Should I date this guy or not? (204)
Lanna move on your attractive and shouldn't have any trouble finding an honest guy .
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lifeisadream: You are right but there is a motive there to look for a "potencial significant one".
Would I be interested in anyone who is too busy even to write a text message?No, way.
Would I be interested in anyone who is too busy even to write a text message?No, way.
You are giving too much credit to the virtual word. Someone may be spot on, in the virtual word and they may do as you think to the most minutest detail but they may be like the wizard of OZ...a little old man behind the scenes pulling levers.
It will be hit or miss at the out set, until you join closer. And you cant shake hands with a clinched fist.
Peace starts with a smile.
You need to take your gloves off and communicate (in all its glorious forms) in person.
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lifeisadream: It is very easy Lannna, follow your instincts and tell all of us to get a life.
I wrote this thread because I respect your opinions guys. You have been through way more than me. I come here on forum time to time, I already know that starting from Feb 11, I wouldnt be able to come here for 3 weeks.
And when you hear from others, who does not have any intention to hurt you or take advantage of you, just to help. At least that brings me more back on earth - blowing out all those "romantic" illusions from my head.
And I know that all of you have your lives, and truly appreciate your time spending to help me
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peachmelba: Up to Leanne to find that one out,
Just a guess he is .Anyway what man says he too tired after work at 5 pm if they really interested to meet up with her,yes they usually busey texting especallaly if they want a date and they wouldn't worry how tired they are.
Just a guess he is .Anyway what man says he too tired after work at 5 pm if they really interested to meet up with her,yes they usually busey texting especallaly if they want a date and they wouldn't worry how tired they are.
There could be a million reasons. I'm terrible with texting, I'm the first to admit it
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He has the typical behaviour of a married man... I prefer to block him now instead of going for a date. I have been there in the past and I was totally blind and deaf, I didnt hear my friends advices and those guys hurt me alot, even when I told myself not to fall in love with those guys, i did. That guy doesn't deserve any woman. If he cheats on his wife, do you expect he will respect you? Come one, stop contacting him and block him.
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Harryonline: You are giving too much credit to the virtual word. Someone may be spot on, in the virtual word and they may do as you think to the most minutest detail but they may be like the wizard of OZ...a little old man behind the scenes pulling levers.
It will be hit or miss at the out set, until you join closer. And you cant shake hands with a clinched fist.
Peace starts with a smile.
You need to take your gloves off and communicate (in all its glorious forms) in person.
It will be hit or miss at the out set, until you join closer. And you cant shake hands with a clinched fist.
Peace starts with a smile.
You need to take your gloves off and communicate (in all its glorious forms) in person.
That is exactly the point: to communicate virtually or in real world and this guy is not.
My gloves?
I do use different types and some are really nice.
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Well I would say Leanne go on your instincts,
You said you saw a wedding ring on his finger ,,maybe he will reveal to you what you would like to ask him when you meet him,
I'm sure a mature woman of your age and experience will read between the lines I'd say you well abe to choose and decide for yourself.
Lots luck with it.
You said you saw a wedding ring on his finger ,,maybe he will reveal to you what you would like to ask him when you meet him,
I'm sure a mature woman of your age and experience will read between the lines I'd say you well abe to choose and decide for yourself.
Lots luck with it.
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peachmelba: Well I would say Leanne go on your instincts,
You said you saw a wedding ring on his finger ,,maybe he will reveal to you what you would like to ask him when you meet him,
I'm sure a mature woman of your age and experience will read between the lines I'd say you well abe to choose and decide for yourself.
Lots luck with it.
You said you saw a wedding ring on his finger ,,maybe he will reveal to you what you would like to ask him when you meet him,
I'm sure a mature woman of your age and experience will read between the lines I'd say you well abe to choose and decide for yourself.
Lots luck with it.
Thank you so much
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The way I see it, Lanna, most men aren't as intuitive (or honed) as they claimed. If that was the case, they wouldn't be who they say they are. Or "claimed" to be. 
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Lannna23: Thank you so much
Your very welcome lanna.
You know sometimes I think I was more wiser when I was in my twenties than I am now,
Just mind yourself.
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azucena2013: He has the typical behaviour of a married man... I prefer to block him now instead of going for a date. I have been there in the past and I was totally blind and deaf, I didnt hear my friends advices and those guys hurt me alot, even when I told myself not to fall in love with those guys, i did. That guy doesn't deserve any woman. If he cheats on his wife, do you expect he will respect you? Come one, stop contacting him and block him.
i know that. I have been cheated on by my ex. I have swore to God that I am never going to be the one causing other woman to cry and suffer because of me. If that is different.......I wouldnt care at all. I would go out, have a dinner, laugh, chat and went back to work in school, in next 3 months I amnot going to have enough time for myself because of oblligation, I am not sure that I will have time for any man during that period
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Lannna23: i know that. I have been cheated on by my ex. I have swore to God that I am never going to be the one causing other woman to cry and suffer because of me. If that is different.......I wouldnt care at all. I would go out, have a dinner, laugh, chat and went back to work in school, in next 3 months I amnot going to have enough time for myself because of oblligation, I am not sure that I will have time for any man during that period
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lifeisadream: That is exactly the point: to communicate virtually or in real world and this guy is not.
