I went out with a man tonight 14 years my junior.... (168)
MrBenjaminWright: I have dated a woman 15 years older than me (I am 43 and she was 58) a year ago. She had children, but they were all grown and on their own. It wasn't that, we were looking for a date. It just stumbled on us.
Nonetheless, we sparked a wonderful friendship/relationship (that lasted 6 months total).
She was a wonderful and beautiful woman (for her age). But she wasn't my type. She wasn't as intuitive than I first thought she'd be. She was fun-loving, but it seem she still had personal issues. She didn't have to come out and say anything. It was in her eyes, as well, as her body language.
It seemed as if she wasn't really "ready to move on". JMO
Nonetheless, we sparked a wonderful friendship/relationship (that lasted 6 months total).
She was a wonderful and beautiful woman (for her age). But she wasn't my type. She wasn't as intuitive than I first thought she'd be. She was fun-loving, but it seem she still had personal issues. She didn't have to come out and say anything. It was in her eyes, as well, as her body language.
It seemed as if she wasn't really "ready to move on". JMO
I can understand your situation.
We accumulate baggage, as we age. If we can compartmentalize it all, it's not a problem.
Sometimes it can "get in the way" if not dealt with....
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BerrySmoothie: I can understand your situation.
We accumulate baggage, as we age. If we can compartmentalize it all, it's not a problem.
Sometimes it can "get in the way" if not dealt with....
We accumulate baggage, as we age. If we can compartmentalize it all, it's not a problem.
Sometimes it can "get in the way" if not dealt with....
Oh, I can relate when things "get in the way". It's usually human emotions that lag. And, it transit to "artificial love". In this case, it just became "Friends with Benefits".
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MrBenjaminWright: Oh, I can relate when things "get in the way". It's usually human emotions that lag. And, it transit to "artificial love". In this case, it just became "Friends with Benefits".
Y'see.....before it became a FWB, I probably would've sat down with my partner and discussed the issues that were bothering me and at least he'd be aware of them.
I don't do the FB, FWB thingee. I think these arrangements can have a tendency to muck up people's heads and hearts if they haven't got a rock solid agreement......I like to have someone who is as into me as I am in him.....and we are an exclusive item. If we do have an issue, then it needs to be aired. At least give each other the opportunity to decide how to, perhaps, remedy the situation. If not, then they make a decision to move on.
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BerrySmoothie: Y'see.....before it became a FWB, I probably would've sat down with my partner and discussed the issues that were bothering me and at least he'd be aware of them.
I don't do the FB, FWB thingee. I think these arrangements can have a tendency to muck up people's heads and hearts if they haven't got a rock solid agreement......I like to have someone who is as into me as I am in him.....and we are an exclusive item. If we do have an issue, then it needs to be aired. At least give each other the opportunity to decide how to, perhaps, remedy the situation. If not, then they make a decision to move on.
I don't do the FB, FWB thingee. I think these arrangements can have a tendency to muck up people's heads and hearts if they haven't got a rock solid agreement......I like to have someone who is as into me as I am in him.....and we are an exclusive item. If we do have an issue, then it needs to be aired. At least give each other the opportunity to decide how to, perhaps, remedy the situation. If not, then they make a decision to move on.
This maybe an "off-topic" comment, are you a physchologist? lol
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MrBenjaminWright: This maybe an "off-topic" comment, are you a physchologist? lol
No. I'm the client....
No, sorry....am neither....though probably should book myself in for some sessions....
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BerrySmoothie: No. I'm the client.... No, sorry....am neither....though probably should book myself in for some sessions....
I asked that, because that "woman" that I dated 15 years my age...WAS!
At least, I got a free session. (Or a few)
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Whatever your in mood for maybe all
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48jojo: Whatever your in mood for maybe all
Had a feeling you'd go with that.
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BerrySmoothie: I've never dated or been involved with men younger than myself.
It has never been a preference of mine.
...but I wanted to experience time with a man much younger than myself.
It didn't work for me. He was very friendly but worlds apart in terms of how we each see the world. I've had children. He hasn't. He seemed quite self-centred and talked endlessly about himself. He was quite the gentleman, very polite but I think for him it was about being with an "older woman".
My question is: is there a line for you?....how young/older would you realistically venture in finding a suitable partner.
This isn't about judging others who have found happiness with sizable age differences. Just want to know people's thoughts on this.
I thought I was quite "hip"...."young at heart"....but my perspective of the world is much different to a man who is considerably younger than myself.
Your thoughts/experiences.....
It has never been a preference of mine.
...but I wanted to experience time with a man much younger than myself.
It didn't work for me. He was very friendly but worlds apart in terms of how we each see the world. I've had children. He hasn't. He seemed quite self-centred and talked endlessly about himself. He was quite the gentleman, very polite but I think for him it was about being with an "older woman".
My question is: is there a line for you?....how young/older would you realistically venture in finding a suitable partner.
