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May 16, 2013 8:13 PM CST Very confused.....................
This is not a self pity thread. I am just really confused at how people can do internet dating and meet people and get dates.
What is the secret??? My sister has met guys on this and she said they where all complete weirdos and was actually scared of a couple of them.
Is it the the old moto "nice guys finish last".
Just boggle's my mind how this work's and what i am missing.
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May 16, 2013 9:50 PM CST Very confused.....................
mariespoodles
mariespoodlesmariespoodlesSydney, New South Wales Australia25 Threads 1,648 Posts
I'm just here for the forums and the occasional chit chat via cs email. If you're looking then just be yourself with an open mind. If you genuinely like who you are then chances are someone else will too but it takes time really getting to know folks. Engage in the forums and interact with profiles you like. If they don't reply or don't connect & bond with you then nothing lost.

That's all I got Super, the rest is up to you wink wine
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May 16, 2013 9:55 PM CST Very confused.....................
BlueLifeTr
BlueLifeTrBlueLifeTrRidgefield, New Jersey USA19 Threads 16 Polls 148 Posts
mariespoodles: I'm just here for the forums and the occasional chit chat via cs email. If you're looking then just be yourself with an open mind. If you genuinely like who you are then chances are someone else will too but it takes time really getting to know folks. Engage in the forums and interact with profiles you like. If they don't reply or don't connect & bond with you then nothing lost.

That's all I got Super, the rest is up to you

You're right!thumbs up
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May 16, 2013 9:59 PM CST Very confused.....................
Jillll
JillllJillllRancho Cucamonga, California USA3 Threads 1 Polls 1,390 Posts
mariespoodles: I'm just here for the forums and the occasional chit chat via cs email. If you're looking then just be yourself with an open mind. If you genuinely like who you are then chances are someone else will too but it takes time really getting to know folks. Engage in the forums and interact with profiles you like. If they don't reply or don't connect & bond with you then nothing lost.

That's all I got Super, the rest is up to you



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I think an open mind is so important. So many times it's easy to pass someone up because they're too far, too old, too young, too fat, too thin, not good looking enough, or a myriad of other reasons. Take your time getting to know people. Some will become good friends, some not, but in time you will find someone special in a way you never thought possible.
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May 16, 2013 10:18 PM CST Very confused.....................
DaytonaDude
DaytonaDudeDaytonaDudeSouth Daytona, Florida USA33 Threads 3 Polls 2,403 Posts
Give up now. You have no chance at the women, with me being on this site.




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May 16, 2013 10:26 PM CST Very confused.....................
2intrigued
2intrigued2intriguedMississauga, Ontario Canada11 Threads 18,576 Posts
DaytonaDude: Give up now. You have no chance at the women, with me being on this site.


There's always the one you diverted to Disney. giggle wave
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May 16, 2013 10:42 PM CST Very confused.....................
LonelyMontse08
LonelyMontse08LonelyMontse08San Pedro Sula, Honduras15 Threads 797 Posts
DaytonaDude: Give up now. You have no chance at the women, with me being on this site.
rolling on the floor laughing Daytona thumbs up
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May 16, 2013 10:44 PM CST Very confused.....................
DaytonaDude
DaytonaDudeDaytonaDudeSouth Daytona, Florida USA33 Threads 3 Polls 2,403 Posts
LonelyMontse08: Daytona


wave LM wink
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May 16, 2013 10:51 PM CST Very confused.....................
2intrigued
2intrigued2intriguedMississauga, Ontario Canada11 Threads 18,576 Posts
2intrigued: There's always the one you diverted to Disney.


I love being ignored yay dancing
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May 16, 2013 11:03 PM CST Very confused.....................
bohemianjack
bohemianjackbohemianjackEast Central, Minnesota USA6 Threads 2 Polls 2,701 Posts
2intrigued: I love being ignored




Ever heard of Schrödinger's cat?.. grin


wine


"All I do is keep the beat and bad company and kiss you through the bars of a rhyme.." ~Dire Straits. Romeo & Juliet kiss
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May 16, 2013 11:08 PM CST Very confused.....................
2intrigued
2intrigued2intriguedMississauga, Ontario Canada11 Threads 18,576 Posts
bohemianjack: Ever heard of Schrödinger's cat?..


"All I do is keep the beat and bad company and kiss you through the bars of a rhyme.." ~Dire Straits. Romeo & Juliet


I've heard the term used before but I don't know about it. confused laugh wave
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May 16, 2013 11:10 PM CST Very confused.....................
michael63ca
michael63camichael63caVancouver, Alberta Canada50 Threads 2 Polls 784 Posts
In response to: This is not a self pity thread. I am just really confused at how people can do internet dating and meet people and get dates.
What is the secret??? My sister has met guys on this and she said they where all complete weirdos and was actually scared of a couple of them.
Is it the the old moto "nice guys finish last".
Just boggle's my mind how this work's and what i am missing.


