (29)
1977MumOf1: I am 35 and disappointed that I haven't found a partner with whom I'd settle down with. I have had a few great partners, but in all just 4 in my entire life. I am worried that I may not find someone special before I am actually considered OLD. All of my friends have partners bar one. I feel like I'm missing out - and sometimes feel missing out of the best part of life. I only have one child - and doubt I will have more - and I always wanted 2-4 children, a marriage, a home, a career. I have all but the marriage.
Friends think "I have the life" of freedom and choice, but really - they have it all.
The love of children, partners and security. What do you think? Was there a point where you felt like the long-term family/love goals were slipping? Or is it just me?
Friends think "I have the life" of freedom and choice, but really - they have it all.
The love of children, partners and security. What do you think? Was there a point where you felt like the long-term family/love goals were slipping? Or is it just me?
Dear 1977MumOf1,
On the morning of my thirtieth birthday I was so panic stricken I came out in a rash. By the end of the day, I realised I was still the same person and I didn't have to be any more grown up than I was the day before.
On the morning of my fortieth, I was just pleased I'd made that far.
I think there is still a lot of emphasis upon youth being an intrinsic factor in women's loveable quotient, so we are made to feel that life will end as we know it when hit some age milestones.
At 45, with many changes afoot, I feel like life is starting afresh, but with all sorts of knowledge skills I've accumulated in the last 10-15 years.
Life is not over, Mum. It just gets better and better if you've got the sense to make something of all the opportunities presented to you.
Yours sincerely,
1967MumOf1,GrandmaOf1.
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1977MumOf1: I am 35 and disappointed that I haven't found a partner with whom I'd settle down with. I have had a few great partners, but in all just 4 in my entire life. I am worried that I may not find someone special before I am actually considered OLD. All of my friends have partners bar one. I feel like I'm missing out - and sometimes feel missing out of the best part of life. I only have one child - and doubt I will have more - and I always wanted 2-4 children, a marriage, a home, a career. I have all but the marriage.
Friends think "I have the life" of freedom and choice, but really - they have it all.
The love of children, partners and security. What do you think? Was there a point where you felt like the long-term family/love goals were slipping? Or is it just me?
Friends think "I have the life" of freedom and choice, but really - they have it all.
The love of children, partners and security. What do you think? Was there a point where you felt like the long-term family/love goals were slipping? Or is it just me?
Hi Mumof1, sorry to hear you are disappointed that you haven't found the right partner yet. Same here, had some great long-term relationships, but couldn't see it working "forever".
Not being contrary, but do you really think your friends have it all? I have siblings and friends who were/are married - but looking at their relationships, I have to say I don't envy anyone of them.
That's not meant in a nasty way, just observing what's going on there, I doubt many of them are actually happy. 
I'm happy with the way my life is going at the moment, yes I would love to meet the right person for me, but I'm not panicked about it. I stopped making plans a long time ago and although I have certain goals I absolutely want to achieve, I limit them to things I can achieve by myself.
Hope you'll find what you're looking for.
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Sorry Girl, can't recall getting older, always a kid at heart,.......... tag, your it.....99, 100...coming ready or not..... 
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YOUR A BEAUTIFUL YOUNG LADY,,,AND YOU WILL FIND YOUR LOVE,,,HE IS OUT THERE WAITING FOR YOU,,NOW IF YOU GO TO MY PROFILE YOU WILL SEE A WOMAN WHO ISNT VERY PRETTY..AND I FOUND THE LOVE OF MY LIFE WHEN I WAS 40..I HAD 5 KIDS AND WASNT LOOKING..WE WERE TOGEHER FOR 10 YEARS BEFORE HE DIED AND I WOULDNT TRADE THOSE YEARS FOR ALL THE MONEY IN THE WORLD. MY ALAN TREATED ME LIKE I WAS THE LOVE OF HIS LIFE AND TRIED EVERY DAY TO SHOW IT,YOU ARE LUCKY...YOU GET TO HAVE THIS IN YOUR LIFE AND I FEEL HE IS COMING SOON,,..GOOD LUCK,,,
1977MumOf1: I am 35 and disappointed that I haven't found a partner with whom I'd settle down with. I have had a few great partners, but in all just 4 in my entire life. I am worried that I may not find someone special before I am actually considered OLD. All of my friends have partners bar one. I feel like I'm missing out - and sometimes feel missing out of the best part of life. I only have one child - and doubt I will have more - and I always wanted 2-4 children, a marriage, a home, a career. I have all but the marriage.