This isn't about judging others who have found happiness with sizable age differences. Just want to know people's thoughts on this.
I thought I was quite "hip"...."young at heart"....but my perspective of the world is much different to a man who is considerably younger than myself.
Your thoughts/experiences.....
I have dated both ends of the age spectrum and sometimes I expect found that the older men can be quite childish and less evolved as the youn ger men I've dated.
I don't think it's ever a case of age and which is better anymore I think it's a case of how a person was raised how they are themselves in life at the time u meet them and if ur lucky enough to be at the same stage of life at the same time then great.....there are some you ger men who act like they are much older also. ...it's a matter of luck and chemistry and personalities than age anymore....jmo
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Kaybee50: I've tried as well several times. I too wanted to keep an open mind and convince myself what I hear so often that "age is just a number".
For the same reasons you have stated yourself, it didn't work for me. And I did try with several different men.
5-7 years younger is my limit now. As for older, I relate well to men my age and older.
For the same reasons you have stated yourself, it didn't work for me. And I did try with several different men.
5-7 years younger is my limit now. As for older, I relate well to men my age and older.
Good post
Am sure there is "hope" for us older guys.
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truheart1941: hi there....so your a 50 year old virgin.....nice to meet you......by the way....my name is howard....howard hughes........
LIAR !
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galrads: I really like to date women about thirty-years younger than myself. They seem to appreciate and enjoy doing more things, like: the laundry, dishes, dusting, vacuuming, mowing the lawn, trimming trees, sealing the asphalt driveway, washing windows, cleaning the SUV, getting the mail and newspaper, taking out the trash etc. ...
Gee, GALRADS, you are not serious ! Are you seeking a partner or a maid ???????? Wouldn't a 30 year old woman be closer in age to your daughter if you have one ????????????????
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equiya: LIAR !
May the Lord have mercy on his soul
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aries1234: May the Lord have mercy on his soul
AAAMMEEEEEN ! Thank you.
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BerrySmoothie: I've never dated or been involved with men younger than myself.
It has never been a preference of mine.
...but I wanted to experience time with a man much younger than myself.
It didn't work for me. He was very friendly but worlds apart in terms of how we each see the world. I've had children. He hasn't. He seemed quite self-centred and talked endlessly about himself. He was quite the gentleman, very polite but I think for him it was about being with an "older woman".
My question is: is there a line for you?....how young/older would you realistically venture in finding a suitable partner.
This isn't about judging others who have found happiness with sizable age differences. Just want to know people's thoughts on this.
I thought I was quite "hip"...."young at heart"....but my perspective of the world is much different to a man who is considerably younger than myself.
Your thoughts/experiences.....
It has never been a preference of mine.
...but I wanted to experience time with a man much younger than myself.
It didn't work for me. He was very friendly but worlds apart in terms of how we each see the world. I've had children. He hasn't. He seemed quite self-centred and talked endlessly about himself. He was quite the gentleman, very polite but I think for him it was about being with an "older woman".
My question is: is there a line for you?....how young/older would you realistically venture in finding a suitable partner.
This isn't about judging others who have found happiness with sizable age differences. Just want to know people's thoughts on this.
I thought I was quite "hip"...."young at heart"....but my perspective of the world is much different to a man who is considerably younger than myself.
Your thoughts/experiences.....
Yeah, no I don't like guys younger than myself. Even four or five years younger is too young for me. Nor do I like them much older than me either.
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Deedee123x: I have dated both ends of the age spectrum and sometimes I expect found that the older men can be quite childish and less evolved as the youn ger men I've dated.
I don't think it's ever a case of age and which is better anymore I think it's a case of how a person was raised how they are themselves in life at the time u meet them and if ur lucky enough to be at the same stage of life at the same time then great.....there are some you ger men who act like they are much older also. ...it's a matter of luck and chemistry and personalities than age anymore....jmo
I don't think it's ever a case of age and which is better anymore I think it's a case of how a person was raised how they are themselves in life at the time u meet them and if ur lucky enough to be at the same stage of life at the same time then great.....there are some you ger men who act like they are much older also. ...it's a matter of luck and chemistry and personalities than age anymore....jmo
Yes, well we all know that chronoligical age and emotional maturity don't always align....
I hear what you are saying.....and each to their own.
For me, I just feel more comfortable with men around my own age.....has always been the way.
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crazyblondeone: Yeah, no I don't like guys younger than myself. Even four or five years younger is too young for me. Nor do I like them much older than me either.
Have to agree. I feel the same way.
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I'm not so sure about the old birds, I'm not into bingo or knitting so we wouldnt have much to talk about.
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Agree....but I have one question for you: what constitutes a "romantic" date with someone much younger?
Is it a pleasant meal, followed by a bonk, followed by a "don't call me, I'll call you" date?
Or do we dispense with the meal perhaps?