I am not so sure you can meet "normal" people here or anywhere for that matter anymore! I am a part time actor, a musician, I have a very good paying normal career I've raised two children on my own, yet that sweet girl next door has always eluded me. either that or I have a special gift for attracting / meeting crazy money hungry women.
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May 16, 2013 11:17 PM CST Very confused.....................
bohemianjack
bohemianjackbohemianjackEast Central, Minnesota USA6 Threads 2 Polls 2,701 Posts
2intrigued: I've heard the term used before but I don't know about it.


grin




wine


"Let me start again... In 1935 Austrian physicist Erwin Schrödinger devised an experiment.. " ~Sheldon. Big Bang Theory flower
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May 16, 2013 11:22 PM CST Very confused.....................
2intrigued
2intrigued2intriguedMississauga, Ontario Canada11 Threads 18,576 Posts
bohemianjack: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HCOE__N6v4o"Let me start again... In 1935 Austrian physicist Erwin Schrödinger devised an experiment.. " ~Sheldon. Big Bang Theory


Thanks laugh grin hug
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May 16, 2013 11:23 PM CST Very confused.....................
sophiasummer
sophiasummersophiasummerNorthland, New Zealand112 Threads 6,528 Posts
A letter of blues
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May 16, 2013 11:29 PM CST Very confused.....................
bohemianjack
bohemianjackbohemianjackEast Central, Minnesota USA6 Threads 2 Polls 2,701 Posts
2intrigued: Thanks




hug


wine


"When you run out of red, use blue!" Pablo Picasso, on flexibility and imagination wink
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May 17, 2013 1:00 AM CST Very confused.....................
Boban1
Boban1Boban1bigplace, Central Serbia Serbia144 Threads 5 Polls 18,789 Posts
Superindigoman: This is not a self pity thread. I am just really confused at how people can do internet dating and meet people and get dates.
What is the secret??? My sister has met guys on this and she said they where all complete weirdos and was actually scared of a couple of them.
Is it the the old moto "nice guys finish last".
Just boggle's my mind how this work's and what i am missing.

Well,ain`t life a mystery ...
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May 17, 2013 6:12 AM CST Very confused.....................
Halv0
Halv0Halv0Marcoola, Queensland Australia19 Threads 766 Posts
Superindigoman: This is not a self pity thread. I am just really confused at how people can do internet dating and meet people and get dates.
What is the secret??? My sister has met guys on this and she said they where all complete weirdos and was actually scared of a couple of them.
Is it the the old moto "nice guys finish last".
Just boggle's my mind how this work's and what i am missing.


Well, firstly it depends on how you view this medium. I don't think of it as a "dating" thing, because I can't date someone from behind a computer screen. But for me it was a medium to meet interesting people. After I met them, we talked through skype, email, and telephone.

After we talked, I travelled and met in person. After I met in person, we dated and now I'm engaged to marry one of the beautiful women I met right here.

What you are missing is the reality that people have to become introduced somehow. I for one, do not want to hang out in pubs and clubs, there are very few "dances" with people my own age. So what options are there?

This medium is a great choice to be introduced to personalities. Then it is up to you how and when one goes further. Wisdom is always advised. I believe that one can get a pretty good feel about others when talking to them on skype and the telephone. After a while you can tell certain traits that people may have.

No offense meant by my next comment, but perhaps your sister may be viewed a a "weirdo" as well by those whom have met her. It is not always the other person that has issues and weird ideas.....

I know of a number of people in relationships who have met online. My first wife I met online and we were married for 10 years. That is a pretty good innings. We only divorced because she became ill and instigated divorce proceedings while under her mental illness.

That can happen to anyone.
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May 17, 2013 6:23 AM CST Very confused.....................
Happygolucky4u
Happygolucky4uHappygolucky4uTreasure Coast, Florida USA25 Threads 4 Polls 6,241 Posts
Superindigoman: This is not a self pity thread. I am just really confused at how people can do internet dating and meet people and get dates.
What is the secret??? My sister has met guys on this and she said they where all complete weirdos and was actually scared of a couple of them.
Is it the the old moto "nice guys finish last".
Just boggle's my mind how this work's and what i am missing.
I am so so sorry but I have to ask out of curiosity, do you feel less confused now? uh oh

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There is some good suggestions on how it happens here. Be yourself, be open minded, keep your expectations in check I know everytime I buy a lotto ticket I expect to win. Thank goodness I don't run out and spend the money before I have it. Try and have fun on this site. And remember it might take a while to find the right one. I don't feel their are anymore weirdos on this site than is out there in the tactile world. Best wishes to you on your search teddybear
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May 17, 2013 6:24 AM CST Very confused.....................
Halv0: Well, firstly it depends on how you view this medium. I don't think of it as a "dating" thing, because I can't date someone from behind a computer screen. But for me it was a medium to meet interesting people. After I met them, we talked through skype, email, and telephone.

After we talked, I travelled and met in person. After I met in person, we dated and now I'm engaged to marry one of the beautiful women I met right here.

What you are missing is the reality that people have to become introduced somehow. I for one, do not want to hang out in pubs and clubs, there are very few "dances" with people my own age. So what options are there?

This medium is a great choice to be introduced to personalities. Then it is up to you how and when one goes further. Wisdom is always advised. I believe that one can get a pretty good feel about others when talking to them on skype and the telephone. After a while you can tell certain traits that people may have.

No offense meant by my next comment, but perhaps your sister may be viewed a a "weirdo" as well by those whom have met her. It is not always the other person that has issues and weird ideas.....

I know of a number of people in relationships who have met online. My first wife I met online and we were married for 10 years. That is a pretty good innings. We only divorced because she became ill and instigated divorce proceedings while under her mental illness.

That can happen to anyone.


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