My gloves?
I do use different types and some are really nice.
My gloves?
I do use different types and some are really nice.
Are they boxing gloves ?
And going back to the topic...he should strike while the iron is hot ?
You know he may text...but not get a reply, and then he is stuck in limbo!
You know if things are overly nit picked this much, that is something (like a bullet in the head) I am not looking for and may well stop text communication altogether.
There is just too much paranoia going on. It would lessen if it was like the good out days where you just pick up the phone and called. Whats all this texting about ? Just use it to send an venue and the time for the date, once its been fixed. In my opinion, its better to talk without a keyboard.
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jono7: thinkin' a couple things here...
and i mean well...
i used to believe that any man that really cared for a woman MADE the time to see her, call her, etal... but i know a man now, that is truly busy with his companies, and making the time he wants to spend with his girl is problematic with his travel and work, and isn't always possible. (and yes..it's a problem for both of them) yet i know he loves her. so let's put spin stories aside, as you are only guessing at best..
you haven't met yet....
and here we all are spinning stories for you...so you can get that spin really worked up... (grin)
what would happen if you dropped all the expectations and all the stories...and just met him and see how you feel then?
trust has to start somewhere...and deepens with experience, one step at a time, one experience at a time. and it means taking a risk...(smiling). you could take that risk, then make your decisions...or you could stay on spin...
change your perception, change your reality
your choice...
and i mean well...
i used to believe that any man that really cared for a woman MADE the time to see her, call her, etal... but i know a man now, that is truly busy with his companies, and making the time he wants to spend with his girl is problematic with his travel and work, and isn't always possible. (and yes..it's a problem for both of them) yet i know he loves her. so let's put spin stories aside, as you are only guessing at best..
you haven't met yet....
and here we all are spinning stories for you...so you can get that spin really worked up... (grin)
what would happen if you dropped all the expectations and all the stories...and just met him and see how you feel then?
trust has to start somewhere...and deepens with experience, one step at a time, one experience at a time. and it means taking a risk...(smiling). you could take that risk, then make your decisions...or you could stay on spin...
change your perception, change your reality
your choice...
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sometimes we esp women have a tendency to over think everything,,you arent marrying him this is only a date to see how you both feel in person with each other,,he may have a ring on his finger when you meet him ..ask him about it,,or he may be married and come clean but wanted to try his luck,,or he is completely wonderful and single and you have nothing to loose.be sensible about it ,be friends meeting and go from there..
I hope he isnt reading this and is genuine because if this was me i woundnt meet you now..would just seem to much hassle..
I hope he isnt reading this and is genuine because if this was me i woundnt meet you now..would just seem to much hassle..
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Lannna23: Finally, after few months spent here, and keeping all conversations only through CS e-mails, I've never text to someone, or even exchanged personal e-mail. I've decided that is time to change something and to go step forward - to upgrade conversation to text messages (cell phone) or skype.
And thinking about that, this guy showed up: He is real, polite, nice, good looking, taller than me - in one word he has all what I was looking for.
So we start texting each other. At the beginning I havent pay attention that his text messages are mostly written during his working hours, after few days I have noticed that - I barely get any messages after 5PM I've asked him. Explanation was: "I have to go in bad early and stand up early because of business that he runs in Europe".....I take that.
Then, we decided to meet, he lives not that far away from me. We should meet tomorrow - on Monday. I thought he picked Monday because he is busy with work during the weekend, but yesterday he was off whole day, and he is off today too. Why someone will meet during the week day if you have weekend off? - The only reason that crossed my mind is: he is married.
So, yesterday I sent him some message around non, and got respond on that message on late evening, I was super disappointed.
During the working hours i understand that you cannot text all day long, but during the time when you are off?? - he could tell me: I am busy talk to you later" - if you care about person you would say that right? You wouldnt let her wit on you for 7 hours (and thankful to iPhone you can tell if the message has been read or not - it has a small marks below saying: "delivered" and than latter on "read"). Also he said he is in car driving, when I said that I would like to call him, he said: I have to go to sleep. After saying that - I was like........Really??? he turned me down!
should I even meet him tomorrow when he comes in Vegas?
It would be better for me if I sicked with a CS e-mails.....or it is me panicking, or all this is reality but I cannot take it yet since it is very first experience and cannot believe that I am this naive
And thinking about that, this guy showed up: He is real, polite, nice, good looking, taller than me - in one word he has all what I was looking for.
So we start texting each other. At the beginning I havent pay attention that his text messages are mostly written during his working hours, after few days I have noticed that - I barely get any messages after 5PM I've asked him. Explanation was: "I have to go in bad early and stand up early because of business that he runs in Europe".....I take that.
