So neither alcohol nor bad personality traits were there at tge beginning?
Alcohol was, but we were 20 at the time, and most of our peers were in a party atmosphere at the time. At some point the party should end, but for some they don't stop.
pedalguy59: Alcohol was, but we were 20 at the time, and most of our peers were in a party atmosphere at the time. At some point the party should end, but for some they don't stop.
mollybaby: Many people have had painful , acrimonious, breakups.
The other person , at the end, bore no resemble to the person they had started dating, and fell in love with.
But didn't they, really?
Were the telltale signs there even then? But they were overlooked or ignored?
Was the writing on the wall all the time, but got covered over in a coat of glossy paint?
yep its a interesting topic and I agree I have fallen in there saying she will change it will be okay I will get used to then it gets kindsa part of you but you don't really be comfortable with and truth be from the start it was never going to happen but as you said before you get wiser how are you are you okay often wonder when I see you on here hope all is improved
johnjjm: yep its a interesting topic and I agree I have fallen in there saying she will change it will be okay I will get used to then it gets kindsa part of you but you don't really be comfortable with and truth be from the start it was never going to happen but as you said before you get wiser how are you are you okay often wonder when I see you on here hope all is improved
Hi JJ
Well said.
All good here, apart from a stupid chest infection which has kept me off work ( and on CS!) for the last 2 days
mollybaby: Many people have had painful , acrimonious, breakups.
The other person , at the end, bore no resemble to the person they had started dating, and fell in love with.
But didn't they, really?
Were the telltale signs there even then? But they were overlooked or ignored?
Was the writing on the wall all the time, but got covered over in a coat of glossy paint?
i think that in the early stages of a relationship from dating to falling in love people are usually so blissfully happy that they only see the good points of the other person.....there are lots of romantic nights, weekends away etc so it is easy to always be in good form and we think that things are always going to be a bed of roses....it is only when, if the relationship develops further, real life takes over with, perhaps, mortgages, children, all sorts of responsibilities that the gloss can go off things a bit.....unfortunately when things go sour it is very often in our nature to think that it is the other person's fault and not anything to do with ourselves....jmo...
OgGoDeo: i think that in the early stages of a relationship from dating to falling in love people are usually so blissfully happy that they only see the good points of the other person.....there are lots of romantic nights, weekends away etc so it is easy to always be in good form and we think that things are always going to be a bed of roses....it is only when, if the relationship develops further, real life takes over with, perhaps, mortgages, children, all sorts of responsibilities that the gloss can go off things a bit.....unfortunately when things go sour it is very often in our nature to think that it is the other person's fault and not anything to do with ourselves....jmo...
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The other person , at the end, bore no resemble to the person they had started dating, and fell in love with.
But didn't they, really?
Were the telltale signs there even then? But they were overlooked or ignored?
Was the writing on the wall all the time, but got covered over in a coat of glossy paint?