Friends think "I have the life" of freedom and choice, but really - they have it all.
The love of children, partners and security. What do you think? Was there a point where you felt like the long-term family/love goals were slipping? Or is it just me?
Friends think "I have the life" of freedom and choice, but really - they have it all.
The love of children, partners and security. What do you think? Was there a point where you felt like the long-term family/love goals were slipping? Or is it just me?
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If you cannot find someone,when you reach 109 years old,then i think is about time to give it up.
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You know dear,marriage is a very large circle. Some of the insiders want to jump out and some of the outsiders want to jump in.
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1977MumOf1: I am 35 and disappointed that I haven't found a partner with whom I'd settle down with. I have had a few great partners, but in all just 4 in my entire life. I am worried that I may not find someone special before I am actually considered OLD. All of my friends have partners bar one. I feel like I'm missing out - and sometimes feel missing out of the best part of life. I only have one child - and doubt I will have more - and I always wanted 2-4 children, a marriage, a home, a career. I have all but the marriage.
Friends think "I have the life" of freedom and choice, but really - they have it all.
The love of children, partners and security. What do you think? Was there a point where you felt like the long-term family/love goals were slipping? Or is it just me?
Friends think "I have the life" of freedom and choice, but really - they have it all.
The love of children, partners and security. What do you think? Was there a point where you felt like the long-term family/love goals were slipping? Or is it just me?
Careerists women so often have the most unfulfilling private lives. You're far from alone if divorce and marriage rates are anything to go by.
The negative is that you've left it as late as you have. It's now harder to find a man you're really hot for who is going to want you and your kid. And this is where modern women usually marry a resource providing cuddle herb for a few short years before she instigates no-fault divorce against him.
However, there's a sliver of crimethink to your words, openly admitting to want the family life over the career is just not vogue. So I don't think you'll be detracting desirable men with options by espousing feminism. Which can only be a good thing.
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The short answer is whenever you hit the wall. Which isn't a feeling. It's a fact.
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In response to: I am 35 and disappointed that I haven't found a partner with whom I'd settle down with. I have had a few great partners, but in all just 4 in my entire life. I am worried that I may not find someone special before I am actually considered OLD. All of my friends have partners bar one. I feel like I'm missing out - and sometimes feel missing out of the best part of life. I only have one child - and doubt I will have more - and I always wanted 2-4 children, a marriage, a home, a career. I have all but the marriage.
Friends think "I have the life" of freedom and choice, but really - they have it all.
The love of children, partners and security. What do you think? Was there a point where you felt like the long-term family/love goals were slipping? Or is it just me?
Friends think "I have the life" of freedom and choice, but really - they have it all.
The love of children, partners and security. What do you think? Was there a point where you felt like the long-term family/love goals were slipping? Or is it just me?
Enjoy what you have and don´t fret about what you think you don´t have. Really special people aren´t lurking around every corner but if he´s around you´ll find each other eventually.
btw.......you never "feel" old.........ya just begin to look it
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older?... humm... i taught this was a teenager area !!
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No worries Mum,I believe all of us that are with out a partner feel this way at times. If something is meant to be, it will happen. most of the time when we least expect to it.Until then enjoy your life, your family and your friends. 
1977MumOf1: I am 35 and disappointed that I haven't found a partner with whom I'd settle down with. I have had a few great partners, but in all just 4 in my entire life. I am worried that I may not find someone special before I am actually considered OLD. All of my friends have partners bar one. I feel like I'm missing out - and sometimes feel missing out of the best part of life. I only have one child - and doubt I will have more - and I always wanted 2-4 children, a marriage, a home, a career. I have all but the marriage.
Friends think "I have the life" of freedom and choice, but really - they have it all.
The love of children, partners and security. What do you think? Was there a point where you felt like the long-term family/love goals were slipping? Or is it just me?
Friends think "I have the life" of freedom and choice, but really - they have it all.
The love of children, partners and security. What do you think? Was there a point where you felt like the long-term family/love goals were slipping? Or is it just me?
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just try to enjoy your life, as long as you still try to finding your love then you'll find. And beside that you're have precious thing in your life and that is your kid, guess she/he will always can make your day and can keep you smile.
Just keep believe that somebody out there is for you & will find you soon so you & him can be together.
I'm 35 yo, single too no kid, so your life more lucky cos have kids that can always cheer up your day. But each of us have our own happiness with our own way ...be grateful with that
Wish you luck to find him
Just keep believe that somebody out there is for you & will find you soon so you & him can be together.
