Mene Mene Tekel Upharsin AKA Writing On The Wall ( Archived) (41)

Thanks SA

Love is blind.

Do you think so?

I think people know when they have a piece of work on their hands or someone who will cause problems but they choose to ignore those issues (ex: trade fidelity for money/security etc).

On the flipside, things happen in life that change people. Death of a child, loss of job, changes in the political climate, chronic illness, etc etc. Those things can affect a person to the point where it changes a person's personality and affects a relationship. So when do you call it quits? Is it worth calling it quits if your spouse becomes an alcoholic after 35 years of marriage? when you're both invested in a house, social security etc. Tough question.

Hi Nidi, good answer.

Asks even more questions though.

Are there ever simple solutions when you're in a situation? It always looks easier from the outside.

I don't know about other people, but I think everybody changes over time. In a partnership, if one changes at a different rate or in a different direction than the other, you've got a problem. Add that we have it easier now to break-up a relationship than even 50 years ago when the dirt was shoved under the rug for the sake of "keeping up appearances".

I was just thinking about a person I know in real life. He was married to a woman who brought a son into the marriage. Then war broke out. A tank rolled through town and shot and her son was hit by the shell right in front of her eyes. She completely lost it (understandably). Then she became ultra-religious because she wanted to be sure to see her son in heaven and followed the religious proscripts to the t. She also started to ignore her husband in the process. He divorced her eventually even though I'm sure that wasn't easy. I know this is an extreme case, but what do you do when people suddenly turn ultra-religious (for lesser reasons)?