Then, we decided to meet, he lives not that far away from me. We should meet tomorrow - on Monday. I thought he picked Monday because he is busy with work during the weekend, but yesterday he was off whole day, and he is off today too. Why someone will meet during the week day if you have weekend off? - The only reason that crossed my mind is: he is married.
So, yesterday I sent him some message around non, and got respond on that message on late evening, I was super disappointed.
During the working hours i understand that you cannot text all day long, but during the time when you are off?? - he could tell me: I am busy talk to you later" - if you care about person you would say that right? You wouldnt let her wit on you for 7 hours (and thankful to iPhone you can tell if the message has been read or not - it has a small marks below saying: "delivered" and than latter on "read"). Also he said he is in car driving, when I said that I would like to call him, he said: I have to go to sleep. After saying that - I was like........Really??? he turned me down!
should I even meet him tomorrow when he comes in Vegas?
It would be better for me if I sicked with a CS e-mails.....or it is me panicking, or all this is reality but I cannot take it yet since it is very first experience and cannot believe that I am this naive
So many things that were wrong in that about him, I don't know where to start.
I don't buy the business in Europe excuse at all. No company ever has someone outside it's own timezone running it. They'll have localised managers to deal with the day to day running, and have the owner oversee during their normal waking time, or they'll make the trip over once or twice a month and have meetings to discuss the coming weeks plans.
He may have arranged to meet on a Monday because he had that day free? Maybe he had something planned for you both to do?
Not responding on his day off isn't that bad a deal. He may have been out doing something all day and not had a signal or even taken his phone. I often head out for a day biking and won't take my phone, as I don't want to risk it getting damaged.
But, to cut it short. If he was serious about you, he'd have made time.
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Hmmmm!
"All those ugly little things...." seems to me you have him figured out already! I was surprised that the first few ladies said to meet him. Then the ladies that responded later said not to. I go with the latter ladies who have him figured out, me thinks!
"All those ugly little things...." seems to me you have him figured out already! I was surprised that the first few ladies said to meet him. Then the ladies that responded later said not to. I go with the latter ladies who have him figured out, me thinks!
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I say go with your intuitions, follow your instincts and don't over think this....
From reading this thread your initial instincts brought up so many red flags that doubt has taken over, and probably rightly so....
Most women here have also said not to date him for similar reasons....
Most men said to date him with the general idea of, "nothing ventured nothing gained"....
I think the women here are more aligned to how you have expressed your feelings...
On a side note...yours is a perfect example of why I never text a woman until we've met...so many intrusions into our lives based on did he text me or not and since he i got an icon that it was delivered blah, blah, blah....I call the Text Drama machine....maybe we should just toss the cell phones and learn to meet people and talk face to face...I know, ancient outdated concept
From reading this thread your initial instincts brought up so many red flags that doubt has taken over, and probably rightly so....
Most women here have also said not to date him for similar reasons....
Most men said to date him with the general idea of, "nothing ventured nothing gained"....
I think the women here are more aligned to how you have expressed your feelings...
On a side note...yours is a perfect example of why I never text a woman until we've met...so many intrusions into our lives based on did he text me or not and since he i got an icon that it was delivered blah, blah, blah....I call the Text Drama machine....maybe we should just toss the cell phones and learn to meet people and talk face to face...I know, ancient outdated concept
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......to be honest none of you have helped this girl.......now she is all confused.........time for.....
BANANA MAN.......L..come to britain.....find good Enlish boy.....stay single......but *uck like a rabbit.....
you know i,m right.....dont you.....
BANANA MAN.......L..come to britain.....find good Enlish boy.....stay single......but *uck like a rabbit..... you know i,m right.....dont you..... ------ This thread is Archived ------
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And thinking about that, this guy showed up: He is real, polite, nice, good looking, taller than me - in one word he has all what I was looking for.
So we start texting each other. At the beginning I havent pay attention that his text messages are mostly written during his working hours, after few days I have noticed that - I barely get any messages after 5PM I've asked him. Explanation was: "I have to go in bad early and stand up early because of business that he runs in Europe".....I take that.
Then, we decided to meet, he lives not that far away from me. We should meet tomorrow - on Monday. I thought he picked Monday because he is busy with work during the weekend, but yesterday he was off whole day, and he is off today too. Why someone will meet during the week day if you have weekend off? - The only reason that crossed my mind is: he is married.
So, yesterday I sent him some message around non, and got respond on that message on late evening, I was super disappointed.
During the working hours i understand that you cannot text all day long, but during the time when you are off?? - he could tell me: I am busy talk to you later" - if you care about person you would say that right? You wouldnt let her wit on you for 7 hours (and thankful to iPhone you can tell if the message has been read or not - it has a small marks below saying: "delivered" and than latter on "read"). Also he said he is in car driving, when I said that I would like to call him, he said: I have to go to sleep. After saying that - I was like........Really??? he turned me down!
should I even meet him tomorrow when he comes in Vegas?
It would be better for me if I sicked with a CS e-mails.....or it is me panicking, or all this is reality but I cannot take it yet since it is very first experience and cannot believe that I am this naive
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