I'm 35 yo, single too no kid, so your life more lucky cos have kids that can always cheer up your day. But each of us have our own happiness with our own way ...be grateful with that
Wish you luck to find him
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Ive had several special partners in my life. Im 51 and Im still waiting for that "old" thang to kick in.
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When I was on my early 20's I thought I just wanted to be a carreer woman... and be successful on my field and stuff...
Life showed me otherwise , when at 23 I became a mom :) ... and since then I have worked twice harder but trying to keep on perspective that even if I love my job... my family has to be my priority ...
Family whoever they are...
Most of times it has been just me and my kid...and a dog or cat ... and still ...We were/ are a family
(Now someone 'else' that wants to jump in our lifes and be part of my family hehe
... )
So... said this..you've already got a family!!!!
Now abt a partner... well.-..It may happen anytime...anywhere... Love yourself first and you will see things from the happier side of life... and love will come along!
Best of luck!!!!
Life showed me otherwise , when at 23 I became a mom :) ... and since then I have worked twice harder but trying to keep on perspective that even if I love my job... my family has to be my priority ...
Family whoever they are...
Most of times it has been just me and my kid...and a dog or cat ... and still ...We were/ are a family
(Now someone 'else' that wants to jump in our lifes and be part of my family hehe
... ) So... said this..you've already got a family!!!!
Now abt a partner... well.-..It may happen anytime...anywhere... Love yourself first and you will see things from the happier side of life... and love will come along!
Best of luck!!!!
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In response to: I am 35 and disappointed that I haven't found a partner with whom I'd settle down with. I have had a few great partners, but in all just 4 in my entire life. I am worried that I may not find someone special before I am actually considered OLD. All of my friends have partners bar one. I feel like I'm missing out - and sometimes feel missing out of the best part of life. I only have one child - and doubt I will have more - and I always wanted 2-4 children, a marriage, a home, a career. I have all but the marriage.
Friends think "I have the life" of freedom and choice, but really - they have it all.
The love of children, partners and security. What do you think? Was there a point where you felt like the long-term family/love goals were slipping? Or is it just me?
Friends think "I have the life" of freedom and choice, but really - they have it all.
The love of children, partners and security. What do you think? Was there a point where you felt like the long-term family/love goals were slipping? Or is it just me?
The grass is always greener on the other side of the fence: your friends are envious of you and you of them, and being in a relationship does not necessarily give you security.
At 35 you are nowhere near being considered "old", there are thousands of people looking for "the one" in all age groups - look at how many members there are on all these dating sites. "Mr Right" is out there somewhere and when the time is right you will find him, so stay positive and enjoy the life you have at the moment without the constraints of being tied down.
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Obstinance_Works: Careerists women so often have the most unfulfilling private lives. You're far from alone if divorce and marriage rates are anything to go by.
The negative is that you've left it as late as you have. It's now harder to find a man you're really hot for who is going to want you and your kid. And this is where modern women usually marry a resource providing cuddle herb for a few short years before she instigates no-fault divorce against him.
However, there's a sliver of crimethink to your words, openly admitting to want the family life over the career is just not vogue. So I don't think you'll be detracting desirable men with options by espousing feminism. Which can only be a good thing.
The negative is that you've left it as late as you have. It's now harder to find a man you're really hot for who is going to want you and your kid. And this is where modern women usually marry a resource providing cuddle herb for a few short years before she instigates no-fault divorce against him.
However, there's a sliver of crimethink to your words, openly admitting to want the family life over the career is just not vogue. So I don't think you'll be detracting desirable men with options by espousing feminism. Which can only be a good thing.
her age has forced her breeding instincts to the forefront..Late 29 to 40 seems to be the most toxic ages for men to encounter..When and only when men refuse to support and or raise another man's children will this pattern stop..
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my gf says i am a 5 year old trapped in a 43year old body. she said this shortly before sitting down in a toy isle at wal-mart. yep i think i grew up enough to find my match
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ynotleon69: my gf says i am a 5 year old trapped in a 43year old body. she said this shortly before sitting down in a toy isle at wal-mart. yep i think i grew up enough to find my match
That's the spirit and hey, as long as you are happy, that's all that counts.
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Friends think "I have the life" of freedom and choice, but really - they have it all.
The love of children, partners and security. What do you think? Was there a point where you felt like the long-term family/love goals were slipping? Or is it just me?